Question for gay/bi guys who remember the pre Internet days

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_jeepguy2, Dec 11, 2010.

  1. B_jeepguy2

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    Would you have ever acted on your same sex attraction if the Internet had not provided a discreet means of meeting other men with similar interests?

    I doubt I ever would have, just curious how many other guys are the same.
     
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    If I hadnt had sex before the internet era it would have been a sad life.
     
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    Have been BI for as long as I can remember....before I was 9 or 10 y/o anyway.....and I've enjoyed the benefits of being BI ever
    since. The Internet is NEW compared to my BI-ness...:biggrin:

    I will say this....being a BI ISN'T EASY!!.
    It's not understood, nor is it accepted by most straights, gays,
    or the general public. The straights and gays think we are
    "confused"...or...are we are "really gay" and just hiding behind
    the gay lable.

    So....except for here, I never tell or discuss with anyone what my sexual persuasion is. Besides, it is none of their business
    anyway. When I used to meet a gay and the subject came up,
    I usually would state up-front to them that I am BI, but it never
    failed to cause problems, so I stopped. To tell you the truth,
    I've been treated as a pariah by most gays, so now maybe 99%
    of my friends are straight. All they know is that I am divorced
    and a father of 2 sons...and don't have a clue about my sexual
    identity!

    So, since I don't have much of an outlet, otherwise...YES...I use lpsg to vent and to say things that I want to say but can't
    otherwise. It is a great place and I'm very thankful that lpsg
    exists.
     
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  4. novice_btm

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    I think it has definitely enabled a LOT of people to pursue urges and curiosities that they never would have otherwise explored. I know that for me, it opened up a lot of opportunities that I would've never otherwise had. It also allowed me to learn an incredible amount about sexuality, including some things that I probably wished I still didn't know. If nothing else, I think it made a lot of us realize the somewhat trite, but true, idea that, "You're not alone." When you go online, whatever ordinary urge, or obscure fetish, you could possibly imagine, has a website, or 20, devoted to it. Whatever it is that used to secretly turn you on in your own little isolated mind, now makes you part of a larger community, thanks to the internet bringing you and your kind together. Two that pop to mind, one posted here a year or so ago, and another that I saw on a TV documentary on sexuality:
    1) Arousal from watching hot chicks farting over a plate of food
    2) Arousal from blowing balloons up to the point where they pop

    No judgment. Whatever floats your boat, buddy. :tongue:

    But yes, the internet definitely opened things up for me.
     
  5. mandoman

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    I did act once on my bi urges, in the pre-internet days.
    It turned out awful.
    I never did it again.
    I hurt my wife, and never want to be in that situation again, ever.
     
  6. B_cockluv10

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    The internet didn't come along til I was in my 30s.
    When I was a twink (we were called chickens back then) I hooked up by hitchhiking and hitting the cruising spots. Once I could get in to the adult bookstores that was another option.
    It was a dangerous time and I'm glad we have the internet now. It's much easier and safer.
     
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    I met most of the guys before I had the internet by going to gay groups in the city and some hotlines. Much better since have the internet. It's where I met my boyfriend and we've just been together for four years now :)
     
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    I think the internet has altered the gay life forever, for better or worse.

    Before online and thousands of hook-up websites (Manhunt, Adam4Adam, Craigslist, etc.), many gay/bi guys met guys via phone lines or personal ads - imagine taking that major leap of faith of agreeing to meet someone for a "blind date" without seeing a photo first (!) and/or all those vital stats, ht/wt, hung or not, interests, turn ons, etc. Before the rise of online, I think a lot more gay/bi guys met other guys in real life - going to clubs or bars, at the store, at the park, at work, through friends, at parties, in some back alley, whatever - but now I predict since the internet, the vast majority of guys who USED to go out never go out much at all anymore. The result? Even though the internet may make you feel "connected" to the global village and meet/communicate with people you most likely never would before, at the same time it can be "isolating," i.e. everyone's shut in at home, solo, hunched over a computer, plugged in online checking email & websites (like this one!) with ADD attention span and a checklist, rather than taking the time to get to know someone, rather than out in "real life" meeting guys the "old-fashioned way." Bottom line: while the internet is the most revolutionary invention in decades, it's changed (ruined?) the gay lifestyle and there's no going back.
     
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    Interesting thread!
     
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    Of course I had sex with other guys before the Internet! In major cities before the Internet, many (most?) gay bars were primarily or only for cruising and picking up guys or being picked up. I remember guys rhetorically asking each other why they were going out to a gay bar if they were NOT planning to try to get laid. Since the Internet, a lot more guys look for sex online, and gay bars have more groups of friends just there to drink and chat and not to cruise. (I've been going to gay bars in major metro areas around the country for the last 25 years.)
     
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    In the dark days before the internet, I used to visit the bathhouses. I was fortunate I lived in a city open enough to have a few of these. At least, in a bath house, I did not need to guess the sexual preference of the patrons.
     
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    Thats true, without the net...i would've become some pedo's lucky day or the blk creep at the mall:eek: (sunny day at burlington mall, this dude was trying to lure me away from the mall and get my number, i said no and walked away, talking about he mentors young boys!! so sick!); i wouldve took him up on his offer to see' something..but i passed on the opurtunities because i know yahoo user rooms were waiting when i got home...so many hot encounters:redface:, miss the user rooms. I wouldnt be who i am today. my self asteem would b a lil high instead of mega super high from guys saying im gorgeous and vry thick lol..YIM and AIM were my hookup places.. chat rooms chat rooms and even myspace twice...every and any type of porn for every second of the day. from creampie to bukkake....from there to a gangbang with uncut guys to broke straight guys and unglory hole! oOOOOooo gay-torrents:cool:
     
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    I tried a few of the phone chat lines lol lavalike, gaysingles...just use the trials up and then hang up....my friend lamar is a total fem and he used to fake his voice to be a woman and meet people. but in chat, i would be so quick to turn on a webcam...i was so obsessed, being a young computer geek, i made sure the cam was cheap and had good quality :shocked::booty::adam4: saw some crazy shit as a kid on aol...
     
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