biguy2738
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bayonet, buddy I wouldn't venture as far as to say that it's a prejudice, I'd say that you've just based your conclusions on a lot of misconception and misunderstanding. Bisexuality is an orientation that's very hard to understand, even for ourselves. I think that if I were in hockeytiger's shoes I would have reacted just as strongly and I am certain that a lot of other bisexuals would have as well. I am telling you this not to make you feel bad, but to reassure you that very little of the reaction is personal but rather the result of having to deal with misconception after misconception and a whole lot of discrimination because of it. It's all too clear that you are trying and I applaud you for it.
Percentile ratios are very misleading. Take for eg a ratio of 20% gay 80% straight. There can be the assumption that 20% of the person is gay while 80% is straight...almost as if it's two different pieces glued together...that we're partly gay and partly straight, which we aren't. We're bisexual and bisexual is bisexual is bisexual. In our instance, it points towards two different things: That as a bisexual, there's a 20% attraction to men and a 80% attraction to women (assuming that we're talking about a male). It also indicates that the person is bisexual but lives out their sexuality in a predominantly heterosexual manner. It need not necessarily mean that the person doesn't enjoy sexual acts, but it's more a case of how it is expressed predominantly in the person's everyday life.
Then of course, there are bisexual men who have absolutely no attraction to men, only to their penises...so it's a case of wham, bam and goodbye and good luck. End of discussion. I got to play with your penis thank you and goodbye. Whereas on the other end of the scale, there are bisexuals who have no interest in sexual activity with a man but thrive on having a deep, loving emotional bond with a guy. There are more than 13 different forms of bisexuality. There's alternating bisexuality where the person is in a monogamous relationship that isn't based on gender, but the person alone. There's integrated bisexuality where the person needs to have a primary relationship with both genders at the same time. Then of course, you also get transitional bisexuals who temporarily identify as being bisexual whilst being in the process of moving from heterosexual to homosexual or vice versa.
I haven't been with a guy so I can't give a definite answer, however I since I am both an emotional and integrated bisexual, I know that I'd love a guy so much that I'd want to give myself over to him in that way. This is my current situation. I haven't been with the man in my life, but when we eventually do reach that place, I know that I'd want to bottom because I'd like to hand myself over to him that way. I hope that the circumstances surrounding such an intimate act will make it a pleasurable and fulfilling experience, otherwise I'll be forced to return with egg on my face. :biggrin1:
