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So I am new to being a bottom. I would appreciate any thoughts on this question...

Do you find that over time, your hole begins to stretch and get less tight the more you receive anal sex? I know there is always a little discomfort at first, but do you find that over time the discomfort lessens?

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Like many things in life, it just depends on the person.

I've bottomed enough over the years that cocks up to a certain size aren't a problem for me anymore. While there is some discomfort upon entry, there is very little actual pain anymore. My stepsons (don't worry, they are over age) say the same thing. Either we've gotten used to it enough or our holes have stretched enough that it's not an issue for us.

But I also know people for whom bottoming has never gotten better for them. One friend in particular experiences just as much pain today as he did 10 years ago when he started bottoming for the first time. He likes bottoming overall, but it's still a 5-10 minute production getting a cock all the way in him the first time each time.
 

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For me, it was only the first 5-10 times that I had pain. or extreme discomfort when taking dick. Now there is no discomfort at all (With enough lube, or a good rimming) up to y'all really hung men, over 8.5" long or over 6.5" around. Almost all the time my hole can take it longer than the guy can give it
 
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@southjock the way I think of it is like any other exercise; like when I first started doing yoga I couldn't stretch my hamstrings completely and I couldn't hold the position for very long without discomfort. The more I worked it out the easier it got.

It's not so much that you're making your hole "looser" per se but stretching it a la hamstrings, and in the process you'll be developing more strength and control.

I have a couple small toys I use on a regular basis including a small buttplug and a vibrator. They aren't "sex" toys per se (I mean, they are, but I don't (just) use them to masturbate lol), they're more like my pushup handles or foam roller. Using those will get you used to stretching and opening up, plus you'll learn a better understanding of your internal goings-on, and it feels fantastic. They aren't meant to mimic a cock per se - I'd use a different toy for that lol - but rather to workout your hole.

What you'll find over time (and faster than you think) is that not only are you going to be able to relax and stretch to take cock with ease, but considerably less pain. There will almost always be some mild pain when a guy first pushes into you, but it's the kind of sensation and typically (for me and probably a lot of bottoms) results in an excited intake of breath because it's also extremely pleasurable.

Also keep in mind that your comfort (or discomfort) has as much (or even more) to do with the top as you training your hole.

Hope this helps, and feel free to PM me if you have any questions as you begin this awesome journey!
 

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Three are several factors. Comfort level with the top (and I find being passion/kissing, etc really helps me relax). There's also depth, some guys are at the length that teases my second opening, but not long enough to get through (so they just pound on it, which can be uncomfortable). The easiest way to adapt is with girth, which you can work up to.

As someone said here, never underestimate the value of lube, and lots of it. It can be the difference between long term pain and a great experience.
 

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Agree w damninbi. There are definitely sizes that need a lot of work, but lots of foreplay and intimacy helps relax. If you trust them and build a connection and are in it together, then that’s what I find helps most.
Otherwise, just slow and steady. The head and top of the shaft is probably what will hurt a little, but once you relax and if he works up to it making sure you’re comfortable and ready, you should be good.
 
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The first five or six times i was fucked were pretty painful, but soon things got much better and now I can easily have an 8- or a 9-incher, thought it should not be thicker than about 6 inches around. It's important to use plenty of lube and very important too is the foreplay, rimming and fingering. And when not bottoming for some time, use a dildo!
 
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You make a good point. I’ve had two deceptively thick ones lately (rock hard fat pipe all the way down). I should have reflected when I struggled to get my mouth around then, lol. They did hurt more esp when one of them was ramming it in hard early. But after a bit fuck it felt good, even though I felt like i was being split in half
 
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I don't think is about stretching, but surely if you get to be fucked by big and thick dicks frequently, it takes a bit of time to return to the normal.
But also you start to get used to the pain and discomfort, you discover how to control better the pain and how to make the dick slides well without hurting so much, so it is a thing that you just discover for youself.
Still today I can sit on big and thick dicks and feel a bit of pain, but also I can do it without feeling the pain. And by checking my hole is just the same as always have been, tight.
 

