Question about oral sex

[Notthe7]

Nut shell: Hate oral sex. Love to give it. Men do NOT in GENERAL know what women like, their anatomy, and DONT listen. Sex is just an expansion of how the man is in the relationship. If they listen, they will listen in bed.. if not fucking forget it. I just tell my partners, "Don't go down on me." If they beg, i'll give a go.. if its not working FUCK THEM.. literally and metaphorically. "Okay, stick it in."


I think all women can relate to this problem...
Women have to be amazing at BLOW JOBS...
it's all socialized expectations.

 

[Channelwood]

As you can see, my problem with receiving oral sex is that men do not go down long enough. [SNIP] Most men I've been with, go down for a minute to five. It does not take me a minute or five for me to attain orgasm. I will be in absolutely delight and pleasure, however the noises I make does not mean I am having an orgasm. I like to think I am vocal during oral sex and give verbal cues letting him know he's doing things right. Ie. "I'm tightening up. Don't stop what you are doing... Those are perfect cues for helping a man bring a woman to climax. Cuz seriously, heavy breathing and moaning, isn't just enough for a man to interpret.

I actually have no idea how long it would take me to climax, as it depends on what technique the guy is using. I want oral sex to go right to the end where I say I am cumming, and then have him try to force a few more orgasms out of me.

I'm sorry you haven't had the opportunity to meet a man who has the proper attitude about oral. I'd gladly do oral for as long as it takes to bring a woman to multiple orgasm, but currently my FWB only wants oral for orgasm about half that time, and then immediately wants penetration. I love experimenting, getting the feedback that I'm doing something right, and then adding that to the repertoire of things I use to please her. And I think I'm perceptive enough to interpret what works even without the recent comment "Oh God! MEMORIZE THAT!"

I would never give up oral after 5 minutes ... that's just rude.

 

[SandraSmithCarver]

you HAVE bEEN WITH SOME VERY SELFISH MEN , WHO PROB DONT LIKE DOING IT,,yOU DESERVE BETTER, AND SPEAK UP SO YOU GET IT, , ,TELL THEM ,GOTTA LICK IT BEFORE YOU STICK IT!!!











I enjoy giving oral sex more than receiving. I love giving oral sex to a man and will go down on him for as long as he allows me to or until I make him cum. I don't necessarily need to have oral sex ALL the time, but once in a blue moon, I crave a man's tongue on my pussy and crave that honest and good-as-heaven orgasm or two from oral sex... However, I dread it when a man goes down on me...

As you can see, my problem with receiving oral sex is that men do not go down long enough. I'm not sure if that esteems from men being selfish or something else... Most men I've been with, go down for a minute to five. It does not take me a minute or five for me to attain orgasm. I will be in absolutely delight and pleasure, however the noises I make does not mean I am having an orgasm. I like to think I am vocal during oral sex and give verbal cues letting him know he's doing things right. Ie. "I'm tightening up. Don't stop what you are doing... Those are perfect cues for helping a man bring a woman to climax. Cuz seriously, heavy breathing and moaning, isn't just enough for a man to interpret.

When I was experimenting with women, I tried oral sex on a woman. So, I KNOW all about how your neck starts to hurt, how your tongue starts to tired, how it's hard to breathe with her pussy folds smothering your passage of air. And yes, I know it takes a long time to bring her to orgasm. But all that is worth it when a woman cums from your oral skills.

Is it wrong for me to tell a man that if he goes down there, he's not coming back up until I say so?

And that if he is not up for the job not to bother going down on me... AT ALL.

Because... seriously... when a man goes down on me for 1-5 minutes, it kinda disappoint me / annoys me / pisses me off but not enough to put me out of the mood...

Because seriously 1-5 minutes does not cut it. Of the partners I've had, only two men have been able to bring me to orgasm and "forced" me to have a few more orgasms by their tongue / mouth.

