Question about cumming outside

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  1. gjpedro

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    This quest came up in strange way. My buddies wife asked me about this. Apparently my buddy likes to cum outside of the vagina when they are having sex. They have two kids already. She says it is not a birth control method for them. She wants me to bring it up with my buddy to see what is up and why he does it. She would rather he cum inside. This guy and I have been close for many years. I know when they were first getting together she was really enjoying his size and his ability to please her sexually.

    So, my questions: how should i bring it up with him without making him feel bad? Why do you think she asked me? Do you think she is hoping i would jump at the chance to cum inside? wink?
     
  2. King_ding_a_ling

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    Maybe he got sick of her letting it drain and stain the sheets? lol, honestly I have nothing.

    As far as talking to him about it, encourage her to talk to him about it. If she won't, use your best judgement. Is he the sort of person you can talk to about it? Will he be mad you talked to his wife about this? Will he be angry with his wife?
     
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    Not a Women's Issue. You should have posted in Relationships.
     
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    She's right. The problem of "women's issues" forum is you get in for curiosity, and you forget where you're into the same exact moment.

    About the topic question, IMO the easiest solution is to talk to your friend introducing this as a problem YOU have.
    Say your gf prefers you cum inside, which you don't, and ask his opinion. He'll answer plain and easy that he likes outside too, and then suggest to check his gf's opinion. At least they'll talk about it.

    [however, why on earth aren't the discussing this by themselves? Is it so difficult?!?]
     
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    This. Just tell her that she really should bring that up herself. It's something between the two of them.
    Why people don't communicate better, I don't understand...

    (I don't get the cumming outside thing either... it's possibly a side-effect of watching too much porn? I never understood it's appeal)
     
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    OK, I thought this post was about outdoors sex, and I was all ready to post!!! LOL!

    I had to re-read the post to see that it was the guy who wanted to do that and not the girl. I had a girlfriend who always said she would never let a man climax in her. She thought it was too unhealthy. Ooookaaaay. I never took her for a germophobe, but we all have our idiosyncrasies.
     
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    I wouldn't say anything AT ALL to her husband. If she brings it up again, I would tell her (as gently as I could):

    A) It's not my business to talk to HER partner about THEIR sex.

    B) Men do it all the time -- men get off on seeing their cum shoot. Why do you think it's called a "money shot" in porn? Men LIKE to see it.
     
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    I LOL'ed at your post!

    Would that make her a stuck up cunt?
     
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    And that made me LOL! :tongue:
     
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    "i can't shout"-a funny expression meaning i don't want trouble....pls let him refer to his wife,on the other hand you might be right, mayb she wana b startin somn....with u?
     
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    We're waiting for your outdoor sex post! Perhaps a new thread in Women's Issues about women's experiences and attitudes about outdoor sex would be interesting.
     
  12. EllieP

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    I don't think it's a Women's Issue, LOL! I just like outdoors. That's all I'm going to say about that!
     
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