Public displays of affection

[Dr. Dilznick]

Are you one of those people who tongue kisses your S.O. in public and walks around with your hand in your girlfriend's/boyfriend's back pocket?

I'm not really a fan of PDA. My g/f may initiate that shit with me, and I may go along if there aren't that many people around. I actually made out in public for the first time a few days ago. We were in the park, and only a few joggers were around us. I couldn't really get into it like I wanted to because I knew that at least one person was watching.

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Doc I totally agree w/you on this one...I am not a fan of PDA either...A little smack on the lips is okay but full on making out is not cool...I use to have a girlfriend that was a real fan of full on making out in public...It just made me uncomfortable and I really don't like to see others in public doing it either...But at home - we can go at it like animals...

 

[txquis]

I'm not a fan of PDA.
As a gay man, i dont feel entirely comfortable doing that in public, depending on where I am.
I'll hold hands under the table at a restaurant or in the darkened movie theater.

But, hugs and kisses are a more private matter for me, i guess.
I would love to be free enough and feel safe enough to walk along hand in hand, though.

 

[zzorus]

Originally posted by txquis@Mar 17 2005, 05:48 AM

I would love to be free enough and feel safe enough to walk along hand in hand, though.

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Yes, I feel like this at times too.

 

[Dr Rock]

Originally posted by Dr. Dilznick+Mar 16 2005, 05:51 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Dr. Dilznick &#064; Mar 16 2005, 05:51 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'>Are you one of those people who tongue kisses your S.O. in public and walks around with your hand in your girlfriend&#39;s/boyfriend&#39;s back pocket?

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no. I&#39;m quite aware that nobody wants to watch me swapping spit in public. although if I&#39;m drunk enough then I&#39;ll usually respond, should the person I&#39;m with initiate it, even then I still draw the line after about 10 seconds

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I would love to be free enough and feel safe enough to walk along hand in hand, though.

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ahh, the joys of being big and mean-looking. if I choose to hold hands with a guy in public, I know nobody&#39;s gonna have the nerve to front me about it

 

[Knight]

I do the PDA thang with my gf, basically because we only get to be together in public (that will change this Saturday) I don&#39;t have a problem with it and don&#39;t know why anyone else would. Unless they were jealous, either because we&#39;re two hotties or cos they themselves can&#39;t kiss etc in public for whatever reason. We also touch each other as discretely as possible a lot, thats fun in stores and stuff hehe.

For gay guys though I see how it can be a problem. I mean I&#39;m not comfortable with it myself but I don&#39;t give anyone dirty looks or anything, like I get dirty looks with my gf...some people are just really prude and you would think they didnt even have any genitals they&#39;re so unsexual (my new word I just created). Usually older people, I guess its a generational thing.

I like the PDA and so does my gf, lets us know how much we turn each other on all the time hehe.

 

[lapdog2001]

Hugs, or kisses, arms around each other&#39;s waists, and holding hands in public is perfectly fine with me. Tonsil hockey and groping belongs in private (or at least in an out of the way place&#33

I have kissed girlfriends while slow dancing, but that was usually at a house party and after we&#39;ve both had something to drink.

As others have mentioned, even the more innocent forms of PDA are more of an issue for same-sex couples. I know how you feel since I once visited Provincetown with a girlfriend, and hetero couples were in the vast minority&#33; :lol: You will see every combination under the sun there&#33;

LapDog

 

[Royal_T]

I wouldnt be surprised if there is a cultural component to people&#39;s answers. From my perspective, North Americans tend to be a bit more prudish about such things (at least in public)

 

[13788]

hung_big: I have nothing against PDA...to a certain point.

Sure a quick kiss, even a fast french-kiss is good, but like someone said, tonsel hockey I don&#39;t like to do. I find that when it goes that far it becomes sexual, rather than sensual.

Also I love to hold hands, walk arm in arm, hold them by the waste and just stay attached to them in public. I think it&#39;s very loving more than anything.

 

[yaoifun]

I love PDA I think it&#39;s cute&#33; As long as your not like, tearing eachothers clothes off in the middle of the mall, I really have nothing against it

 

[hungcuriousnc]

Txquis hit that one right on the dot&#33; I feel the exact same way... and even in some, rare, certain environmental settings, I wouldn&#39;t mind PDA in public. But you know, it&#39;s not only me, but who I date has a part in this also... Maybe he wouldn&#39;t want to show PDA himself... so then you have a double issue. But I&#39;d love to get to that point too and be completely comfortable with PDA.

 

[naughty]

HI,

I dont mind moderate degrees of PDA, but when it becomes a contact sport I feel like it has become TMI&#33; For some reason, it reminds me of a dog peeing on a tree, marking one&#39;s turf .In all actuality, most folks dont care to see it.But I did find the idea of kissing during a slow dance rather arousing. Once again there you go Lapdog, you sexy beast&#33;

naughty

 

[jeepwranglerboi]

I have never been afraid to show public displays of affection. Sure, I&#39;ve gotten looks for walking around with our arms around one another or holding hands or sweet kisses but I couldn&#39;t care less. Not that I&#39;ve had anyone to do that with for quite some time. I&#39;ve never been one of those guys that thinks it is okay for a guy and a girl to do it but it isn&#39;t all right for two guys or two girls. I&#39;m not into the heavy petting stuff in public really. I consider that to be a more private thing.

