Question for bottoms. What's the fascination with being fucked?

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I guess it is the point that you don't know me that irritated me. If it was a close friend perhaps it would have been different.

For those that know me, I freely admit I'm bi with the caveat that I'm married and faithful to her. Yes, I very much enjoyed being fucked when I experimented. I just find it extremely presumptuous that you think you can determine for me what my sexuality is based on a few lines written on a page. Perhaps if I had included a vivid discription of how a love eating out my wife and fondling and carressing her soft naked body in the shower you wouldn't have been so quick to judge my selection of percentages. But then, that wasn't the subject of this thread. (And I suppose neither is this rant. Sorry Primal.)

To clarify, just because I have my "gayness" set relatively low, that doesn't mean that when I got fucked I enjoyed it any less than a 100% gay man. It is just a very rough measure of my sexual desire.

Hockeytiger... don't let anyone on this site tell you how gay or straight you are. It seems to me that most 100% gay men feel that if you enjoyed a sexual relationship with a man once but you don't anymore then you are somehow denying to yourself who you truly are. There's a reason people are sexual beings, and that's because we have the capacity to enjoy sex however we like. Society is the one who has placed the labels on us as being straight or gay. I applaud you for being so up front and forward about your experiences. I also have had a sexual realtionship with a man, and I enjoyed it, thus my 1%. I mostly love women, but this one guy was someone I cared deeply about and trusted completely, and I still do. If I was to describe a sexual experience I had with him to everyone it wouldn't make me any more "gay", and it doesn't make you anymore "gay" either.

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EFH, I agree and thank you for your kind words.

Bayonet, you unintentionally hit a very raw nerve with me. It has a lot to do with what you mentioned in your first paragraph in your latest post. I'd go into more detail here but I don't want to continue taking Primal's thread off topic. I also appreciate your candor, btw.
 

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This may seem like a rather stupid question, however, as a bi- that considers himself a top, I just don't get it. My buds and I really get into oral sex after vacuum pumping and jokingly regard ourselves as tit, pit and cock pigs. At one time in my life, I was rather promiscious and have fucked more than my share of nice asses and despite being in control have had enough respect for others that no and stop mean exactly that. What I don't understand is where the fascination or thrill comes into play being a bottom. Personally, I hate being rimmed as much as rimming another guy. Sometimes, I wonder if my nerve endings are misplaced or something as I can't even stand being fingered.

Primal--I began as a total top and have become totally versatile over time. I was curious to know what it felt like. Over time, I experimented with ass play with my then BF. Eventually, he showed me how to cleanse myself, taught me how to relax and I tried bottoming. He was not huge (about 5" and not thick) and it was not easy-- when you first try it, you tend to be tense and tight. As I learned to relax, I have come to enjoy the feeling associated with bottoming.

For me, there is something really intense about having someone make love to you (not to mention the pleasure of him hitting your prostate) Like most sex, bottoming is mostly mental. I find it easier to bottom for men I love and I think that being able to offer both ends of the sexual spectrum made it easier to date and find a guy.

I agree that not all people are wired to do it, but I do think that a lot of guys might be missing some pleasure (whether they be gay or straight) by not experimenting with having their butts played with (e.g., rimming, fingerplay while getting head, etc.)
 

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I am strictly a top man myself. My BF cam cum by my fucking his ass, and not touching him anywhere else. I don't get it. I have been fucked once and did not like it. It takes two to play.. or three or four or five or six...heheheheheh
 

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I believe bottoming is an aquired taste. At first you feel nothing and it may even hurt. After you give your brain time to build the neural pathways for enjoyment then it gets better and better. You know that saying," You never know how hungry you are until after you've started eating." I'm a top by the way, but, have experimented with anal stimulation and learned how to enjoy it.
 

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I used to ask the same thing, i used to be only top, but i would suck a guy's dick just to be fair, until I just couldn't take it, so i just thought...hmm, why not just lay back, be passive, endure some pain, and get it over with...and then: OMIGOD! After getting over the pain, i actually started liking it. Not much effort on my part, i was jacked off from behind, and had the most intense orgasm I could ever remember. The point is, you have to try it yourself, try it a few times, and then judge for yourself. If lot's of people, both men and women, enjoy being fucked in the ass, there's some chance that you'll like it too since we're not all that different anatomically.
 

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I guess it is the point that you don't know me that irritated me. If it was a close friend perhaps it would have been different.

For those that know me, I freely admit I'm bi with the caveat that I'm married and faithful to her. Yes, I very much enjoyed being fucked when I experimented. I just find it extremely presumptuous that you think you can determine for me what my sexuality is based on a few lines written on a page. Perhaps if I had included a vivid discription of how a love eating out my wife and fondling and carressing her soft naked body in the shower you wouldn't have been so quick to judge my selection of percentages. But then, that wasn't the subject of this thread. (And I suppose neither is this rant. Sorry Primal.)

