public displays of affection

[doug2003]

1) What is the strongest display of public affection you have ever witnessed, and how did you react to it?

2) At what point do you think PDA becomes improper?

I feel the first answer (comfortable with descretion) and the 2nd answer (uncomfortable with no restraint) are the same in my books.

1) Bare buttocks going up and down through the rear window of one of those small ford panel vans (i guess they don't call 'em shaggin' wagons for nothing&#33. Oh and broad daylight so you didn't have to cast more than an aside glance to see.

2) A little disturbed. I was young and although I knew the biology of sex at the time was not aware it could look so violent!

 

[dcwrestlefan]

1) What is the strongest display of public affection you have ever witnessed, and how did you react to it?

Guy and girl kissing deeply in a parking lot. He was obviously very aroused by it. Thought it was fine. Grrr. Oh, and I did it outside and bare assed naked next to the Amtrak line in downtown Philadelphia once.

2) At what point do you think PDA becomes improper?

I'm cool with PDA. Better to see people loving each other versus hating each other.

 

[hippyscum]

1. Two of my friends having sex at an outdoor party.

2. For me, public displays of affection become inappropriate when fat drunk girls come up to me and stick their tongue down my throat.

 

[KinkGuy]

This post is OT, but tough shit.



For me?

The ultimate PDA fantasy is being able to walk down the street simply holding hands with my lover.

I fear however, I won't live long enough to experience what is perfectly normal and average for the "chosen."

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by KinkGuy@Sep 19 2005, 12:24 AM
This post is OT, but tough shit.



For me?

The ultimate PDA fantasy is being able to walk down the street simply holding hands with my lover.

I fear however, I won't live long enough to experience what is perfectly normal and average for the "chosen."

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Move to Dayton Ohio.

While I am no fan of pda, I did find it cute (to the point of nearly bringing a tear to my eye) to see such sights when I first moved there last year. It wasn't a voyeuristic desire, but the fact they THEY felt comfortable enough to do it. Other than a few smiles, they drew almost no reaction. While this is not the case in very many places, I'm glad to know that even in shitty states like Ohio, there are a few corners of the place that refuse to be governed by cronies of hatred touting messages long ago useless.

 

[KinkGuy]

Dayton?
Ohio?

It MUST be the absolute end of civilization as "they" know it.

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by KinkGuy@Sep 19 2005, 01:17 AM
Dayton?
Ohio?

It MUST be the absolute end of civilization as "they" know it.

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Ha! I don't know about all of Dayton, but there is an area called the Oregon District that is rife with music cafes, coffee shops, porno shops, bookstores and resale shops- pretty cool for Ohio. It's is very gay friendly as well as alternative friendly in general. I lived very close to there in a neighborhood called South Park, I shit you not. My memories of Dayton are very good ones.

 

[KinkGuy]

Will wonders never cease. Any way to make a living in Dayton?

But IF I moved there, would I even need to vote or would they just automatically take care of that little chore on my behalf?

 

[KinkGuy]

Chimera, what the fuck are you talking about?

Where did I mention religion in this post? By "they" I in no way meant "jews" as you so racially contorted my statement, to fit your narrow, shallow, ignorant white supremacy bias. :wtf:

 

[jonb]

Well, KinkGuy, the Midwest isn't all you might think. There's a reason the NAACP chose Topeka to make their stand against segregation.

As for me, the most extreme I ever saw was public sex. And it goes too far once you reach third, maybe even second base.

I tend to be big on PDA. I think the only people who have a problem with it are those who are either bitter exes, or have never been in love. Not the most romantic people in the world.

 

[madame_zora]

Kissing, backrubbing, general tenderness are nice to see. Extended sessions of tongue rammed down the throat is a turn-off for me. I don't think I'm bitter, just a bit more private about private matters. I really don't care to see exposed genitalia of either sex in public!

It really depends on where, too. I expect drunk people in bars to be less observant of decorum than in the grocery store.

Kink, jobs are horrible to find in Ohio. Even strippers are struggling if that tells you anything. You won't have to be worried about voting though because even if you do, they'll find a way not to count it. I needn't have bothered.

 

[Love-it]

I like holding hands with my wife while walking in the woods or on a sidewalk. We will kiss but she gets embarassed if I put my hand on her breast or butt, even though I am careful to make sure that no one else can see where my hands are.
I once saw a young couple, less than 18 years I am sure, on a sandbar, by a creek in the High Sierra's. She was sitting with her legs out and he was 90 degrees to her with his butt in her lap and she was giving him a hand job. It certainly wasn't public sex, until I happened by.

 

[naughty]

PDA?

