Question for gay guys regarding bisexual guys

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

What???

I know my meat is bigger than average but it's not so huge you have to say WHAT??? when I want to poke you with it.

 

[Countryguy63]

I know my meat is bigger than average but it's not so huge you have to say WHAT??? when I want to poke you with it.

doggonnit hootie, do I have to explain everything??

WHAT?? simply means....repeat that again , and again, and again and......:biggrin1:

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

doggonnit hootie, do I have to explain everything??

WHAT?? simply means....repeat that again , and again, and again and......:biggrin1:

I'll meat you in the hayloft at midnight.

 

[Capitolhillguy]

I have done male erotic massage for over 20 years. The vast majority of my clients ( now in the thousands) have been sexually involved with women as well. Gay men make up only about a third of my clients, all of whom want to get off. Many wait till they are over middle age before becoming interested in trying something with a dude. They may only do it once, but they are still bisexuals after that point IMHO.

 

[Lex]

Of course they exist. Anyone that wishes to believe otherwise is obviously harboring some sexual insecurities regarding their own orientation (whether they identify as gay or straight.

Oh. It's you again.

They are like perennials, aren't they? You cut them back, drop down chemicals and still they keep sprouting up!

 

[houtx48]

In the immortal words of Carrie Bradshaw " bisexual is just a stop on the road to gayville''.

 

[B_just8inches]

what u thought the bisexual phenomenon was exclusively a girl thing?

 

[DiscoBoy]

I believe they exist. I don't think many people would go through the trouble of sleeping with people they didn't want to for the sake of keeping up an image. At least I hope not.

Gay men don't want you because you still want women.
If I was gay, I wouldn't need the emotional, sexual, and just plain physical touch of a woman. If I was straight I wouldn't get turned on by men, and gay porn.
Bisexual exists, and in my experience, it is not the best of both worlds. Each world doesn't want you because you're part of the other world. What seems like something that would be good, is a curse.

Just going to pick at a couple of things in your post.

Personally, it'd be a lot more difficult for me to date a bi man than it would be to date a gay man. For a couple of reasons, one, I know I wouldn't be able to completely fulfill them sexually, and more importantly, because I'd have a constant fear of not having my emotions returned. Your post kind of reinforces that fear. You write that if you were to life as a gay man, you would miss the emotional aspect of being with a woman, but that if you were straight, you wouldn't get turned on by men. You don't mention anything about missing an emotional connection with men. Does that mean you don't feel an emotional connection with men? Could you have a relationship with a man that went beyond sex? I don't mean to be rude and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I'm just genuinely curious.

There's also the fact that bisexual men still have a chance to have a child with a woman, unlike gay men. I mean, there have been rare incidents where a gay man "changed" his sexuality and developed a relationship with a woman and had a child, but it's uncommon. With bisexual men, it's very possible, and I just think that every gay man has an innate fear that their bisexual life partner may just one day decide that he wants children and leave.

 

[hud01]

In the immortal words of Carrie Bradshaw " bisexual is just a stop on the road to gayville''.

Nah

Sucked my first dick almost 30 years ago, still prefer the touch, feel, smell of a woman.

 

[hud01]

Henry, I can tell you without a doubt that bisexuality is real. I know, I live through the hell every day. I wish, gawd do I wish that I was either gay or straight. I'm wondering if I will ever have the comfort that they each enjoy. This board is not the real world. In the real world, women don't want a guy that can enjoy looking at cocks or that have been with men sexually. Gay men don't want you because you still want women.
If I was gay, I wouldn't need the emotional, sexual, and just plain physical touch of a woman. If I was straight I wouldn't get turned on by men, and gay porn.
I absolutely hate it when the unknowledgable claim that we're just afraid to admit we're gay. Sure, some guys have hidden their sexuality, married women, and then finally admitted that they were gay. I'm not against being gay. I'm not afraid that I'm gay, especially with it out there "in your face" so much nowadays. I tried living as a gay man. I MISSED the touch of a woman, I DESIRED a woman. But, I am also turned on by a man. Your picture makes my blood start pumping faster.

Bisexual exists, and in my experience, it is not the best of both worlds. Each world doesn't want you because you're part of the other world. What seems like something that would be good, is a curse.

It is more difficult, but it is possible. I dated a girl who got wet just thinking about me sucking a cock. unfortunately she was psycho jealous so it ended after almost 4 years, but they are out there.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

doggonnit hootie, do I have to explain everything??

