I'm a grower for sure, and I'm freeballing/commando every chance I can. As men, our cocks experience various sizes throughout the day - from the very flaccid stage where we're not having any horny thoughts... to a 'gotta pee' fullness that isn't a semi-erection but is simple a longer/fuller hang... to a semi-aroused fullness that can swing nicely in silky thin shorts.
I embrace all those various stages in my commando shorts and I'm happy to catch others looking (more guys than women).
I look at it this way... we see women in T'shirts or blouses without a bra and their nipples are obvious. I don't have any problems with that, but the same rule applies to men... we deserve to have a VPL without judgement.