I actually have no idea how long it would take me to climax, as it depends on what technique the guy is using. I want oral sex to go right to the end where I say I am cumming, and then have him try to force a few more orgasms out of me.[/QUOTE]

 

[deleted356736]

I actually have no idea how long it would take me to climax, as it depends on what technique the guy is using. I want oral sex to go right to the end where I say I am cumming, and then have him try to force a few more orgasms out of me.

You might need to verbalise your desires a bit more too. I have had a LOT of partners, and it's not surprising that each woman is different. Most women get sensitive after coming, so to keep going for more orgasms is unpleasant for them. I had a long-term casual relationship with a woman who could only come once a day or so, as anything more was just painful for her. My wife needs about four or five minutes post-orgasmic recovery time, but with oral sex I have to slow her down to make it last more than two or three minutes. Other women you could keep going for a second orgasm almost straight away. One woman I could stretch her orgasm for more than one minute of contractions, by which time she had soaked the bed with her ejaculate. With most women you can't do this as they are often sensitive immediately after their orgasm hits them. It's not easy being an oral sex master, you know.

 

[D_Ellerby Eatsprick]

You need better sex partners.

Amen. Going through a dry spell now, simply because I won't just settle.

 

[Velvet]

Oh PLEASE!!
I doubt there hasn't been a woman here who hasn't grabbed a man by the short baby hair at the back of his neck and yanked him off her puss in exasperation and given him clear, firm, DIRECT instructions of what to do while making eye contact, let him go only to have him go back to the same old pattern.
Makes you wonder if the sexes even speak the same language at times.

 

[Wish-4-8]

So, should guys watch real lesbian porn. Not the lesbian porn that males produce that make guys believe that is what girls like. But real lesbian porn produced by women for that target audience, lesbians.

Would that help? (this is a serious question)

 

[Wish-4-8]

It's not easy being an oral sex master, you know.

See, that is why I never claim to be good at sex. It is what it is and my partner can tell you if I am good or not. And the answers will vary from person to person. Just like I can say the same for them.

I always go into a situation wanting to learn; to see what will get this female off. Because even if I have sex with a million women before, the next new one will be different with her own likes and dislikes. Its paying attention to these nuances that makes for great lovemaking. Its the ability to read the situation and act accordingly. And trying to get it right is part of the fun. That is why I hate it when people claim they are good at sex. How do they really know?

 

[D_Ellerby Eatsprick]

So, should guys watch real lesbian porn. Not the lesbian porn that males produce that make guys believe that is what girls like. But real lesbian porn produced by women for that target audience, lesbians.

Would that help? (this is a serious question)

Admittedly, I have watched a few gay porn to pick up on oral technique, as well as watching other women give men head. I may not be able to make every man cum from oral, but I get a kick out of hearing / seeing their reactions.

Sooo... I think men should watch real lesbian porn (amateur) and those targeted for lesbians.

 

[dolfette]

Oh PLEASE!!
I doubt there hasn't been a woman here who hasn't grabbed a man by the short baby hair at the back of his neck and yanked him off her puss in exasperation and given him clear, firm, DIRECT instructions of what to do while making eye contact, let him go only to have him go back to the same old pattern.
Makes you wonder if the sexes even speak the same language at times.

i love how they assume we say nothing.
several women have said ''we tell them but MEN DON'T LISTEN!!'' but they still think we're not saying anything, because *gasp* they just haven't listened.

So, should guys watch real lesbian porn. Not the lesbian porn that males produce that make guys believe that is what girls like. But real lesbian porn produced by women for that target audience, lesbians.

Would that help? (this is a serious question)

i've seen very good tutorial vids by lesbians, on porntube or something like.
but mostly, because we're all so different, it's about watching her responses very carefully. men are, in general, shite at this. sometimes you have to literally kick them off, while they look bemused and hurt, because they're not listening to anything short of that.

