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I am a recently discovered bisexual man who is uncertain about how to respond when asked if I'm a bottom or top. My usual reply is that I don't know since I've never been a bottom, but I am open to experiencing it to find out if I like it. I am even considering experimenting with several tops to discover my preference, or potentially becoming versatile.

I've seen many guys claim they have never been a bottom, not even once, and have not engaged in anal masturbation. Is this true? What could be the reasons? Could it be a form of homophobia, or perhaps 'bottom-phobia'?
 

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Hey, total top here and not at all. We're all different, and there are some things that are very clear to each person from the start and other things that leave room for exploration and self-discovery. I know many pure bottoms who always knew they were so. Before ever kissing a guy or sucking a dick, they were already playing with their ass, sticking things in it and fantasizing about getting fucked. Some tried topping eventually just to confirm what they already knew, which is, that they are bottom.

The exact same thing works for total tops. I never thought about myself being fucked, I don't desire it, my ass is not an erogenous zone for me. My fantasies always involved me sliding my cock in an ass or mouth (mainly ass for that matter, and eventually I confirmed what I always knew, which is that I'm top with a strong urge to fuck raw and breed). A couple of times I tried exploring my ass out of curiosity. My reasoning was "if so many guys are crazy about it, there must be something good to it," but found zero pleasure there. On occasions, guys that I trust and feel comfortable with have asked to rim me and I've let them, but it's for their pleasure as I get nothing out of it. You can think of it similarly to guys who go crazy with nipple or toe play, yet for others those do nothing. Would you call it internalized homophobia or "nipplephobia" if someone doesn't get pleasure from their nipples? As for sucking, I don't particularly enjoy it either, but I'm open to it if I feel comfortable. What I intend to say here is that there was room for exploring on the oral front, even though it's not my preferred thing to do.

In summary, only you yourself can know what you like for sure, what you're not so sure about and what boundaries you can push. I hope this helps.
 

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Hey, total top here and not at all. We're all different, and there are some things that are very clear to each person from the start and other things that leave room for exploration and self-discovery. I know many pure bottoms who always knew they were so. Before ever kissing a guy or sucking a dick, they were already playing with their ass, sticking things in it and fantasizing about getting fucked. Some tried topping eventually just to confirm what they already knew, which is, that they are bottom.

The exact same thing works for total tops. I never thought about myself being fucked, I don't desire it, my ass is not an erogenous zone for me. My fantasies always involved me sliding my cock in an ass or mouth (mainly ass for that matter, and eventually I confirmed what I always knew, which is that I'm top with a strong urge to fuck raw and breed). A couple of times I tried exploring my ass out of curiosity. My reasoning was "if so many guys are crazy about it, there must be something good to it," but found zero pleasure there. On occasions, guys that I trust and feel comfortable with have asked to rim me and I've let them, but it's for their pleasure as I get nothing out of it. You can think of it similarly to guys who go crazy with nipple or toe play, yet for others those do nothing. Would you call it internalized homophobia or "nipplephobia" if someone doesn't get pleasure from their nipples? As for sucking, I don't particularly enjoy it either, but I'm open to it if I feel comfortable. What I intend to say here is that there was room for exploring on the oral front, even though it's not my preferred thing to do.

In summary, only you yourself can know what you like for sure, what you're not so sure about and what boundaries you can push. I hope this helps.
Total top here and this just sums up what I think and my experience about the topic. Spot on
 

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All I can say is .. the mind works on its own sometimes… has you thinking of things that normally wouldn’t think of.. it becomes angrily thing.. whether you want to do it or not it will be there ..

I did know couple guys that the thought of sucking a dick became strong in their minds .. went to try it didn’t like the taste but loved how it felt in their mouths.. so I say put something on it.. pancake syrup .. and start sucking and see how that goes .. they enjoyed it with the syrup on it and once the syrup was gone they kept on sucking..

