Seems on lots of sites I visit there are many guys actively seeking or willing to meet "women or couples". Please help me out here; I'm a little confused. I'm not judging, just wondering what the average spectrum of such a search really means.
I don't know much about MMF situations; I've never been in one. Last time I was even partially undressed in bed with a woman was back in college. But it seems to me that if you're straight, you're looking to be with a woman and if you're gay, you're looking to be with another man. And I understand the concept of bi, though in my experience most bisexuals in fact lean one way or the other. Some don't.
So what's up with so many guys saying they're cool with "women or couples"? At first I thought it was from guys indicating they were somewhat bi. But then I started seeing profiles (not here) from guys saying "Thanks for the interest in my profile/pics guys, but I'm NOT INTO GUYS AT ALL. Totally 100% hetero. Stop messaging me. Only seeking women or couples."
WTF?
Does this mean it's just a ploy to get to the female of the couple, and you're going to lock the boyfriend or husband in the bathroom? Or seeking couples where the guy is a cuckold? Does it mean "I want to fuck your wife, and you can be in the bed, too, but if you so much as look at me I'm out of there"? We can both touch her or even fuck her at the same time and make skin contact with each other, but only inadvertently? What about friendly fire? Or "I like guys but just enough that you can hold my balls while I fuck your wife"? Or "I'll never admit it in my profile but I'll trade handjobs/blowjobs with you but the woman is still our focus"? Or could be any of the above?
Firstly I'm trying to reconcile the somewhat defensive or even homophobic comments with the willingness to hook up with couples -- and I'm pretty sure they don't mean lesbian couples. But I'm also curious about what a lot of guys expect or are willing to try when they advertise for "women & couples" or "seek women; couples OK". Are the latter 2 different and I'm missing the nuance here?
I sort of get it where the advertiser is partnered, and seeks women or couples. That implies to me that he's happy with either a) getting to the woman himself or b) swapping. But single guys advertising for women or couples is still a mystery to me. I try to put myself in that position and imagine whether I would be comfortable in a situation with an M-F couple, and I'm really not. If I want the guy, I want the guy. Period. If I'm turned on by a particular woman, I want to be with just her, but definitely no guy around. Of course, I haven't tried it, so I'm not ruling it out definitively.
In my heart I'd like to believe that the explosion of such ads indicates that men all over America are getting comfortable enough with their sexuality that another guy in the bed doesn't bother them, and they might even be happy to get off with the other guy. But something tells me it doesn't....
I don't know much about MMF situations; I've never been in one. Last time I was even partially undressed in bed with a woman was back in college. But it seems to me that if you're straight, you're looking to be with a woman and if you're gay, you're looking to be with another man. And I understand the concept of bi, though in my experience most bisexuals in fact lean one way or the other. Some don't.
So what's up with so many guys saying they're cool with "women or couples"? At first I thought it was from guys indicating they were somewhat bi. But then I started seeing profiles (not here) from guys saying "Thanks for the interest in my profile/pics guys, but I'm NOT INTO GUYS AT ALL. Totally 100% hetero. Stop messaging me. Only seeking women or couples."
WTF?
Does this mean it's just a ploy to get to the female of the couple, and you're going to lock the boyfriend or husband in the bathroom? Or seeking couples where the guy is a cuckold? Does it mean "I want to fuck your wife, and you can be in the bed, too, but if you so much as look at me I'm out of there"? We can both touch her or even fuck her at the same time and make skin contact with each other, but only inadvertently? What about friendly fire? Or "I like guys but just enough that you can hold my balls while I fuck your wife"? Or "I'll never admit it in my profile but I'll trade handjobs/blowjobs with you but the woman is still our focus"? Or could be any of the above?
Firstly I'm trying to reconcile the somewhat defensive or even homophobic comments with the willingness to hook up with couples -- and I'm pretty sure they don't mean lesbian couples. But I'm also curious about what a lot of guys expect or are willing to try when they advertise for "women & couples" or "seek women; couples OK". Are the latter 2 different and I'm missing the nuance here?
I sort of get it where the advertiser is partnered, and seeks women or couples. That implies to me that he's happy with either a) getting to the woman himself or b) swapping. But single guys advertising for women or couples is still a mystery to me. I try to put myself in that position and imagine whether I would be comfortable in a situation with an M-F couple, and I'm really not. If I want the guy, I want the guy. Period. If I'm turned on by a particular woman, I want to be with just her, but definitely no guy around. Of course, I haven't tried it, so I'm not ruling it out definitively.
In my heart I'd like to believe that the explosion of such ads indicates that men all over America are getting comfortable enough with their sexuality that another guy in the bed doesn't bother them, and they might even be happy to get off with the other guy. But something tells me it doesn't....