I hope I posted in the right place ! I enjoy giving oral sex more than receiving. I love giving oral sex to a man and will go down on him for as long as he allows me to or until I make him cum. I don't necessarily need to have oral sex ALL the time, but once in a blue moon, I crave a man's tongue on my pussy and crave that honest and good-as-heaven orgasm or two from oral sex... However, I dread it when a man goes down on me... As you can see, my problem with receiving oral sex is that men do not go down long enough. I'm not sure if that esteems from men being selfish or something else... Most men I've been with, go down for a minute to five. It does not take me a minute or five for me to attain orgasm. I will be in absolutely delight and pleasure, however the noises I make does not mean I am having an orgasm. I like to think I am vocal during oral sex and give verbal cues letting him know he's doing things right. Ie. "I'm tightening up. Don't stop what you are doing... Those are perfect cues for helping a man bring a woman to climax. Cuz seriously, heavy breathing and moaning, isn't just enough for a man to interpret. When I was experimenting with women, I tried oral sex on a woman. So, I KNOW all about how your neck starts to hurt, how your tongue starts to tired, how it's hard to breathe with her pussy folds smothering your passage of air. And yes, I know it takes a long time to bring her to orgasm. But all that is worth it when a woman cums from your oral skills. Is it wrong for me to tell a man that if he goes down there, he's not coming back up until I say so? And that if he is not up for the job not to bother going down on me... AT ALL. Because... seriously... when a man goes down on me for 1-5 minutes, it kinda disappoint me / annoys me / pisses me off but not enough to put me out of the mood... Because seriously 1-5 minutes does not cut it. Of the partners I've had, only two men have been able to bring me to orgasm and "forced" me to have a few more orgasms by their tongue / mouth. I actually have no idea how long it would take me to climax, as it depends on what technique the guy is using. I want oral sex to go right to the end where I say I am cumming, and then have him try to force a few more orgasms out of me.