To clarify, just because I have my "gayness" set relatively low, that doesn't mean that when I got fucked I enjoyed it any less than a 100% gay man. It is just a very rough measure of my sexual desire.

Hey man, you being fucked by a guy and describing it means you enjoyed it and it was memorable. I don't think it makes you gayer, as you say your % is how you feel, enjoy life, enjoy sex, with male or female or both, don't let anyone tell you how to feel or what type of sex to have.
 

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Hey there,

Like previous posters - I started off as a top (only) though that may have been some misplaced idea of what it was to be a 'man'. In my mid twenties I began to go versatile and will still be a top for a hot butt today.
I call myself a 'bottom' nowadays because if I have a choice and often I do :) I wanna get fucked.
Daily. lol
The fascination of it? well there's the physical side of it - my nerve endings back there are seriously wired to the good spots in my brain. But often it's the mental. Giving up the control or seeming to.
The hottest (at times) is having a guy go hard on me and think he's taking what he needs - but really he's giving me exactly what i want - I guess it's all about that synergy?
Who knows man? Cock in my ass - I'm happy. Chuckle
 

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Perhaps it was presumptuous of me. I have a hard time understanding bisexuality. Whenever I read that a guy enjoys having sex with another guy--even if it only happened once--I automatically assume that he's a closeted homosexual.

A closeted anything is someone who is something but keeps it hidden away and is not willing or indeed able to do anything about it.

Someone who is bi has by and large accepted their sexuality, they enjoy the close company, companionship and or sex with someone of the same gender.


With regards being a Top or bottom I prefer to be a bottom to me there is something about giving yourself to someone ....... apart from that I love the feel of cock inside me :biggrin1:
 

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well i'm not bottom, i'm versatile and i can say that i feel the same but different pleasure
 

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I like you! Can I use that quote?

Hey boy! quote as you please:)
It's a pun from the simple basis of philosophy:

I think, therefore I am

...that in the 1980's got twisted into:

I shop, therefore I am (stil valid today:):)

Cheers,
FinnMan
 

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Perhaps it was presumptuous of me. I have a hard time understanding bisexuality. Whenever I read that a guy enjoys having sex with another guy--even if it only happened once--I automatically assume that he's a closeted homosexual. Maybe that's something I have to work on; maybe it's a prejudice, not sure.

RE: HockeyTiger's "percentages"
Hey Bayonet,
This is My Theory of (affirmative) Sexuality:
WE all have male and female energy within ourselves.
WE are born of woman and man after all.
WE have the ability - which HockeyTiger ever so eloquently and erotically shared with his story - to experience multiple combinations and permutations of these two inner aspects of OUR sexuality.
This gay-straight concept is neither a continuum nor a reality, but the origin of all the divisiveness in the world WE live in today.

When two partners acknowledge two aspects of their sexual energy - this is what's CREATIVELY possible:

M (m) <> (m) M
M (f) <> (m) M
M (m) <> (f) M
M (f) <> (f) M

M (m) <> (m) F
M (f) <> (m) F
M (m) <> (f) F
M (f) <> (f) F

F (m) <> (m) F
F (f) <> (m) F
F (m) <> (f) F
F (f) <> (f) F

I've started a new thread specific to this topic:
http://www.lpsg.org/78799-percentages-my-theory-affirmative-sexuality.html
 

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Question for bottoms. What's the fascination with being fucked?

I know you meant for this to be answered by men. Yet, it's quite simple for me. In spite of the fact I have no prostate gland, it feels fucking awesome! I have had some of my most intense and multiple orgasms from anal sex. I prefer to call them analgasms ( OMG! I call them analgasms, too. ) . :wink: In addition it's not something I will do with just any guy, it's special, intimate. When I choose to share that most intimate part of my self it often becomes VERY primal. :flirt: I actually feel more 'like a woman' with a fat cock, balls deep in my ass.


I knew there was something I liked about you.
 

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I totally understand you man, as a guy who never liked it either. Ive been basically a top and always enjoyed that. But I always wondered about bottoming and wanted to be able to experience all forms of pleasure. So ive worked at it, have tried it and I hafta say, it can be an acquired taste. I've started sometimes enjoying it, and it's hard to describe why....I think it only happens when you can relax. Hafta go thru a certain amount of discomfort at first.....but then there is a moment when the muscles relax and suddenly pleasure kicks in....I still don't like it if the guy goes fast & hard, but slow and sensual can be awesome. Have also noticed that size isnt erally a factor (the small ones can hurt morep than the big ones for some reason.)
 

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... When I choose to share that most intimate part of my self it often becomes VERY primal. :flirt: I actually feel more 'like a woman' with a fat cock, balls deep in my ass.

Hey njqt, are you using my name in vain? :lol:

No seriously, I really appreciate all the responses. Many of you (husbandshung cyberczar, pjbottom and uwsswimguy, in particular) have opened up my eyes and mind so to speak. Tho, I really think my pecs and tits, rather than my ass, are wired to my cock, I'm trying to be open-minded and give it a try.