 

[txquis]

I love your attitude, Jeep,
and I felt that way too when i lived in NYC....dont you think where you are helps you feel that way?
I couldnt exchange a sweet public kiss with my boyfriend in Plano, Tx.

 

[Altairion]

Originally posted by txquis@Mar 17 2005, 11:51 AM
I love your attitude, Jeep,
and I felt that way too when i lived in NYC....dont you think where you are helps you feel that way?
I couldnt exchange a sweet public kiss with my boyfriend in Plano, Tx.

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Location really does have an affect. Out here in Nebraska, I&#39;m in the most liberal place possible, but I don&#39;t think I&#39;ve ever noticed anything out there and public between two guys or two girls.

 

[B_DoubleMeatWhopper]

If I&#39;m somewhere where the sight of two men holding hands is not viewed as unseemly, I have been known to do so with a date. Flipping him over and doing him doggy in the middle of WalMart? Absolutely not.

 

[jeepwranglerboi]

Originally posted by Altairion+Mar 17 2005, 05:58 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Altairion &#064; Mar 17 2005, 05:58 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-txquis@Mar 17 2005, 11:51 AM
I love your attitude, Jeep,
and I felt that way too when i lived in NYC....dont you think where you are helps you feel that way?
I couldnt exchange a sweet public kiss with my boyfriend in Plano, Tx.

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Location really does have an affect. Out here in Nebraska, I&#39;m in the most liberal place possible, but I don&#39;t think I&#39;ve ever noticed anything out there and public between two guys or two girls.

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I refuse to let location affect me. If I want to kiss my man then I am gonna kiss him. Having been on tour I have been all over this country and I have never let it stop me before. Once again, I think that perhaps by someone seeing me hold hands with my boyfriend and exchanging little kisses that they will perhaps see that it is indeed a loving relationship and not all about sex. Maybe they will see that there is no different from us as a couple then their own relationship. Jeff, honey if you wanna kiss your man in Plano, TX then kiss him.
*humming &#39;I Am What I Am&#39; from La Cage Aux Folles.* :wub:

 

[jeepwranglerboi]

Originally posted by DoubleMeatWhopper@Mar 17 2005, 09:54 PM
If I&#39;m somewhere where the sight of two men holding hands is not viewed as unseemly, I have been known to do so with a date. Flipping him over and doing him doggy in the middle of WalMart? Absolutely not.

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How about Target? als:

 

[jonb]

Originally posted by DoubleMeatWhopper@Mar 17 2005, 01:54 PM
If I&#39;m somewhere where the sight of two men holding hands is not viewed as unseemly, I have been known to do so with a date. Flipping him over and doing him doggy in the middle of WalMart? Absolutely not.

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Well, luckily, I don&#39;t go to Wal*Mart.

Seriously, my main rule about PDAs is don&#39;t get beyond first base. Holding hands is cool, kissing is cool, but once you start having wardrobe malfunctions, not cool. (Say, what is the gay second base anyway?)

 

[Altairion]

Originally posted by jeepwranglerboi+Mar 17 2005, 05:18 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(jeepwranglerboi &#064; Mar 17 2005, 05:18 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'>

Originally posted by Altairion@Mar 17 2005, 05:58 PM
<!--QuoteBegin-txquis

@Mar 17 2005, 11:51 AM
I love your attitude, Jeep,
and I felt that way too when i lived in NYC....dont you think where you are helps you feel that way?
I couldnt exchange a sweet public kiss with my boyfriend in Plano, Tx.

[post=291682]Quoted post[/post]​

Location really does have an affect. Out here in Nebraska, I&#39;m in the most liberal place possible, but I don&#39;t think I&#39;ve ever noticed anything out there and public between two guys or two girls.

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I refuse to let location affect me. If I want to kiss my man then I am gonna kiss him. Having been on tour I have been all over this country and I have never let it stop me before. Once again, I think that perhaps by someone seeing me hold hands with my boyfriend and exchanging little kisses that they will perhaps see that it is indeed a loving relationship and not all about sex. Maybe they will see that there is no different from us as a couple then their own relationship. Jeff, honey if you wanna kiss your man in Plano, TX then kiss him.
*humming &#39;I Am What I Am&#39; from La Cage Aux Folles.* :wub:

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It&#39;s good to hear that you don&#39;t let others hold you back JWB. To me, it doesn&#39;t even seem close to being fair to allow male-female couples to show affection and then be so close-minded when other couples choose to do their thing. If you ever stop by Nebraska with a friend, let me know. I&#39;d just love to see the reaction of onlookers (my new digital camera is just begging to be used)