Quarantined Relationships - How's It Going?

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as there was a quarantined singles thread, and for whom there is a host of different issue, I thought i'd post a similar one for those in relationships, however you define them.

How has being in quarantine/lockdown for 7+ weeks affected your relationship? Has it made it stronger or worse? has it shown up your best qualities or your worst? what have you learnt about yourself and each other?
 
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and i'll start.

so been with my guy since last August/September and he moved in with me at Christmas time. He's 23 going on 24 on a gap year from Uni working and i'm just 55 now. We met cos he was doing work on the new estate where I live and he chatted me up and we've been together since. I was his first bf, sexual partner, live in partner etc.

its actually gone really well in lockdown, initially I was working and he still was too several days a week - there were a couple of funny instances like him coming downstairs not realising I was on a conference call with work colleagues and he made me a mug of coffee and handed it to me - naked barring his boxers. We learned to communicate as to when I was 'at work'. I then had two weeks of leave and he was furloughed so we both had the time together and without much else to do, chatted and got to know a lot more about each other, had lots of sex, and it was a great relaxed time. Since then I've been ill for 2 weeks with covid (got it from the grocery store i'm sure) and he was a sweetheart looking after me really well.
our 'low' point was half way through he got bored of having no work to do and me still working, in the end deciding he start work on landscaping my garden - designing it etc and sorting out plans and equipment, plants etc and is doing a great job on it - its what he's training to do anyway.
We've not really argued at all, we've both definitely learnt compromise and to give each other space whilst confined, learnt that we get on in so many different ways not just sexual.
I've learned about his job and what he's capable of and to trust him to get on with it and do whats needed.
We've learned together that we're both pretty sexual and well matched and are open to exploring different ways of making love together. I've also learned that he can be quite exhibitionistic - he loves just being in his boxers and nothing else, so i'm sure the neighbours have enjoyed it too.
He's taught me more about social media and how to use it properly in the last 7 weeks than I knew or used in the last 15 years.
So I think overall its been a positive time for us relationship wise, I think we've both seen more of what each other is capable of, and have learned from each other too. Also the need to have space from each other and the need to have our own friendships. And we've learned to be able to be in the same room but not have to constantly engage with each other or keep checking on each other.
And even though we were having lots of sex, well that's gone through the roof, as much to burn off his energy as the fact that being fit and handsome wandering around the house in just boxers is just irresistible.
I realise that we're early days in our relationship and to some extent still in honey moon phase but its been good for me and him.
 

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and i'll start.

so been with my guy since last August/September and he moved in with me at Christmas time. He's 23 going on 24 on a gap year from Uni working and i'm just 55 now. We met cos he was doing work on the new estate where I live and he chatted me up and we've been together since. I was his first bf, sexual partner, live in partner etc.

its actually gone really well in lockdown, initially I was working and he still was too several days a week - there were a couple of funny instances like him coming downstairs not realising I was on a conference call with work colleagues and he made me a mug of coffee and handed it to me - naked barring his boxers. We learned to communicate as to when I was 'at work'. I then had two weeks of leave and he was furloughed so we both had the time together and without much else to do, chatted and got to know a lot more about each other, had lots of sex, and it was a great relaxed time. Since then I've been ill for 2 weeks with covid (got it from the grocery store i'm sure) and he was a sweetheart looking after me really well.
our 'low' point was half way through he got bored of having no work to do and me still working, in the end deciding he start work on landscaping my garden - designing it etc and sorting out plans and equipment, plants etc and is doing a great job on it - its what he's training to do anyway.
We've not really argued at all, we've both definitely learnt compromise and to give each other space whilst confined, learnt that we get on in so many different ways not just sexual.
I've learned about his job and what he's capable of and to trust him to get on with it and do whats needed.
We've learned together that we're both pretty sexual and well matched and are open to exploring different ways of making love together. I've also learned that he can be quite exhibitionistic - he loves just being in his boxers and nothing else, so i'm sure the neighbours have enjoyed it too.
He's taught me more about social media and how to use it properly in the last 7 weeks than I knew or used in the last 15 years.
So I think overall its been a positive time for us relationship wise, I think we've both seen more of what each other is capable of, and have learned from each other too. Also the need to have space from each other and the need to have our own friendships. And we've learned to be able to be in the same room but not have to constantly engage with each other or keep checking on each other.
And even though we were having lots of sex, well that's gone through the roof, as much to burn off his energy as the fact that being fit and handsome wandering around the house in just boxers is just irresistible.
I realise that we're early days in our relationship and to some extent still in honey moon phase but its been good for me and him.
Thanks for the comment youlrft on my profile page for liking your post. Your post was just hot about the lots of sex. I am about tr go crazy about being all horned up and no one to have sex with. I have been jacking a lot. Watch out after this period is over I am going to have a sex a thin. I would love to find a guy and get naked with and have fun all day and night.
 

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We aren't quarantined under the same roof so we're getting along fine :joy:

There might be a benefit?
I really need to check on my guy, though. He sounded off last night. A drive by while he’s in the yard, perhaps.
 

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You must be horny then
It’s more than that, but yep, I’d say that for the separately quarantined, excess arousal is A Thing.

A couple weeks ago, my sweetie and I were video chatting, something we do when he’s on tour. I made some comment about missing not only what were were doing on screen, but the touch aspect. The hugs, kisses and casual contact.
He said, but we miss that when I’m off working.
I pointed out it had been four weeks, and his tour jaunts are two weeks. One has stretched to three, but my body knew when that mark passed.
 
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My husband and I have been married almost 17 years. Unfortunately, he’s working longer hours than normal during this. I really wish we could be off work together. But we’ve always been a mushy, lovey couple.
 
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I am so sorry about your gf and I am glad you are not sad. Hope you find someone soon. In the meantime, you can have a lot of fun times with yourself. How you have some fun and take care of your being horny.
Thanks. But I don't like spending time alone. I have no option nearest so I don't even know what to do then
 

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I've met my boyfriend last august, we lived quite far from each other so I moved closer to him in february, to a shared apartment with along time friend of mine. Just before quarantine was up I asked him to come spend the weekend with us.
It's been more than two months now and things are great. He and my friend got real close, so he being here isn't an issue. We haven't fought once, have had long meaningful talks... we haven't had much sex, but we are kind of new to that, I've only been penetrated once by him (no one else before that), and we both kinda bottoms, which makes it harder to experiment. Also my friend in the next room and we don't want to disturb her.

So, long story short, it's been great, not perfect, but really edifying.
We sure start looking for apartments of our own once this is over.
 
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I.

So, long story short, it's been great, not perfect, but really edifying.
We sure start looking for apartments of our own once this is over.

great that you guys have found out so much good stuff about each other that you want to look to move in together, that's great, good luck to you both
 

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I am on my own so happy about that. Does familiarity not breed contempt in most relationships? That's why I need space. I perceive that gradually and inevitably people desire a break from being with the same person. It's not personal but people need alternate stimulation. I think that when a couple realize that it's not working and they still have to remain together such as in a lockdown scenario it's very painful.

Either couples will be splitting up post lockdown or cohabiting because it defied expectation during lockdown. Maybe the rental market will have much demand.
 
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