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It depends how often you're training your hole. If you keep going at it consistently then itll stretch and become easier but if you take long breaks then it will re-tighten

I'm a bottom who sucks a lot more cock than I get fucked with. During pandemic I decided it was a good time for me to train and practice with some of Mrs toys so when things got going again I'd be ready to service a guy as needed. Started with smallest dildo she has... after 4 or 5 mo worked up to being able to take the biggest she has, a monster that's 8.5" around and inserts 11" Yowza... I have to work up to the big ones, start with medium work for a bit then insert a big guy. The big ones aren't so much for pleasure but to feel the fullness of such a big cock. I'm at the point where I can take my favorite cock directly, no warm up. It's a perfect size for fucking. here's the monster I use to prove I can take it ... Now that I've been vax'd I'm looking for a nice top to prove myself with. BBC.jpeg
 

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Unless you're doing some serious hole stretching, you're never going to be permanently more open, and if you take a long break from bottoming (how long depends on your body) you'll eventually tighten right back up again and need to start out with just a finger. That being said, you can train your hole to accept bigger things and over time and regular practice get it to a point where you don't need to do too much to open for a cock. I've been working on that myself since I rediscovered my love of bottoming over the pandemic and I'm looking forward to being a slut when it's safe to do so.
 

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Two important things — a good lube and learning to relax. Also be sensible: if you figure that a cock is too thick say no. I do when I bottom. I'm also glad that I'm long but only of medium thickness and not a beer can. That means that if I lube and angle my cock properly I can go balls deep and also get around a couple of hidden corners. That's when the real fireworks happen
 

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So I am new to being a bottom. I would appreciate any thoughts on this question...

Do you find that over time, your hole begins to stretch and get less tight the more you receive anal sex? I know there is always a little discomfort at first, but do you find that over time the discomfort lessens?

TIA


yes, with both practice, as well as trust and desire for your partner(s) it does become easier. there's plenty of chemical assistance out there too of course, though trust and breathing out as they're going in, helps a lot.
 

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Practice makes perfect. I’ve recently become a bottom myself within the last couple of years. In the beginning I did not like it at all. It was uncomfortable and at times painful. I too it upon myself to do some research and ordered a mid size dildo on amazon. I found using it on myself, taking it slow and going at my own pace without the worry of disappointing my top, helped big time. I found what was comfortable and what wasn’t. How much lube I actually needed, what positions I liked etc. I used this experience when I had sex and it helped significantly. Now I can’t get enough dick inside me. It helped build my comfort and confidence being a bottom and it’s been great. Foreplay is also a big help. Have your ass fingered or rimmed for a bit before penetration. That helps a lot too.
 

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Practice makes perfect. I’ve recently become a bottom myself within the last couple of years. In the beginning I did not like it at all. It was uncomfortable and at times painful. I too it upon myself to do some research and ordered a mid size dildo on amazon. I found using it on myself, taking it slow and going at my own pace without the worry of disappointing my top, helped big time. I found what was comfortable and what wasn’t. How much lube I actually needed, what positions I liked etc. I used this experience when I had sex and it helped significantly. Now I can’t get enough dick inside me. It helped build my comfort and confidence being a bottom and it’s been great. Foreplay is also a big help. Have your ass fingered or rimmed for a bit before penetration. That helps a lot too.
feel the same way it’s like addicting (pun intended)
 

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The more you do it the faster you are able to relax and open up. For me the pain is always intense for the first 5 minutes and when I first started bottoming it was much longer before I could allow them to speed the pace up. I learned really quickly that foreplay and superior lube helps me a great deal. When a guy makes love to me before penetrating me it really does something that makes me more relaxed. Especially if they eat me out and kiss me passionately. Also attraction means a lot when you are bottoming. At least it does for me. If I'm highly attracted and aroused by my partner I think less of the pain and more of the pleasure.
 
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There's so much that goes into this, I think. Attraction, degree of excitement play a role for me. If I'm very excited my hole seems to relax on its own and a little spit is all that's needed. Other times, however, I need a lot of lube to get things rolling. But all in all, I don't experience pain that's beyond a few second pause before continuing on. My partner however has THE tightest hole I think I've ever experienced. It's really tough topping him. I mean like it squeezes the boner out of me. We take our time, play with toys, etc and still I'm soft by the time things are ready to rock. So I bottom more - which is what I prefer anyway.