I remember reading Don De Lillo's 'Americana'; there's a piece where a guy picks up the protaganist in his car, turns a little crazy and basically says; 'whichever one of us has got the biggest dick is the top'. Seems to me there is a connection; I think the same rules apply in a lot of porno movies. Personally, I'm usually bigger than the guys I sleep with and I usually top (regardless of whether I want to or not) so don't know if that says anything
Hey, I think it's all about the attitude.
I had fooled around with only a few guys during college, but I was always the top. The first time I got fucked by a guy, I was about 23-24 yo.
I'm 6'5, 218# with 9.25" dick-- very thick at the base. He was about 5'10, 175#, with an average 6/7-incher.
We didn't know it was going to happen. It just did. We met at a hotel conference, hung out together and started fooling around on the last night in his room. After some mutual body groping, j/o and 69, I said "I don't have a rubber." He said, "No problem." He left and then came back wearing one! (#$%^&*!!) I thought he was getting the rubber for me!!
Me:
I'm going to fuck
you, right?
Him: No way dude, just bend over. (HE WAS SERIOUS)
Me: I...I....I never did it that way before.
Him: Don't worry, I know what I'm doing. Just c'mon (HE WAS VERY SERIOUS). He started to turn me around and push my head down on the bed. He was so "matter of fact" about it-- like this is the way it's going to happen-- no discussion. No one had ever talked to me or treated me like that before. I was totally out of my comfort zone.
Now, I know that I could have definitely punched this guy's lights out, but
my size didn't matter to him. He just had that cocky, don't-fuck-with-me-tonight-cause-I'm-the-butch-and-you're-the-bitch ATTITUDE!
DAMN, THAT WAS HOT!