 

[Wish-4-8]

Admittedly, I have watched a few gay porn to pick up on oral technique, as well as watching other women give men head. I may not be able to make every man cum from oral, but I get a kick out of hearing / seeing their reactions.

Sooo... I think men should watch real lesbian porn (amateur) and those targeted for lesbians.

Well, dont be too hard on yourself there. Some guys, myself include, just cant cum from oral sex. And its like my favorite thing. The woman who can will be the one I marry. So get in line ladies, try outs are now. lol:biggrin1:

 

[Ed69]

I always go into a situation wanting to learn; to see what will get this female off. Because even if I have sex with a million women before, the next new one will be different with her own likes and dislikes. Its paying attention to these nuances that makes for great lovemaking. Its the ability to read the situation and act accordingly. And trying to get it right is part of the fun. That is why I hate it when people claim they are good at sex. How do they really know?

And over 18 years the one you are with can react different day to day!So you still have to pay attention to those little nuances in the momment and read the situation as it develops.The flush on her skin,change in scent,body tension and verbal input all are important.

I think your correct,go at it willing to learn even if it only works that day!The next could be a whole new show and script!:smile:

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

''don't stop!''

Doffette - I have said "Don't stop" but they still stop, regardless. :/

nothing turns me off more than that. when we women say "don't stop," that doesn't mean pop your head up from between the legs and ask, "what did you just say?"

 

[rob_just_rob]

The recurring theme here is that many guys seem to know what they like, and expect their partners to like it too, OR they think they somehow have a better idea of what their partners will like than said partners do.

 

[dolfette]

OR they think they somehow have a better idea of what their partners will like than said partners do.

read any response to a post of mine about not liking orgasms that much.

 

[D_Jaccynth Scandalberry]

I have had both amazing and mediocre experiences receiving, most of my partners have gone so far as to tell me how great I taste after. And making out after giving or receiving is a huge turn on for me. My best sexual relationships have been oral ones, with little or no penetration.

Smaller men give great oral.

Some men are just not good at giving oral. It sounds like the women in this thread are meeting selfish men.

I also get FULL waxes monthly, for my OWN pleasure :wink:

 

[D_Sandy_Crotch]

I have only had two or three guys really any good at oral sex. My long term ex partner was the most successful but we had a very good sex life with great communication and gradually over the years he developed a great technique guaranteed to get me off. Same with give him a bj. I am sure they weren't all that to start with but by the end of the relationship, I had it down to a fine art In fact he always said that they were the hardest thing to give up :biggrin1:

Another guy (with the small penis) had a great oral skills and got me there without trouble.

One night stands are never going to do it for me though. Usually I am too hyped up to relax and go with it. Although I always enjoy the sex, usually it is a bit frenzied and a bit all over the place. I think the woman has to be really chilled and feel she can lie there as long as it takes her without feeling self conscious and over demanding.

 

[_Alexxx_]

As an advice, if you are going to say something to a guy that's down on you, please spread your legs wide open before talking. It's really hard to understand a 2 word sentence between moans when you have the legs covering your ears
:wink:

 

[kinda_hung]

I'm in the same situation as the OP. She rarely goes down on me and not for long. She has only gotten me off twice since we've been together for 9 yrs now. She says she doesn't mind doing it, but won't ever swallow. Which is fine. But after 5 min. she complains her jaw hurts, blah blah. Then she gets the lube out and wanks me! Which she is getting better at.

I absolutely love going down on her. But she doesn't ever want me to. Says I don't have to. She likes it and I obviously do a good job as she has always gotten off in 20min or so. I love eating pussy. I could do it every day.

 

[D_Chesty_Pecjiggle]

I love it when my wife (or past GFs) holds (or held) my head and pull in into their pussy.

I love going down, so I'm happy to stay there forever anyway. But I LOVE it when my wife pulls my face into her pussy.

So I think there is nothing wrong with telling a guy not to go down unless he promises to stay there till you cum on his tongue.