Psychological erectile dysfunction

[WankstaBoi]

Got a strange set of circumstances on my hands. I know none of you guys can do much to help and a doctor would be the best peroson to talk to, but I'm living overseas and haven't found and English speaking doctor.

I love bating and cam all the time. My dick works fine when I'm doing that stuff but if I stop jacking for too long I get soft pretty fast. I get super hard morning wood and stuff too, so I know my dick physically works

When I was younger I had some bad experiences, let's just say I was molested repetedly and since then, sex has always been a weird subject to me. For a long time didn't want it and in my teenage years, my friends getting laid would cause a weird physical reaction. I'd get hot and feel dizzy, kinda nausious and nervous. I could never understand why, Anyway much later...

Few days ago I was about to get laid. Kissing and head and stuff went fine, it took a little while but eventually I got hard. Again, if my dick wasn't being touched it would start to get soft. The dude wanted to fuck, which very very very rarely happens to me (I don't often meet people and when I do I usually want to meet a fellow bator, not having sex.) When we stopped to put the rubber on I got soft right away. We gave up after a while of trying to get it back again. I'm at the point now where I want to have sex. I wanted to fuck this guy. And I couldn't. I didn't even feel nervous, it was like my brain and dick were two seperate things that didn't communicate. It's happened in the past a few times and I but it down to nervousness, but this time around there was no nervousness in my mind. I wanted to do it.



Like I said I can't see a doctor, and I'd rather solve it without drugs. I'm gonna try a cock ring next time, but I really want to be able to do it normally like everyone else...

Anyone got any advice or tricks and tips?

 

[jumbo747jet]

You are absolutely right about that it is a medical professional you should go to for this. You have already worked it out for yourself that the problem isn't really physical, so not between your legs, rather psychological and between your ears.
Performance anxiety is actually very common and can have many different reasons.
Having been molested is certainly a reason for why someone would get anxiety issues. It also tends to become a pattern in that you will unconsciously start to expect your erection to subside which in turn becomes a vicious circle. Medical professionals can help you break that pattern.

As you didn't say where "overseas" you are, I will assume you're not in the middle of nowhere and I'd be very surprised if you are not able to find a doctor who speaks English. Don't procrastinate, as it could turn out that your problem can be relatively easily fixed.