drrionelli: Curious that the analogies are made to weather. Or, perhaps not, considering the unpredictability of both so-called friends and weather! :lol:
I, too, have witnessed (read: lived) this phenomenon. And, no, I don't understand it, either. When a friend becomes involved in a relationship, we often (by no means always, of course) seem to be "put on the back burner." And, please let me stress that I'm not talking about competitiveness, here. It happens even when the friend's new interest is a good, likable person and a positive influence.
But here's the other side of the coin--how often have you noticed that when
you become involved in a relationship,
your friends seem to disappear? Not that you're ignoring them, dissing them or otherwise excluding them from your life, but rather, they seem to feel either envy regarding what you now have with another person, jealousy regarding what they have with you or, indeed, a fair dollop of both.
benderten, you raise (as always!
an interesting point. Why do you think it's so difficult for the friend to be happy for someone in a relationship? After all, if that person is truly a friend, shouldn't it be easy to be a well-wisher? Speaking strictly personally, when a friend finds that 'someone special,' I always am delighted for him/her, and thus eager to expand, through his/her new interest, my own friendships.
It would be nice if positivity begat positivity.