Other than that I don’t know what to tell you other than when make up your mind to do it follow through
 

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I am 90% top 10% vers and have little to zero satisfaction from being fucked. Rimming has always been a nice sensation, however. As well, my nipples are not sensitive all all. So I top primarily because all my sexual sensation is in my dick and will bottom if I can see there is option to please a bottom-vers guy. Recently I bought a Lovense prostate massager that can get things humming pretty well. Advantage of being a top-vers is there are a lot of bottoms out there!
 

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Well I am different .. I am more bottom than top.. and I am happy with one on one and maybe an occasional threesome.. but I tend to love it when more fuck me .. I just don’t see how guys that bottom these days don’t enjoy it .. but I am totally satisfied with it
 

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I am 90% top 10% vers and have little to zero satisfaction from being fucked. Rimming has always been a nice sensation, however. As well, my nipples are not sensitive all all. So I top primarily because all my sexual sensation is in my dick and will bottom if I can see there is option to please a bottom-vers guy. Recently I bought a Lovense prostate massager that can get things humming pretty well. Advantage of being a top-vers is there are a lot of bottoms out there!
Yh really an advantage lol..especially if you got a nice/big dick. There's an ocean of bottoms to choose from
 
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I've seen many guys claim they have never been a bottom, not even once, and have not engaged in anal masturbation. Is this true? What could be the reasons? Could it be a form of homophobia, or perhaps 'bottom-phobia'?
while i'm not a total top, I think it has to do with the physical fixations of the person, some people are just simply more genital in their fixations and don't have any erogenous associations with their anus. I don't think it's homophobia. different people have sexual energy focused on different parts of their body.

I've encountered 100% bottoms that don't want any genital stimulation whatsoever, they don't even want to be sucked, and they only cum from being fucked. Honestly that's even more of a mystery to me.
 

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I am a pretty much a everything goes kind of guy.. I top guys and screw women and been a bottom a lot..


I have a nice cock and made a few guys moan and say say mmmm that feels so good and so on as well as women.. had a few orgasm as well
 

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I am a pretty much a everything goes kind of guy.. I top guys and screw women and been a bottom a lot..


I have a nice cock and made a few guys moan and say say mmmm that feels so good and so on as well as women.. had a few orgasm as well
Good for you, but I don't see how your experience could be of any relevance to this thread, since clearly you're not a total top.
 

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while i'm not a total top, I think it has to do with the physical fixations of the person, some people are just simply more genital in their fixations and don't have any erogenous associations with their anus. I don't think it's homophobia. different people have sexual energy focused on different parts of their body.

I've encountered 100% bottoms that don't want any genital stimulation whatsoever, they don't even want to be sucked, and they only cum from being fucked. Honestly that's even more of a mystery to me.
I know bottoms like that who don't like their own cocks being touched or sucked. For some, getting sucked does nothing, for others it is even a turn off. The reasons why may vary from person to person. One vers-bottom guy I used to fuck told me that he doesn't like to have another person's head around his genital area; for some reason he didn't like that even though he was cool with being jerked off and fucked, and he gave great oral. Some bottoms do jerk off while getting fucked, but they prefer to do it themselves. Bottoms who don't like to get sucked work perfectly for me because our likes and needs complement each other's perfectly. In the end, you'll find a different degree of compatibility with every new person you encounter.

As I said in my first reply to this thread, we're all different, and that is fine as long as everything is consensual and each person respects their own and their partner's boundaries.
 

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to elaborate a little on the TTs who’ve already responded. For most guys, sexual fantasies start to arise in the mind spontaneously and without any effort from him, around the age of puberty. It’s fascinating how nobody knows where these thoughts come from, as if they’re intruding into your mind from the outside. As such, we don’t really have any control over our fantasies and desires while we become adults, they just show up. For me as a total top, my fantasies were always gay…but they never involved my own ass at all. Fate just didn’t send me those types of desires. For more bottom guys, they started fantasizing about being penetrated, long before they had seen gay porn. They always knew what they wanted because their imagination just gave them ass fantasies. I’m sure I could undertake to get comfortable, and learn to somewhat enjoy being fucked by the right guy, but why bother, ya know? I feel like wanting to be fucked isn’t something you have to grow into. You’ve just always known because the desire has been there since day 1.
 

