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So I’ve never bottomed (only topped) though I’d still consider myself more of a bottom. I’ve used dildos & butt plugs but not like regularly so I’m still extremely tight.

It’s never uncomfortable or sore for me but my question is if I play with my hole regularly will it eventually loosen up a little more so it slides in and out quicker without much resistance?
 

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The best part about fucking someone is getting to rim their asses first and spend time doing it.. using tongue then finger working that finger in and out relaxing that asshole can be so much fun.. I use index finger first then middle finger then thumb.. ..

If that’s not enough then have a small dildo few inches long and skinny like the thickness of two of your fingers..


I also like to penetrate the ass some stretch it some then rim it more .. .. then hopefully by then he is ready for the entire thing..

A lot of it is also trusting who you are with.. if don’t trust the guy or in some cases like me guys.. hehe .. if don’t trust then your asshole will tighten up.. it’s not you doing it.. it’s your minds reaction to it ..

Also use a good lube .. there’s a few out there that works awesome .. couple even slightly numbs the asshole.. and cock .. few minutes until penetration is done .. it only lasts few minute so numbness goes away and then you feel him inside you .. unless he’s a quick cummer then all feel is him shooting inside you .


Hope this helps

Is that your ass in profile
 
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The best part about fucking someone is getting to rim their asses first and spend time doing it.. using tongue then finger working that finger in and out relaxing that asshole can be so much fun.. I use index finger first then middle finger then thumb.. ..

If that’s not enough then have a small dildo few inches long and skinny like the thickness of two of your fingers..


I also like to penetrate the ass some stretch it some then rim it more .. .. then hopefully by then he is ready for the entire thing..

A lot of it is also trusting who you are with.. if don’t trust the guy or in some cases like me guys.. hehe .. if don’t trust then your asshole will tighten up.. it’s not you doing it.. it’s your minds reaction to it ..

Also use a good lube .. there’s a few out there that works awesome .. couple even slightly numbs the asshole.. and cock .. few minutes until penetration is done .. it only lasts few minute so numbness goes away and then you feel him inside you .. unless he’s a quick cummer then all feel is him shooting inside you .


Hope this helps

Is that your ass in profile
Not really what I was asking but thanks anyways and yes of course that’s my ass.

I get the trust thing which is a huge part of why I haven’t done it yet as most people here are only looking for a quick fuck and trust takes time to build.

I was more so asking if I played with my hole regularly by myself would it get looser
 

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I am an exclusive bottom, but don’t do it regularly. I do ass play with things that are not the size of an actual dick. I have found that I can’t “loosen” myself and it stay that way. I think I am normal, in that, each time I bottom I need prep.

If I know I’m going to bottom, I take time to clean myself really good, but I also take time to prepare for the time of insertion. I take my time, use a finger, then a small dildo. Once I’m used to the dildo, I use a bigger one. All done slowly. This will stretch me out some. If you leave a larger dildo inside you for a little bit, that will probably help. But that helps that day…for being fucked that day.

I hope that makes sense. I can elaborate or answer questions if you need me to.

Good luck! Bottoming is so gratifying when done properly.
 

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I am an exclusive bottom, but don’t do it regularly. I do ass play with things that are not the size of an actual dick. I have found that I can’t “loosen” myself and it stay that way. I think I am normal, in that, each time I bottom I need prep.

If I know I’m going to bottom, I take time to clean myself really good, but I also take time to prepare for the time of insertion. I take my time, use a finger, then a small dildo. Once I’m used to the dildo, I use a bigger one. All done slowly. This will stretch me out some. If you leave a larger dildo inside you for a little bit, that will probably help. But that helps that day…for being fucked that day.

I hope that makes sense. I can elaborate or answer questions if you need me to.

Good luck! Bottoming is so gratifying when done properly.
Yeah I feel like it goes in quicker after the first insertion but it doesn’t glide in and out easily like there’s so much friction no matter how much lube I use so I can’t imagine that being fun for the other person if an actual dick was used
 

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Yes, "training" yourself using a dildo will help.

But the point being made by other posters is that half of it is psychological.

Start small, take your time, use plenty of lube and most importantly remember to actually enjoy yourself.
 
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Not really what I was asking but thanks anyways and yes of course that’s my ass.

I get the trust thing which is a huge part of why I haven’t done it yet as most people here are only looking for a quick fuck and trust takes time to build.

I was more so asking if I played with my hole regularly by myself would it get looser
Certainly playing with your asshole and using toys and fingers is a good way to get your muscles used to being penetrated, and also a nice way to enjoy a wank. Hopefully it wouldn't become looser but more used to being receptive. I think you're right not to go with the quick fuck brigade - and I bet you're a good fucker so why not turn the tables. Many of us in the past have given in to the quick fuck thinking it will be better this time but believe me when you are with a man you know and trust and give in to his demands the fucking is incredible
 
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In my experience yes - the more I bottom with toys or cock the easier & more quickly I open to both. The less I do it the more I tighten up and have to open more gradually/gently.

Still it's like riding a bike: once you do it you never forget. :cool:

The secret to opening is to push like you're defecating. That's what relaxes anal sphincter muscles. What allows poop out lets cock/toys in. :)
 
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Yes, "training" yourself using a dildo will help.

But the point being made by other posters is that half of it is psychological.

Start small, take your time, use plenty of lube and most importantly remember to actually enjoy yourself.
Yeah I got that but when I’m doing it I’m completely relaxed so I don’t think it’s psychological for me since I can tell if it’s me tightening my hole. I can get it in easily it’s just taking it back out that feels more difficult because it has a tight grip
 

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In my experience yes - the more I bottom with toys or cock the easier & more quickly I open to both. The less I do it the more I tighten up and have to open more gradually/gently.

Still it's like riding a bike: once you do it you never forget. :cool:

The secret to opening is to push like you're defecating. That's what relaxes anal sphincter muscles. What allows poop out lets cock/toys in. :)
Yeah it’s not the getting in I have a problem with it’s the pulling out
 

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Yeah it’s not the getting in I have a problem with it’s the pulling out
That's kinda hot, I'd love to experience that tightness when pulling out :rolleyes:
But yeah, it will get easier with time, as you get to learn and know your body more and more.

In the meantime... Just look for a top who is considerate. Make sure you remark that you're inexperienced and you need someone to be absolutely gentle and slow at the beginning. I wish I could take care of that for you :cool: