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My boyfriend is "new" to the LGBT community.
I'm pansexual and he accepts me and loves me.
I actually don't know his sexuality (it never occurred to me to ask him, since he's a public figure and he and I are both private people and both closeted).
If any of you are into astrology, I'm a Virgo and he's an Aries.
My aunt is also an Aries, and she's got no problem resorting to violence and her temper is Level 15 - and she's 70 years old and a great-grandmother of 6 children.
My boyfriend is nowhere near as temperamental as my aunt though - maybe it's because I relate to him more?
He does say to me that the thing he loves about me is he feels he can be vulnerable and open up to me; I guess since he's in the limelight, he possibly might not have anyone who understands him and is loyal to him in the same way I am.
And his brother is my ex - but that's a different story.
Now that the background details are done, here's my questions.
I've been dating my bf for 7 months.
I did tell him I'm a vers top - only yesterday.
Beforehand, when I brought up the idea of me topping him (I did it in a flirtatious way, since both of us enjoy flirting a little too much) but the two times I brought up topping him, he completely ignored me (keep in mind, I'm the first guy he's ever dated).
So Question 1 is, how do I bring up my bf (who's a dominant top, like myself - both of us are tops, but I'm a vers top) bottoming for me, in a way where he knows it won't scare him or turn him off?
He was - I'll put it like this - taken advantage of in his "early days" twice, once by a family member and the second time, by his brother's best friend.
So how do I introduce the idea of my desire to have him bottom?
He likes that I'm a vers top; I did bring up a fantasy I have of him dominating me in bed while wearing nylon and stockings, and he loves it.
Question 2:
I'm an ambivert - an introvert and extrovert in one person.
My boyfriend is fully extroverted, and the most introverted he is, is when he likes to stay in and sleep for long hours.
I did decide I will need to go out the house more in order to grow (romantically) with my boyfriend.
He said once that his perfect first date would be going to the beach (I loathe the beach, so I'm only going on the beach to spend time with him).
I also thought about enrolling myself in tap dancing lessons, once or twice a week.
And possibly my boyfriend too, if he's interested.
So Q2 is, what are some fun ways to spend quality time with my boyfriend?
I can't walk for longer than 90 minutes, so it can't be anything straining, like rock climbing, hiking (I know hiking is huge in LA), running or anything like that.
Although, we bond in every single way, except for the sex.
I love my bf with all my heart; although he said he's not ready for marriage (which I understand, since his engagement sparked a public breakup in 2020).
So I think I'm going to date him for 1 or 1 1/2 years to 2 years, before proposing.
I'm pansexual and he accepts me and loves me.
I actually don't know his sexuality (it never occurred to me to ask him, since he's a public figure and he and I are both private people and both closeted).
If any of you are into astrology, I'm a Virgo and he's an Aries.
My aunt is also an Aries, and she's got no problem resorting to violence and her temper is Level 15 - and she's 70 years old and a great-grandmother of 6 children.
My boyfriend is nowhere near as temperamental as my aunt though - maybe it's because I relate to him more?
He does say to me that the thing he loves about me is he feels he can be vulnerable and open up to me; I guess since he's in the limelight, he possibly might not have anyone who understands him and is loyal to him in the same way I am.
And his brother is my ex - but that's a different story.
Now that the background details are done, here's my questions.
I've been dating my bf for 7 months.
I did tell him I'm a vers top - only yesterday.
Beforehand, when I brought up the idea of me topping him (I did it in a flirtatious way, since both of us enjoy flirting a little too much) but the two times I brought up topping him, he completely ignored me (keep in mind, I'm the first guy he's ever dated).
So Question 1 is, how do I bring up my bf (who's a dominant top, like myself - both of us are tops, but I'm a vers top) bottoming for me, in a way where he knows it won't scare him or turn him off?
He was - I'll put it like this - taken advantage of in his "early days" twice, once by a family member and the second time, by his brother's best friend.
So how do I introduce the idea of my desire to have him bottom?
He likes that I'm a vers top; I did bring up a fantasy I have of him dominating me in bed while wearing nylon and stockings, and he loves it.
Question 2:
I'm an ambivert - an introvert and extrovert in one person.
My boyfriend is fully extroverted, and the most introverted he is, is when he likes to stay in and sleep for long hours.
I did decide I will need to go out the house more in order to grow (romantically) with my boyfriend.
He said once that his perfect first date would be going to the beach (I loathe the beach, so I'm only going on the beach to spend time with him).
I also thought about enrolling myself in tap dancing lessons, once or twice a week.
And possibly my boyfriend too, if he's interested.
So Q2 is, what are some fun ways to spend quality time with my boyfriend?
I can't walk for longer than 90 minutes, so it can't be anything straining, like rock climbing, hiking (I know hiking is huge in LA), running or anything like that.
Although, we bond in every single way, except for the sex.
I love my bf with all my heart; although he said he's not ready for marriage (which I understand, since his engagement sparked a public breakup in 2020).
So I think I'm going to date him for 1 or 1 1/2 years to 2 years, before proposing.