Question For Bottoms: Pleasure In Anal Sex

titapetita

Legendary Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Mar 2, 2011
Posts
426
Media
18
Likes
1,587
Points
523
Location
Girona (Catalonia, Spain)
Verification
View
Sexuality
90% Gay, 10% Straight
Gender
Male
Tldr: does it really make you moan?

Context:
My boyfriend and I have only been with each other, had no sexual experience aside from what we've done together.

He says that it feels good and feels tickles when I reach his prostate, but that's it.

Now I know that porn is mostly fake, but everywhere you see videos of men losing their shit as they are being fucked and I have to wonder:

Am I doing something wrong? Am I not big enough (5")? (I know size doesn't matter, but I've read experiences about not reaching prostate orgasms with dicks around my size).

So my question really is: is the feeling really that strong? Does it really make you moan and stuff?

We will continue to experiment, have fun, and enjoy, just wanna know if there's something missing there.

Ps: No, I haven't bottomed, we tried, but he is too thick for me, so I have no clue what he is feeling or supposed to be feeling.
 
  • Like
Reactions: DCMMP3

Brodie888

Worshipped Member
Joined
Dec 10, 2015
Posts
3,056
Media
0
Likes
12,702
Points
233
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
My advice would be to invest in a variety of sex toys. At least one vibrator that has the vibration in the tip and a series of progressively thicker dildoes.

In this way you can learn what you like on your own first. If your partner can do the same then you can compare notes.
 

titapetita

Legendary Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Mar 2, 2011
Posts
426
Media
18
Likes
1,587
Points
523
Location
Girona (Catalonia, Spain)
Verification
View
Sexuality
90% Gay, 10% Straight
Gender
Male
My advice would be to invest in a variety of sex toys. At least one vibrator that has the vibration in the tip and a series of progressively thicker dildoes.

In this way you can learn what you like on your own first. If your partner can do the same then you can compare notes.
Thanks for your advice. We purchased a dildo, some cockrings, a "relaxing" lubricant and some more things, cause we want to experiment and enjoy. It's suposed to arrive today.

The thing is, where am I aiming? Is he feeling his best or there's some things he is missing?
 

ArabicBottom

Superior Member
Joined
Dec 17, 2020
Posts
260
Media
0
Likes
2,731
Points
288
Location
Doha, Doha, Qatar
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
Maybe he’s not a moaner. I usually moan but everyone can control it somewhat. If he’s never been with anyone else and doesn’t have experiences with bigger sizes, your size should be alright for him (unless he’s very tall). Speaking of sex toys as another poster said, there are cock extenders you can try. I don’t have a specific recommendation but could be worth looking into
 

Brodie888

Worshipped Member
Joined
Dec 10, 2015
Posts
3,056
Media
0
Likes
12,702
Points
233
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
Thanks for your advice. We purchased a dildo, some cockrings, a "relaxing" lubricant and some more things, cause we want to experiment and enjoy. It's suposed to arrive today.

The thing is, where am I aiming? Is he feeling his best or there's some things he is missing?

It would be easier if he finds it himself. In the shower with some lube, he should use his thumb to feel for his prostate which is usually a round lump the size of a walnut in the front wall of the anus.

The depth is approximately just below the base of his penis. Once he knows where it is, he'll be able to teach you.

For a noobie, I'd recommend a vibrator with varying pulsations. Lelo make good ones.
 

theplayerking

Legendary Member
Joined
Jan 27, 2013
Posts
735
Media
0
Likes
1,169
Points
188
Location
New York City
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
Remember that an ass is not a vagina. Anal sex can, and should feel good, but it’s not the same moan-inducing pleasure that women feel.

Have you considered getting fucked yourself?
 
  • Like
Reactions: pants73
D

deleted1074483

Guest
Remember that an ass is not a vagina. Anal sex can, and should feel good, but it’s not the same moan-inducing pleasure that women feel.
/QUOTE]

I'd disagree about the 'moan inducing pleasure' many bottom guys i've been with have been absolute screamers, moaners, grunters and groaners, so a good fuck can most definitely induce moan producing pleasure.

That said any person male, female or whatever, can be loud or very quiet when having sex - each to their own - so don't get too troubled if your guy doesn't shout and scream, maybe its just not him/his style??
 

titapetita

Legendary Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Mar 2, 2011
Posts
426
Media
18
Likes
1,587
Points
523
Location
Girona (Catalonia, Spain)
Verification
View
Sexuality
90% Gay, 10% Straight
Gender
Male
Thanks all for the answers, we talk things out, he assures me he feels good and doesn't need anymore, but having nothing to compare to, I'm not sure if there's something he's missing.

I tried fingering him and my cock curves up and left, just not sure it's big enough.

Have you considered getting fucked yourself?

We tried, but I just don't find pleasure in it, it's a wierd sensation, but not really enjoyable. I'll try again, see if with practice and losen up a bit feels better.

Again thanks, it seems there's a bit of everything and maybe we are not into anal that much... we'll keep trying if someone has more tips.
 
  • Like
Reactions: deleted1074483

theplayerking

Legendary Member
Joined
Jan 27, 2013
Posts
735
Media
0
Likes
1,169
Points
188
Location
New York City
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
We tried, but I just don't find pleasure in it, it's a wierd sensation, but not really enjoyable.

Getting fucked in the ass feels weird. Period.