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i'm loving how the majority of the answers for this question are basically, "It's destiny!!! I was chosen for this!"
Are they? I think self-discovery and choice are more like it. I think the whole point we're trying to make here is that no matter how much direct and/or indirect social pressure there is, each individual is the only one that can figure out what they themselves want and desire. Of course, someone might have never had the desire to bottom, and then found someone they agree to bottom for out of love or whatever. Does that mean it was destiny that they became verse? I'd say not, it wasn't destiny but choice. I'm speaking here about everything happening voluntarily and consensually, obviously.

to elaborate a little on the TTs who’ve already responded. For most guys, sexual fantasies start to arise in the mind spontaneously and without any effort from him, around the age of puberty. It’s fascinating how nobody knows where these thoughts come from, as if they’re intruding into your mind from the outside. As such, we don’t really have any control over our fantasies and desires while we become adults, they just show up. For me as a total top, my fantasies were always gay…but they never involved my own ass at all. Fate just didn’t send me those types of desires. For more bottom guys, they started fantasizing about being penetrated, long before they had seen gay porn. They always knew what they wanted because their imagination just gave them ass fantasies. I’m sure I could undertake to get comfortable, and learn to somewhat enjoy being fucked by the right guy, but why bother, ya know? I feel like wanting to be fucked isn’t something you have to grow into. You’ve just always known because the desire has been there since day 1.
I feel the same. I could potentially make the effort to find someone that I feel comfortable with to try bottoming, but why bother if it's not something I want? I'm already having a lot of fun by topping, doing what I desire and enjoy and, is like to think, being good at it. Even more when there are plenty of bottoms who are only interested in total tops. There's enough game for everyone!
 
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This confirms my being a side. I never fantasized about fucking a guy or being fucked. I always fantasized about sucking and handjobs. Mutual masturbating. Frotting. Body contact. But because everyone only thinks in terms of top or bottom or verse, I and many others like me are forced to choose a role. Its inconceivable that someone can be gay and not like anal. Its treated as if its a fraction of a fraction of all gay men. And people are voicing their displeasure of "Yet another label" when we sides try to speak up and change thinking.

If GAY people can't fathom such a thing, straight people must think it's impossible even more.
Hey, total top here and not at all. We're all different, and there are some things that are very clear to each person from the start and other things that leave room for exploration and self-discovery. I know many pure bottoms who always knew they were so. Before ever kissing a guy or sucking a dick, they were already playing with their ass, sticking things in it and fantasizing about getting fucked. Some tried topping eventually just to confirm what they already knew, which is, that they are bottom.

The exact same thing works for total tops. I never thought about myself being fucked, I don't desire it, my ass is not an erogenous zone for me. My fantasies always involved me sliding my cock in an ass or mouth (mainly ass for that matter, and eventually I confirmed what I always knew, which is that I'm top with a strong urge to fuck raw and breed). A couple of times I tried exploring my ass out of curiosity. My reasoning was "if so many guys are crazy about it, there must be something good to it," but found zero pleasure there. On occasions, guys that I trust and feel comfortable with have asked to rim me and I've let them, but it's for their pleasure as I get nothing out of it. You can think of it similarly to guys who go crazy with nipple or toe play, yet for others those do nothing. Would you call it internalized homophobia or "nipplephobia" if someone doesn't get pleasure from their nipples? As for sucking, I don't particularly enjoy it either, but I'm open to it if I feel comfortable. What I intend to say here is that there was room for exploring on the oral front, even though it's not my preferred thing to do.

In summary, only you yourself can know what you like for sure, what you're not so sure about and what boundaries you can push. I hope this helps.