Question about appearance for 100% gay

[B_theOtherJJ]

To hang out with hateful people just like you who will demean me for not understanding something about them? No way. I have formed a totally new opinion of the male segment of the gay community than I had just two days ago. By reacting with hate, you automatically alienate a huge portion of the people your cultural desires to reach. I may not be the "lost shop girl" whatever that means exactly, but much of the positive opinion I have had of gay men my entire life has certainly been lost within 48 hours. Is that something for you to feel pride in?

Oh Lighten UP dearey !!!!

 

[B_RedDude]

I'm gay, and I don't give a SHIT what you or any other female thinks of me as a gay man.

BTW, what exactly is the gay "cultural"? If you mean "culture", don't assume that all gay men subscribe to a perceived "gay culture", whatever the hell that really means. Some of us don't need, and don't want, to be defined by a so-called gay culture.

I have formed a totally new opinion of the male segment of the gay community than I had just two days ago. By reacting with hate, you automatically alienate a huge portion of the people your cultural desires to reach. I may not be the "lost shop girl" whatever that means exactly, but much of the positive opinion I have had of gay men my entire life has certainly been lost within 48 hours. Is that something for you to feel pride in?

 

[B_theOtherJJ]

Where would the world be without "Fag-Hags" ????

 

[B_curiousme01]

This thread is full of some intense emotions. From everyone. I do think my question is totally lost and misunderstood. Yes... I do think I am "sensitive" and because of it I am seeing and feeling some deep stuff. I hope everyone else is too.

 

[sixlittleboi]

Masculinity and femininity have no relation to sexual orientation. It's determined in utero. The size of the sexually dimorphic nucleus is what determines how masculine or feminine a person will be. Typically it's bigger in men. I wish I could tell you more about it but it's about all I remember from Personality Psychology class. A female can be masculine and be straight and the same is true for feminine men. It has become more acceptable for men to take on the "characteristics" our society has deemed to be feminine (the metrosexual) and many women have taken on more "masculine" traits because they have assumed more traditionally "masculine" roles. The drive to procreate and attraction comes down to the healthiest mate. (Though it is of the same sex the desire to be with the healthiest person does not change.) If a person wants to mate they seek traits in that mate that will produce the healthiest offspring with the best chance at survival, which is based on physicality.(the strongest male, etc) Also when people say you are stereotyping it is true. Please don't judge the following but think about it. When a stereotype is created it is based on what is the common knowledge about a group. If all that has been seen is the idea of the prancing girly queen, what will people think when they think of gay men. We are beginning to see the bigger variety of the homosexual community. My cousin's husband told me I was not what he expected when my cousin told him I was gay. He expected the stereotype. I'm not gonna get mad at that. It is truly all he knew about gay men. Instead of running off and judging a person for not being completely informed about a certain group maybe we should be working harder at showing more diversity. I don't judge the more feminine gay community for perpetuating a stereotype they are who they are I am who I am. Not every gay man is feminine not every lesbian is masculine.

Also I am not usually this "know-it-all." Sorry if it came off that way. Have fun...bye.

 

[B_RedDude]

Yeah, ignorance can be deep, but I never thought it was caused by sensitivity.

This thread is full of some intense emotions. From everyone. I do think my question is totally lost and misunderstood. Yes... I do think I am "sensitive" and because of it I am seeing and feeling some deep stuff. I hope everyone else is too.

 

[D_Mephistophiles Scatlicker]

Here are my two cents....I think the original post had some valid questions even though they could have been presented in a more thoughtful way. Sure, it brought out the worst and best of some, but it also provided a good education and "food for thought" for many of us. I'm gay and have wondered the same things that were listed in the original post. The reaction to the post (good and bad) is what this site is all about and why I love it and it's members (so to speak). It's not just about big cocks anymore.

 

[D_Esau Prepuce]

hmm i'm a typical guy so is my boyfriend personally i don't understand it much but it makes some people happy

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

This thread is full of some intense emotions. From everyone. I do think my question is totally lost and misunderstood. Yes... I do think I am "sensitive" and because of it I am seeing and feeling some deep stuff. I hope everyone else is too.

I'm presuming you didn't respond to what I posted because you were busy getting pissed off with Fullyfed for him being grouchy.

So I'll just quote myself like a true narcissist :tongue:

I don't really understand what looking or behaving femininely or looking or behaving masculinely really mean. They are entirely socially conditioned constructs.

I look like me, and I behave like me. If I look like a man to you and behave like a man should in your eyes, that's really coincidental. We are who we are. I find people interesting or attractive based upon who they are not on the basis of the signals they have been programed to send me about the genitals they have. :smile:

Do you see what I'm trying to say?

 

[HorsemanUK]

I have always wondered why many gay men like to look/act feminine when they only like men, who are naturally masculine. And lots of gay ladies seem to want to look like men...short hair, ill fitting and manly clothing, ultra short or bitten finger nails, ugly shoes, zero style, etc. I'm not picking on anyone or judging. I am just really curious why it is this way? There is a very beautiful black girl who works at the grocery store and I have always known she is gay from the way we interact at the cash register. I saw her yesterday and was dismayed to see she cut ALL (every bit of it) her hair off (what she had before was real and sexy) and is now wearing ill fitting kahki's and got a tatt on her finger! She's also sporting huge pants and a big, bulky leather belt low on her hips. Instead of a beautiful young lady, she now looks like she could kick your ass for even looking at her. Why??????? What is the attraction for trying to look/act/be like the opposite sex if you have no sexual interest in them at all?

I think the 100% gay response on Lpsg is more to do with sexual oreintation preference than a persons appearance or personality. A person who respondes 100% gay are responding they are exculsively sexually attracted to men without any bisexual inclinations. Also by stating 100% I think very much confortable with their sexuality that they are out there and are sure what their oreintation is. How they act and dress is part of their personality which could be totally different from one person who responds 100% to another who responds 100%.