Years before I ever heard of PUA, some dude tried to use it on me. He'd vacillate between these moments of zen-like chill that I find extremely attractive and arousing, and these insane moments of what I could only think of at the time as bizarre fronting. If he wasn't as cute as he was, I would have given up on him much sooner. His mouth was so sexy, and I really wanted to know what it would feel like against mine, and all over my body. That's why I approached him to find out more about him as a man. And even though I came on to him, lured him into conversation, and was willing to fuck him that very same day should he prove to be the right kind of man, our association lasted a few months and he never did get to lay with me.
Years later, when I discovered PUA, and read a lot about it from different books and websites, I recognized that he was using a type of manipulation that is recommended for women who are perceived as somewhere between 6 and 8 on whatever attractiveness scale. Every time he tried, it just seemed weird and false. It's the sole reason I didn't pull his dick out and suck it on the occasion that I went to meet with him with precisely that agenda. I'd seen a picture and it was gorgeous. He was so funny and sweet when he wasn't manipulative. Make me laugh and you're almost inside me. Do something I think is manipulative, and I'll balk.
This experience makes me automatically think that PUA nonsense only works on women who are not perceptive, and who have low self esteem. That particular technique was meant to make me feel prettier. The problem is I'm narcissistic, my ego barely fits in my skull, and I'm really my own biggest fan. Nobody could ever love me more than I do. My self esteem is sky high. I am also realistic about my appearance. I don't look like a magazine cover, and I've never caused traffic accidents like my bestie has, but I am very beautiful in a more common way.
I just think it's insulting to use on a woman who is playing with a full deck, and abusive to use on a woman who is less fleshed out emotionally and mentally. The latter is the kind of woman I think it works on. I think this because so many who use PUA make these crazy generalizations about women that have no application to my existence. I don't like women who are not similar to me. I want to like them, but it just doesn't work out, and the feeling is usually mutual. As a result, I don't even know any women who are like what these PUA guys claim women are like.
Well, scratch that. My very closest friend grew up as Daddy's spoiled princess, so now she's a gold digger. She's very hardworking, but if a dude can't pay for everything he's not the one for her. She's breathtakingly beautiful, has a gorgeous body, and she's friendly, warm, compassionate, and charitable. And a doctor! She is also an excellent cook and keeps a nice home. But it takes a whole lot of money to hold onto her.
She has fairly low self esteem from never fully recovering from an abusive partner in the past. We both grew up with violent, abusive mothers. It sometimes takes us a minute to spot the signs. I've always been out before the abuse can begin. She stays until she's done being knocked around, or done being afraid that she's going to get knocked around. And even so, PUA methods do not typically work on her. Want to keep her attention? She has hundreds of thousands of dollars of student debt left. Pay some of that down.
She married some guy I never trusted fully and fear that he will murder her some day. He has isolated her from everyone else who loves her. He has alienated her beloved father. And he can get away with anything he wants to do to her because he is a cop. His jealousy is outrageous! When he asked for her father's blessing, her father said no. So did I when I was asked. They didn't get married. Then, he put tens of thousands down on her student loans. They were married a week later, and I reluctantly congratulated them and welcomed him as a brother. Her father congratulated them, and then cut her off financially. When he went to visit a year later to meet his grandsons, the husband was cruel to him. He's never allowed to visit again. She was talking to me about divorce, but it seems she has changed her mind. She found a way to maintain a loving relationship with her father despite her evil husband.
With her, only money talks. PUA bullshit would either hurt her feelings or make her laugh at the clown in front of her. So you really have to wonder about these poor souls who fall for this nonsense, and what kind of quality you can expect from them.