WHAT?? simply means....repeat that again , and again, and again and......:biggrin1:

Explain to me how I did it to you last night so I can repeat it again. I was too much in the moment to remember anything but the warmth of your body, the strength and tautness of your buns. That horse riding does you good.

 

[B_VinylBoy]

This is an honest question for the gay members of this forum.

Do you believe that bisexual men actually exist? Or do you think that "bisexual" is a term gay men use to describe themselves while still struggling to accept themselves as gay men?

Thanks.

In all honesty, I do believe bisexuality exists.
The only reason why I state this is because one of my first long-term relationships was with a woman and it does bring back a number of happy and positive memories that shape me to this day. Even if I know my overall personal and sexual preferences are geared towards men, there is a part of me that seeks for that small portion of companionship that I feel only a woman can fill. And after many years of dealing with this, I know that many of these things is not sexual. Regardless of that, I still know these things are smaller in comparison to the things I know would make me happy overall. Which is why I try to make my percentages on this web site to illustrate what I believe.

Don't be so afraid of what a "label" will categorize you to be. Feel free to experiment and take chances. It'll only make you a better person in the long run.

 

[BIGBULL29]

Hahaha! Of course it is.:biggrin1:

Why do you doubt the existence of bisexuals Henry?
Men as well as women can and are bisexual. My husband is bisexual as am I and I never had a problem having sex or being emotionally involved with men or women and I don't really have a preference.
I think I would have been happy being with the right woman or with the right man had they been available.
C.B.:saevil:

That's what I love about you, C.B. You are so enlightened about human sexuality. You allow people to be who they are sexually, which is so rare.

People are often so baffled by me because I won't label myself. They don't get it: I can get off on hot lipstick lesbian scene with the best of them, and then get blown in the other direction, wanting nothing more than to watch two dudes kiss.

 

[Countryguy63]

Explain to me how I did it to you last night so I can repeat it again. I was too much in the moment to remember anything but the warmth of your body, the strength and tautness of your buns. That horse riding does you good.

HooWee hootie,

We'd hijack this thread for sure if I posted that here :biggrin1:. I saw stars for hours :wink:

**2 hrs, 23 mins, and 23 secs till midnight** - Yippee

 

[B_henry miller]

Hahaha! Of course it is.:biggrin1:

Why do you doubt the existence of bisexuals Henry?
Men as well as women can and are bisexual. My husband is bisexual as am I and I never had a problem having sex or being emotionally involved with men or women and I don't really have a preference.
I think I would have been happy being with the right woman or with the right man had they been available.
C.B.:saevil:

Great to hear. Thanks! :smile:

Just a clarification: I have never doubted that bisexuality exists. I now use the label "bisexual" to describe myself.

I had, however, believed that many people don't believe bisexuals really exists. I've heard this from friends and family. My sister, who is very "gay positive" (heterosexual but has always had gay friends), has said that whenever a guy says he is bisexual what he really means is he's in the initial stages of accepting his homosexuality.

Or maybe I just watch too many episodes of Friends..... :biggrin1:
YouTube - Bi_Sexuals.......by Phoebe Buffay-----FRIENDS

 

[B_henry miller]

By the way, there's actually a term for what I'm referring to in this thread: bisexual erasure.

Bisexual erasure - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[B_henry miller]

That's what I love about you, C.B. You are so enlightened about human sexuality. You allow people to be who they are sexually, which is so rare.

People are often so baffled by me because I won't label myself. They don't get it: I can get off on hot lipstick lesbian scene with the best of them, and then get blown in the other direction, wanting nothing more than to watch two dudes kiss.

Um. I get it.

I've sometimes toyed with the label pansexual, but virtually no one even knows what that means. Pansexuality - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[428058]

Of course bi men exist. It's simply a matter of fact. Although many gay men seem to think when a guy says he is bi he simply is covering up being gay, that is simply not true. It's about time gay men learned to be inclusive like they want others to be of them.

 

[B_henry miller]

Today I was reacquainted with a woman I am attracted to, and I think about dating here. Then I worry, "What would she think if she knew I am attracted to another man?"

I just want to choose sides because I think it will be easier for me. Obviously, the easiest side to choose would be the straight side (path of least resistence). But then I know I love men as well.

Not fully gay. Not fully straight. That's how I feel.