I dont know. I think it probably boils down to your personality and upbringing. I dont mind milder forms of PDA, but then there are examples where I wonder what is the real purpose. I have problems watching people feel all over each other in church. I am sure they may feel some great sense of affection at that time, but it find it to be rather distracting from the real purpose of being in church. But then maybe that is just my own personal foible. I prefer to express my physical affection privately.

Naughty k.

 

[prepstudinsc]

I think more than handholding, a hug in public, or a peck on the cheek is too much. It's just how I was raised. I was taught that shows of affection were to be shown in private settings. I agree with Kim that church is NOT the place for PDA, either. I think it's kind of cute when two highschoolers are sitting together and sharing a hymnal or two elderly people who have been married for 50 years hold hands, but don't be groping all over each other during the passing of the peace. That's just obscene.

As for two guys or two women holding hands in public, well...I'm not ready for it yet. I hate to say it, but I would probably stare.

 

[13788]

orionsword57:

Originally posted by naughty@Sep 19 2005, 04:21 AM
.... I prefer to express my physical affection privately.

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I am different than most on this, but I have little problem with public affection in almost any form. The ability to be uninhibited and openly express ones love for someone to me is a wonderful thing. On the other hand, if the display is one that is designed to shock others or to fly in the face of decorum just for that sake alone, I don't like it. It's fairly easy to tell the difference.

 

[DC_DEEP]

{in the voice of Emily Litella} Why in the world would anyone be offended by my personal digital assistant?

Seriously... my lover and I often do hold hands in public, and occasionally a little kiss. I am sure there are times when some who saw us holding hands probably would have said something or (uh huh) gotten physical - except for the fact that I'm neither short nor scrawny. I guess being 6' 4" 210 lbs of (mostly) muscle tempers their tongues.

Regardless of age or gender, I don't enjoy seeing someone playing tonsil hockey or groping tits or ass or crotch in very public places. The operative word in this discussion is "affection," as opposed to "passion." Somehow, being stuck on the subway facing a couple doing tongue exploratories of the other's esophagus is just a turn-off. Likewise if is hand is under her bra (brah?) or if she has her hand inside his zipper.

On the other hand, when a good friend came to visit last year, I took her to see the National Gallery of Art. As we were going in, there was a couple coming out. Something must have gotten them all excited, because both were still a little breathless, red in the face, and the fellow had a VERY obvious, very large boner under his trousers. They appeared to be in their late teens. I would guess he had a very thick 9-incher trying to rip his jeans open. Neither of them seemed to be too embarrassed by his patent state of excitement, there was no attempt to cover it with the pamphlets they carried; on the contrary, he seemed to be quite happy to display it. I was very amused.

 

[naughty]

Originally posted by orionsword57+Sep 19 2005, 01:31 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(orionsword57 &#064; Sep 19 2005, 01:31 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-naughty@Sep 19 2005, 04:21 AM
.... I prefer to express my physical affection privately.

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I am different than most on this, but I have little problem with public affection in almost any form. The ability to be uninhibited and openly express ones love for someone to me is a wonderful thing. On the other hand, if the display is one that is designed to shock others or to fly in the face of decorum just for that sake alone, I don&#39;t like it. It&#39;s fairly easy to tell the difference.

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I think that is what irritates me about gropers in public over a certain age. I think it is like a dog marking its territory. or making a statement. I think it cheapens the reasons behind affectionate gestures in the first place. I personally aspire to have people think I am like one of the bobsey twins in public and buck wild at home&#33;


Naughty

 

[Steve26]

I don&#39;t know about the "strongest" PDA I&#39;ve ever seen, but the "strangest" was on a visit to Disney World when I was on some ride or other with a couple who appeared to be about 12, accompanied by several of their parents. The tweens were feeling each other up big-time, and the parents were either oblivious zombies or didn&#39;t care.

While normal PDAs are fine by me, I count things like public groping or tonsil hockey as a sign of immaturity (or drunkenness).

Steve

 

[viking]

Flosom street fair&#33;&#33;

Talk about PDA

For those of you who don&#39;t know, it&#39;s a leather fetish street fair here in SF.
Public sex is less than discreet.

I actually am not offended by much.
Plus , I&#39;m a voyer. So, go at it if you want to . It won&#39;t bother me.


http://www.folsomstreetfair.com/

 

[13788]

orionsword57:

....I think that is what irritates me about gropers in public over a certain age....
Naughty

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Being definitely "over a certain age", I guess my first reaction was to say "why not me" when talking about affection in public, but then I realized how my idea of public affection is probably more staid than most. As I think of it, public groping doesn&#39;t fall into my idea of public affection at all, so I am perhaps not as liberal about this subject as I thought. I pause to kiss my lady friend while on the street, hold her hand and pat her tush occasionally, but that&#39;s about as far as I go.

Nan Bobbsey was a real hot number, though....