It doesn't matter much to me, whether I am top, as I am 95% of the time, or going through one of my "versatile" phases.
I think it's nice if people can just try to give each other some pleasure, even though that sometimes comes with a bit of an edge, if you play in adventurous ways / BDSM.
That's not really "small" anyway, in my book. Maybe slightly "on the smaller side", but it's not like you can't have a good time with it.
There are much more significant things than that to worry about. Imagination, emotion, communication would be among them.
Don't get obsessed. With anything. In any context.
Life needs diversity and change, and wide horizons.