Henry, I can tell you without a doubt that bisexuality is real. I know, I live through the hell every day. I wish, gawd do I wish that I was either gay or straight. I'm wondering if I will ever have the comfort that they each enjoy. This board is not the real world. In the real world, women don't want a guy that can enjoy looking at cocks or that have been with men sexually. Gay men don't want you because you still want women.
If I was gay, I wouldn't need the emotional, sexual, and just plain physical touch of a woman. If I was straight I wouldn't get turned on by men, and gay porn.
I absolutely hate it when the unknowledgable claim that we're just afraid to admit we're gay. Sure, some guys have hidden their sexuality, married women, and then finally admitted that they were gay. I'm not against being gay. I'm not afraid that I'm gay, especially with it out there "in your face" so much nowadays. I tried living as a gay man. I MISSED the touch of a woman, I DESIRED a woman. But, I am also turned on by a man. Your picture makes my blood start pumping faster.

Bisexual exists, and in my experience, it is not the best of both worlds. Each world doesn't want you because you're part of the other world. What seems like something that would be good, is a curse.

 

[Countryguy63]

I believe they exist. I don't think many people would go through the trouble of sleeping with people they didn't want to for the sake of keeping up an image. At least I hope not.

Just going to pick at a couple of things in your post.

Personally, it'd be a lot more difficult for me to date a bi man than it would be to date a gay man. For a couple of reasons, one, I know I wouldn't be able to completely fulfill them sexually, and more importantly, because I'd have a constant fear of not having my emotions returned. Your post kind of reinforces that fear. You write that if you were to life as a gay man, you would miss the emotional aspect of being with a woman, but that if you were straight, you wouldn't get turned on by men. You don't mention anything about missing an emotional connection with men. Does that mean you don't feel an emotional connection with men? Could you have a relationship with a man that went beyond sex? I don't mean to be rude and I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I'm just genuinely curious.

There's also the fact that bisexual men still have a chance to have a child with a woman, unlike gay men. I mean, there have been rare incidents where a gay man "changed" his sexuality and developed a relationship with a woman and had a child, but it's uncommon. With bisexual men, it's very possible, and I just think that every gay man has an innate fear that their bisexual life partner may just one day decide that he wants children and leave.

Hi DBoy,

You didn't offend me at all:smile:. Remember, just like with all other aspects of people, there are many different levels of bisexual. However, you got me right. Men to me are sexually exciting, but with women, I can feel that deep emotional desire and love, along with that sexual turn on. I don't think that you really can guage bisexuality by percentages, but that's our only option here, and you'll notice that I rated myself at 60% straight, 40% gay. It's that emotional feeling that tipped the scale. Although right now since I'm single, I'm probably more 50/50. I'll go out with either. (That's a plug for anyone interested :biggrin1:, hahahah)

I see someone popped in an earlier post and said that it was just a stop on the road to gay. It's just that kind of lack of understanding that I was referring to in one of my previous posts. You see, at one time, I thought I was gay. At that time I had no knowledge of bisexuality and what it meant. I just knew that I got turned on by guys, so figured "Ok, I'm gay. I had a full on gay relationship with a guy for almost a year. We went out in public, we took vacations together, cooked dinners, etc. Everything that any other couple does. He was a great guy and everything I would look for if I was gay. I was very fond of him, just never got that deep emotional love that I have gotten with my serious relationships with women. With my last gf of 3 years, I even came to the conclusion that as long as I could "be out" as a bisexual man, and not have to hide the fact that I can see an attractive man, or get turned on looking at naked men or man-sex, I could be happy being monagomously in a relationship with a woman. But, she had almost the same concerns you have, only in reverse, and left me. So, now I'm looking for men and/or women to have fun with. (Damnit, another blatant attempt at a plug for me :redface::biggrin1

She let her fear of what "might" happen, cause her to loose the opportunity to be with a man who truly loved her and would have stood by her the rest of her life. This is exactly why I don't want my feelings to scare you, or cause you concern. As I said before, there are so many levels of bisexuality, including guys that CAN be with either men or women sexually, but may choose YOU to be that one in their life, above all else. Don't let the "what if's" or "mights" cause you to overlook anybody. You have just as much chance being in a relationship with a 100% gay guy, and it not working out.

I hope that I helped a bit. If not, I'd be happy to accept a trip up to Canada to help you in person:biggrin1::biggrin1: