Question for bi guys with girlfriends

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_henry miller, Dec 5, 2007.

  1. B_henry miller

    B_henry miller New Member

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    I was just wondering if most of you are open with your girlfriends about your attractions to men, or do you keep it a secret. If you did tell them, was it difficult for them to accept at first?
     
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    No. I kept it a secret. I did'nt think that they would understand.
     
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    Depends on the women. One of my girlfriends (more of a fuck buddy), knows everything and thinks it's hot that I can be attracted to both sexs. We have had a some 3somes with other bi guys and she loves watching me get sucked. The other one, I haven't told because I'm not sure about her reaction. She is a very open person, but may be too str8 to handle this information. I guess I will have to tell her if we decide to make this a long-term relationship.
     
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    Some girls can handle it. Some can't. If I'm just fucking someone, they don't usuaully care. The longer I see someone, the more likely it is to come up. But if I'm dating a girl I don't usually talk about prior sexual conquests be they male or female.
     
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    no, because im not bisexual to the point where it interferes with my relationship.

    however, we do watch all types of porn together, and we have a strap on.
     
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    My last girl friend knew about my relationship with my best male friend. She had a similar relationship with her best female friend also so we were honest about these things from the start. I think that's one of the reasons I was attracted to her because she was so cool about that & a lot of other things.
     
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    I had a gf a few years ago who not only accepted it was fully into it she enjoyed nothing more that watching me with another guy, the relationship ended for very different and non sex reasons
     
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    "Depends on the women" is the right answer...
     
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    As a woman ..I prefer that it could just be clear & honest from the get go! But hey who knows..sumtimes the whole thing these days is to keep one in the dark???!!
     
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    I am totally honest with all my relationships about my bisexuality. I don't think it is fair to the other party to not be honest. It is part of who I am and needs to be accepted by anyone that I am going to enter into a relationship with. I would hate to spring the news deep into the relationship and not have the approval of the other party.

    All of my girlfriends have been accepting of it as they know about it before going into the relationship.
     
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    Since I figured out for myself that I was bisexual (to whatever extent) I have always told my girlfriends, its part of me that I feel like they need to know if we are ever going to be open and fully trust one another, why hide it? If they don't like it then they can find someone else.

    In some respects I guess I am a unique case as I have never done anything with another dude but enjoy looking at good looking guys. My girlfriend is incredible and we even talk about which guys we think are hot together, she does the same with me for hot women..its pretty much the best relationship ever!
     
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    :confused:I think thats my problem. I am way too open and honest at all times not just in relationships. If the current trend is to be dishonest it looks like I am in for a longer dating dry spell than anticipated.


    Cool! Now that, that's out of the way when are we going out? :wink:

     
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    My partners (both bi women) know about my sexuality, and knew before I started dating either of them. One of them wants to enjoy a MFM fantasy with me some day, and the other says if I ever want a boyfriend, she knows a few friends she can set me up with. Yeah, so I say they know and accept. I would not have it any other way.
     
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