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Not a question, just rambling, maybe purely for self gratification.

I just read -and enjoyed - LaFemme's thread "Fellating the Ego". ***Full disclosure - I worship LaFemme from afar. Genie's out of the bottle. Sorry LaFemme, you're stuck with me.

Penis size fixation. Concave armpits. Thigh gap. Bikini bridge (that's a thing?). Etc etc. I'm afraid Mother Nature stopped the evolution of the Male gender of our race eons ago.

I've never compared the ladies I've been with to each other or anyone else. Not to them and not to my friends. That's crass. Nor have I criticized anyone - that's horrible behaviour. My thinning hair and dad bod (which I've flaunted since adolescence unfortunately) would make me an easy target for retribution.

I'm average in every way yet the women I've been with were into me and I loved them, and they were of all shapes and sizes. Their most attractive qualities? They liked me for me, in spite of my terrible flaws that only I could see apparently. Were they perfect 10's? In my eyes, absolutely.

As I've gotten older I feel I've become more attractive to women (and some men judging from the comments I get here) but I think it's because I've become comfortable being me finally. I'm still a dork; still need to exercise and lose the spare tire; average or just above in the "downstairs" department. The women in my social circle are more mature (age and/or attitude) than in the past. They appreciate the qualities of a good person over body parts.

My significant other hates her body - hates it. I love it, mainly because it's attached to her heart. She's the sexiest, most attractive, perfect person I've ever known and it's generated from within her soul. And she's experienced the same poor behavior you all have. I've finally convinced her that the negative comments were bullshit drivel coming from the mouths of boys. Schoolyard-fratboy bullies.

I know there are critical, judgemental women out there - I'm just lucky I never ran across any, because I'd be an easy target. I'm sorry you wonderful ladies - indeed all ladies - have to deal with the (hopefully) small percentage of jerks that allow their insecurities translate into meanness ridiculous assumptions.

That's it. I just cant believe some of the stuff I read here and some of the attitudes you have to put up with. I just felt compelled to say something.

Now back to your regularly scheduled programming...
 

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That’s a lovely rambling! I don’t think I’m deserving of your accolades, but hey, you seem like a great guy, so as long as you don’t stalk me, I’m okay with it. ;)

Your significant other is lucky to have someone like you. A woman should always be with someone who adores her. The happiest marriages I know are where the man feels lucky to have found the woman of his dreams and they each work to make each other happy every day. I hope that’s the case with you. Sounds like you work at it at least.

No one deserves criticism of things that they really can’t change. And in our relationships, our partners should be the one safe place we can truly relax and be ourselves. Soft bodies, knobby knees, scars, spots and all.

Thanks for your thread. :)
 

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LaFemme! If I didn't live in deep South Texas and you in Canada, I'd totally stalk you in a non-threatening, leave a coffee and a Danish on your doorstep kind of way.

Thank you for your lovely comments. I am glad you appreciate my views. When she told me what mean things had been said to her, and she is a gorgeous, petite, old soul, it made my heart hurt. One because it's so horrible for anyone to say, but two, to hear it from lovers and an ex. You wouldn't believe it, but unfortunately you might.

She's had it rough. Parents with substance abuse problems, abusive partners. She's had a lot to overcome.

I don't feel she's as lucky to have me as I am to have her. I've got my quirks. I guess we both do, but it's part of the recipe that makes us "us".