For me the greatest pleasure from anal sex is psychological, i.e., the rush I get from having a man inside my body. Any moans I make are more stifled grunts. Do you rim each other? Getting rimmed makes me moan more than anything else.
 

titapetita

Legendary Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Mar 2, 2011
Posts
426
Media
18
Likes
1,587
Points
523
Location
Girona (Catalonia, Spain)
Verification
View
Sexuality
90% Gay, 10% Straight
Gender
Male
Getting fucked in the ass feels weird. Period.

For me the greatest pleasure from anal sex is psychological, i.e., the rush I get from having a man inside my body. Any moans I make are more stifled grunts. Do you rim each other? Getting rimmed makes me moan more than anything else.

Yeah, I was playing with a dildo earlier and came to the same conclusion (pun not intended), it must take time to get used to getting ass fucked and fully enjoy it, at least for me. And he also says that part of what he enjoys of anal sex is a man thrusting, so I guess your take kinda resembles what he feels.

Yeah, I've rimmed him a couple of times, he did like it, but more like a good massage, rather than really good sex. I'll keep trying too.
 

theplayerking

Legendary Member
Joined
Jan 27, 2013
Posts
735
Media
0
Likes
1,169
Points
188
Location
New York City
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
Yeah, I was playing with a dildo earlier and came to the same conclusion (pun not intended), it must take time to get used to getting ass fucked and fully enjoy it, at least for me. And he also says that part of what he enjoys of anal sex is a man thrusting, so I guess your take kinda resembles what he feels.

Yeah, I've rimmed him a couple of times, he did like it, but more like a good massage, rather than really good sex. I'll keep trying too.

Get a butt plug to practice. I love having a toy (or better yet a cock) in my ass while I’m fucking a guy.
 
D

deleted1074483

Guest
Yeah, I was playing with a dildo earlier and came to the same conclusion (pun not intended), it must take time to get used to getting ass fucked and fully enjoy it, at least for me. And he also says that part of what he enjoys of anal sex is a man thrusting, so I guess your take kinda resembles what he feels.

Yeah, I've rimmed him a couple of times, he did like it, but more like a good massage, rather than really good sex. I'll keep trying too.


not everyone gets to like taking dick, not everyone is born to bottom, find what you like and enjoy ;-)
 
6

622675

Guest
Bottoming can be great, but is way over rated in my estimation. I am much more into the oral stuff.

Many guys really get off on it because of the significant body-to-body contact and the feeling that you are giving your partner lots of sexual pleasure.

Perhaps you and your partner might take a look at this link and find a few new positions to try out. Don’t forget to select the “over 18” button at the top of the page.

Gay Sex Positions Guide
 

LICNYCgay

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Dec 26, 2016
Posts
601
Media
160
Likes
7,192
Points
413
Location
New York (United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
Remember that an ass is not a vagina. Anal sex can, and should feel good, but it’s not the same moan-inducing pleasure that women feel.

Have you considered getting fucked yourself?
My experience is different. I find being on the receiving end of a nice cock to be intensely pleasurable. No it’s not a vagina, but it’s moan-inducing pleasure to me, and I’d venture to guess a lot of other guys too.
 

Wine0

Worshipped Member
Verified
Gold
Platinum Gold
Joined
Nov 24, 2018
Posts
1,404
Media
108
Likes
20,530
Points
708
Location
England (United Kingdom)
Verification
View
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
Firstly, can I say that 15cm is about 6” and from the data I found, that is nearly 2cm longer than the ‘average’ penis - so you are definitely above average in length.

As the OP said, bottoming (for me) is 50/50 about the psychological aspect about submitting to another man and the physical feeling of being stretched and thrusted against.

For me, it definitely physically feels more than a ‘tickle’. Perhaps try a different position where your curve can nudge his prostate. From your pics, it looks like you curve to the left, so if he lies on his right and brings his left leg up and you penetrate him, then your penis should be stimulating his prostate.

I don’t know how it works in your culture, or the dynamic between you, but I find that plenty of really dirty talking before sex (in the restaurant or bar even) a quick whisper to him about what you are going to do to him, him nibbling your ear and begging to be dominated…These really get me going before the act.

But, having said all that - anal sex does not have to be the pivotal point of a meaningful relationship. IMHO don’t put too much pressure on the situation.

Let us know how you get on! Best, Wine0 x


What is the average penis size?
 

Donismon

Legendary Member
Joined
Jun 11, 2021
Posts
449
Media
0
Likes
1,168
Points
188
Location
Boston (Massachusetts, United States)
Sexuality
90% Gay, 10% Straight
Gender
Male
isnt all sex mostly mental?? the same with topping being inside of something.

No. Direct physical pleasure comes from the penis head and clitoris/vagina. The anus isn’t meant for sex, so it takes a lot of mental preparation for me. Yes, the prostate can be stimulated, but it takes time to get there.

It’s like giving oral—there’s no physical pleasure in your tongue, but you’re getting off on the act of giving oral.
 

LICNYCgay

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Dec 26, 2016
Posts
601
Media
160
Likes
7,192
Points
413
Location
New York (United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
No. Direct physical pleasure comes from the penis head and clitoris/vagina. The anus isn’t meant for sex, so it takes a lot of mental preparation for me. Yes, the prostate can be stimulated, but it takes time to get there.

It’s like giving oral—there’s no physical pleasure in your tongue, but you’re getting off on the act of giving oral.
I beg to differ. There are all kinds of nerve endings in the anus and that entire region. It is absolutely physically pleasurable to be fucked. At least it can be.