I consider myself to be Bisexual; however, I am in no way attracted to men. I'm only attracted to girls. For example, If I see another guy walking down the street, i don't think to myself, wow that's a cute guy. The main reason I consider myself Bi is because I love cock plain and simple. I would have to say this to another guy, "I would love to suck your cock (if you prommise to cum on my face :wink
but i'm not intersted in a romantic relationship of any sort." For some reason I just don't see other guys that way. First of all, would you all still consider me to be Bi? If yes, would you call this a common Bi behavior or am I special. :biggrin1:
Buddy, first off, I applaud you for the risk that you've taken by being self honest; for the way that you've asked yourself questions surrounding your sexual identity and then turned to us for input. Oftentimes it is an invitation to be forced to acknowledge or hear things that one doesn't really want to. I respect you for valuing yourself enough to desire to be true to who you really are. :wink:
From what you've shared, I'd consider you to be bisexual. However, you are the only person capable of being able to identify what your orientation is, so don't stop asking yourself the good and very necessary questions that you currently are asking!!
To a certain degree, I'd say that your attraction to the penis/m2m sex acts and not the entire person is fairly common among bisexual men...though it's difficult to make it concrete or to put it down in black and white. We're delving into a grey area because there are many things to consider, things that I'll go into a little later in my post.
How can you say you are in no way attracted to men & then start banging on about how much you like cock - the very thing that makes a man different from a woman? I dont think you should worry about labels, frankly. But your taste seems confused to say the least. You sound like a trans lover from what youve described.
I respectfully have to say that I disagree with you.
I will explain why I say so a little later...
Hey...I'm like you. I'd never go out on a date with a guy. But I enjoy hooking up with other guys. I enjoy feeling another cock in my mouth or another guy on my cock, feeling a nice ass....but I don't have any desire to hold hands or date another guy. I love women and can't get enough of making out with them, sleeping with them, going to dinner with them, walking down the street holding them...it's a romantic and love thing with women. With guys, it's just a pure sexual thing. So I get you!
You're not the only one out there like that.
...and I get you! :wink::biggrin1:
A persons sexuality is determined by their sexual desires not their social desires. You guys are saying you want sex with men but no relationships. That doesnt make you straight! Youre all at least bi-sex from what you've said.
I think that if you looked at the profiles of people responding to the OP (as well as the OP's) you'd see that no one claimed to be straight. Everyone's profiles indicate that they are bisexuals of varying "degrees".
I don't understand where in the OP social desires come into the mix. Physical sexual activity, erotic fantasy and affectionate relationships make up our sexual orientations...and that's exactly what the OP spoke about.
I've moderated a male only bisexual forum for over a year, though I've been a member on that site for a bit longer. In the time that I've been there, I'd say about 80% of the members have expressed the very thing that you have; that they are attracted to the penis but not "what it's attached to". :biggrin1: There have been discussions about post-orgasm shame where after quite a number of guys have cum after watching gay/bi porn or hooked up with a guy, they a filled with shame, ask themselves "WTF?" and in the case of a hookup, get dressed and run. There have also been discussions surrounding an aversion to kissing men where some have said that they can't kiss the guy because it's a casual hookup, for others the thought of kissing a guy is just YUCK! and for the rest of us, we'd happily kiss a guy anytime. :wink: So I think it's safe to say that you are showing signs of leaning towards the bisexual arena and that your feelings/attractions are normal.
There are so many factors that come into play and are in need of consideration. For a start, bisexuality is not a black and white reality - there are over 13 different forms
WHAT IS BISEXUALITY? and it comes in varying degrees (a teeny attraction to men, an attraction to men but less than one's attraction to women, an equal attraction to men and women, an attraction to women but less than one's attraction to men and a teeny attraction to women), at times it may not be a constant reality because one can go through peaks and troughs of attraction (at one moment one may be highly turned on by the thought of men, m2m action and penises....and the next moment, one is only turned on by women, then other times both men and women turn one on whilst on other occasions one may not be as highly "charged" as one normally is) and lastly, one has to contend with slotting oneself into the gay and straight worlds where misunderstanding and misinformation are rife.
It's safe to say that it's a confusing reality and one doesn't always find the right answers first time round. At the onset of my own journey about 14 months ago, I initially thought that I was an alternating and emotional bisexual however it has ended up being that I am an integrated and emotional bisexual. Things can be confusing and finding the right answers is a process...the important thing is to keep asking the questions and to constantly seek a healthy balance where neither you nor anyone else is harmed in the process.
The same rings true with some of the guys who initially professed that they are only attracted to cocks and/or m2m action. As their inner journey progressed, they came to see that this wasn't really the case. In some instances they believed that this was true because they were subconsciously being control freaks or afraid that desiring more from a guy would mean that they were gay.
So even though you are finding that you are having your questions answered, it's not all cut and dry and I need to make you aware of that fact. There are men who have absolutely no attraction to men or having a relationship with them but there are also men who have no attraction out of fear in some way or form. Nonetheless, regardless of where you may stand in all of this, YOU ARE NOT ALONE because there are many who share your desires/thoughts/feelings and are grappling with the same questions that you currently are.
All of the best and safe travels!
Oh yes, I'm attaching links to two personal essays that may be of use to you:
COME AS YOU ARE
BI ANXIETY
