Question about oral sex

[mikejohnson]

i usually eat my wife out a good 10 minutes before sex

 

[AlteredEgo]

... But after 5 min. she complains her jaw hurts, blah blah. Then she gets the lube out and wanks me! Which she is getting better at.

Perhaps you should keep a flavored lube on hand. Regular lube tastes awful! If you use flavored lube, she could always suck for 5 minutes, take a break from that by wanking, and then get right back on and blow you some more. Over time, her endurance would increase.

Or maybe she just doesn't care to improve.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I think all women can relate to this problem...
Women have to be amazing at BLOW JOBS...
it's all socialized expectations.

Fuck a whole lotta that! I never fucked any man who wouldn't at least try very hard to give me great oral pleasure. The ones who lacked skill initially all imroved with time. But I always made it clear that I didn't spend ages getting my whole body ready to be with them to be left wanting at the moment of truth.

you HAVE bEEN WITH SOME VERY SELFISH MEN , WHO PROB DONT LIKE DOING IT,,yOU DESERVE BETTER, AND SPEAK UP SO YOU GET IT, , ,TELL THEM ,GOTTA LICK IT BEFORE YOU STICK IT!!!

A-fucking-men!

 

[nicenycdick]

It seems strange that, almost without exception, all the men here tell us that they love to give oral to their women and that they always make them cum...and all the women tell us that none of the men do very well at all and that they never cum, or that they fake it.

I don't know if it's from the mouths of women or in the minds of men, but it seems to me that there is a lot of deception going on somewhere.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

It seems strange that, almost without exception, all the men here tell us that they love to give oral to their women and that they always make them cum...and all the women tell us that none of the men do very well at all and that they never cum, or that they fake it.

I don't know if it's from the mouths of women or in the minds of men, but it seems to me that there is a lot of deception going on somewhere.

I haven't read every single post in this thread, but I know AE hasn't said that and in dolfette's other thread (poll) on oral myself, Lady Shady and AE (and some others?) have said the opposite of that too.

And, again between the two threads I can't reacall where I read it, a few guys have had the honesty to say that while they love it they really don't know how good they are but they want to be amazing at it.

So I really can't agree with the absolutes you express in that post there.

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

I don't know if it's from the mouths of women or in the minds of men, but it seems to me that there is a lot of deception going on somewhere.

Deception? What about just lack of communication?
If I was receiving bad oral I would tell the guy and teach him how to eat me out correctly. If unable to take my direction, he's not the man for me and I would end it there.

Same applies to my oral and manual stimulation of the guy's penis. I learn what he likes beforehand (*cough*). During, I tease it, stroke it, suck it, lick it, and while doing so gauge his response with each move and will outright ask if he likes it and how (faster, slower, etc.). May only receive an "Mmmphmm", but if I switch to something he likes less, he tells me and I respond accordingly.

I though that's how sex is supposed to be? Not hard headed guy (kick his ass out, btw), sexually passive woman, glorified solo masturbation - but pleasurable for both parties. I realise some of these issues have to do with experience and confidence, but, damn. I don't get it. :shrug:

 

[SandraSmithCarver]

I agree, it is confidience and experience, , ,but both comr with age i think.
I would have never ever spoke up about bad sex in my 20s

UOTE=LadyShady;2475128]Deception? What about just lack of communication?
If I was receiving bad oral I would tell the guy and teach him how to eat me out correctly. If unable to take my direction, he's not the man for me and I would end it there.

Same applies to my oral and manual stimulation of the guy's penis. I learn what he likes beforehand (*cough*). During, I tease it, stroke it, suck it, lick it, and while doing so gauge his response with each move and will outright ask if he likes it and how (faster, slower, etc.). May only receive an "Mmmphmm", but if I switch to something he likes less, he tells me and I respond accordingly.

I though that's how sex is supposed to be? Not hard headed guy (kick his ass out, btw), sexually passive woman, glorified solo masturbation - but pleasurable for both parties. I realise some of these issues have to do with experience and confidence, but, damn. I don't get it. :shrug:[/QUOTE]

 

[nicenycdick]

Yeah...I didn't think my statement was in the form of absolutes...and I guess "deception" is a word with loaded meanings I didn't intend. But it does appear that men and women have had some serious failures to communicate when it comes to cunnilingus. What should we do about that?

 

[TheEqu]

personally, i wont stop until she tells me to, that way i know ive done a good job and she's satisfied.

and i certainly dont force her head down on me, as far as im concerned she can go at her own speed. if a girl wants to suck me, she is more than welcome to, at her comfort. im not going to start ramming my cock down her throat. thats just rude.

 

[Mike7]

No matter what size penis a guy has - when you go down on her the whole idea is to make her come! Don't leave your woman hanging. There's lots of time for penetration before and after. You might even find she gets even hotter for lots of penetration after she comes orally :wink:

 

[Yorkylass]

Is it wrong for me to tell a man that if he goes down there, he's not coming back up until I say so?

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Course not! And if in doubt just hold his head there.

I too felt alot more elightened about it wen I had tried it myself.
I find spelling the alphabet works a treat and if he's having trouble il be quick to suggest it to him. I am normally submissive but wen it comes to going down he better bring his a-game