Question about men cumming.

[lil peachie]

You seem you wanna have a sensitive guy, well i know my gf didn't choose me because of that, i like going fishing, kayaking, driving my jeep, making love with her in the middle of nowhere.
She wants me because i give her what she wants: a "pounding"

Haha I don't know if I'd say I want a sensitive guy; one of the first dates I take a guy on is the rock climbing gym to make sure he's going to be able to hang with me. After that is downhill mountain biking & backpacking. I expect the same thing out of my man that I expect out of myself; strength & softeness.

 

[1031939]

Fair enough. I am not one for theatrics tho. It is not about show, it is just the fact that when I orgasm it is relatively intense compared to what I imagine the average male orgasm is. Since I know that I, and men in general, find it attractive when a woman cums harder than average I was wondering if women felt the same way too. I am sorry if I did not explain my question clearly enough.

As long as it is genuine then it shouldn't be a problem. I am very vocal and my body reacts visually when I have and orgasim so why couldn't a guy. With that being said I think most women are just not used to most guys being vocally abd physically shaken the way you seem to be. But that doesn't make it bad. My husband sort of bucks and folds. He can be vocal and grunt and moan, or he can be fairly quiet. It just depends on many factors. I think the mixed views just stem from really just not being exposed to a man that cums so hard perhaps. Just keep it real.

 

[1031939]

J

That's kind of sad for her.... I get it that each person is an individual & we aren't all going to be the same.

I'm facing something similar with my husband..... I'm vocal, moans, groans, little cussing...he definitely knows I'm enjoying having sex with him... He on the other hand is pretty quiet up until he comes, when he comes there's some noise or an "O fuck/shit" but during just some heavy breathing, or a few groans or the occasion dirty talk. I've never experienced someone so quiet...so a lot of time I left wondering is this working? He always says we have the best sex & that he's had the most intense orgasms with me..... but I can't help but feel a little down about the whole thing.

Just talk about it. We used to have a problem like that. Not to say that everyone needs to scream, lol, but I ask him about it and my husband got so used to being quiet for alot of different reasons. Some people suffered sexual trama and caused a vocal shut down. Other had to be quiet because they are accustomed to sneaky sex. And so on. But talk about....see if there is a conditioned reason he is quiet or if he is just naturally so. Maybe ask him to try for you a few times. Just an option.

 

[1031939]

Lol. My husband is like that. I just suck on it anyway. Lol. I don't mind he can just sit there and do nothing. Soft or no I will keep it warm and wet. He doesn't have to do a thing.

 

[1031939]

Well I don't always need to ride it. And eventually, tired or not, sucking on it gets atleast a simi.

 

[1031939]

We had years of siestas. Not this year. This is a year of exploration and expanding our limits.

 

[lil peachie]

J

Just talk about it. We used to have a problem like that. Not to say that everyone needs to scream, lol, but I ask him about it and my husband got so used to being quiet for alot of different reasons. Some people suffered sexual trama and caused a vocal shut down. Other had to be quiet because they are accustomed to sneaky sex. And so on. But talk about....see if there is a conditioned reason he is quiet or if he is just naturally so. Maybe ask him to try for you a few times. Just an option.

We have talked about it a few times, & it's just always something he's suppressed because of Roommate's. He also hasn't been with anyone long or intimately enough to feel comfortable letting loose. He lets loose when he comes, & has started making a little more noise during.

 

[lil peachie]

It's not really screaming...there's moans and groan. I've had a few screams when I orgasm; if I try to suppress them I'm going to either lose my orgasm or it's not going to be as intense. It totally turns my guy on that I am vocal.

 

[1031939]

It's not really screaming...there's moans and groan. I've had a few screams when I orgasm; if I try to suppress them I'm going to either lose my orgasm or it's not going to be as intense. It totally turns my guy on that I am vocal.

Same here. I can't be quiet. It increases the orgasim and like you said supressing it can supress the orgasm. It is about to release.

 

[lil peachie]

Same here. I can't be quiet. It increases the orgasim and like you said supressing it can supress the orgasm. It is about to release.

Glad someone else gets it. I've tried explaining it to people who just don't understand. The sensation follows through the noise

Sucks when my kids are around, I have to be uber quiet

 

[1031939]

We have talked about it a few times, & it's just always something he's suppressed because of Roommate's. He also hasn't been with anyone long or intimately enough to feel comfortable letting loose. He lets loose when he comes, & has started making a little more noise during.

Oh well then he will definitely start loosening up. Just remind him that its cool if he does. No one but you os going to hear and that you think it's hot. I know you know this. I just needed to say it for my own piece of mind. Just so I know it was said.

 

[1031939]

Glad someone else gets it. I've tried explaining it to people who just don't understand. The sensation follows through the noise

Sucks when my kids are around, I have to be uber quiet

Lol. Same here. But when they are asleep they sleep like the dead and we (I) can be loud. Lol.

 

[lil peachie]

Lol. Same here. But when they are asleep they sleep like the dead and we (I) can be loud. Lol.

Lucky you! Mine will wake up & pound on the wall. We actually just got rid of our bed frame & put the mattress on the floor. It was super noisy. We take advantage of the times when we have the house to ourselves.

 

[1031939]

Lucky you! Mine will wake up & pound on the wall. We actually just got rid of our bed frame & put the mattress on the floor. It was super noisy. We take advantage of the times when we have the house to ourselves.

Damn strait!

 

[lil peachie]

Already been there & done that.

 

[lil peachie]

Not really... it brings extra sensation but he wasn't any louder (& it's a small probe just to hit his prostate). He's loudest during head; according to him it's because he just gets to lay there & relax since it's all about him.

 

[lil peachie]

Haha!! Not likely! He's been gay/bi & tried bottoming a couple times & HATED it.

 

[693987]

This entire section of the forum is called Ask a Woman. You are not a woman. Unless you're creating your own thread and asking women questions (and replying to their responses), you're not supposed to post in here.

 

[missT44]

Wow! This is why I love reading the forums.. People's responses are SO educational!
Every woman is different, especially when it comes to their tolerance for messy orgasms.
I personally LOVE it when a guy is vocal and really lets himself go when he cums. It doesn't have to be yelling but passionate groaning and a good grunt or two is extremely satisfying ... And there's nothing better than when I'm giving him really good head and he grabs my hair , grinds his hips into me and shudders as he explodes. Stuff of dreams if it's the real deal As for cum??? Love love love it... Not in a fake pornstar way but in a truly primal appreciation of raw, sticky, messy cum... And since I'm enthusiastic, loud and have extremely wet and messy orgasms I can hardly afford to not embrace the same from him.
I do know women who hate it but honestly, the point of sex and shared pleasure is to GIVE... If he's enjoying it then it's an accomplishment

And as much as I'd love to observe how powerfully you shoot your load perhaps this is not the right forum to be offering visual examples haha. Just saying