Question for guys married with children

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  1. suineg

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    Guys... when your wives were pregnant did they ever loose all interest in sex, blow jobs or hand jobs?

    My wife is carrying our second right now and is in her 6th month. We stopped all activity last month and she started telling me to handle it myself. I am worried, because with our first kid, she lost all interest in the 5th month and didn't touch me again for almost a year!!

    Any similar stories?
     
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    I've not experienced this, as I don't have a wife or children. But I've heard it time and time again by many of my coworkers.

    It's always the same thing. Half way through pregnancy, the wife loses interest. Then it's usually a year after the birth before any sexual action picks back up. And then it tends to be mediocre and far between.

    I think what we don't realize is that even though we don't see "the changes the wife goes through during pregnancy", the wife feels them. And the nature of being pregnant stunts any sexual desire.

    For instance... look at it in a nature standpoint. When an animal gets inpregnated. There isn't any sexual activity until after the fetus is born. And then it's still only for mating purposes.

    I would suggest buying a fleshlight and a great lube. Otherwise, it's going to be a very long year.

    Or, if you have an open minded friend, let him take care of it for you.
     
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    although it has been 20 yrs ago, I had a similiar experience. my wife was pregnant with our 2nd child and we stopped having sex about the 4th month. I was "on my own" for about 6 months. I started some PE, stretches and jelqing, and I didn't really notice any changes, but when we resumed our sex, my wife asked me "what or who I had been doing?" because she said I was larger(thicker). She also at this time got a little cock "obsessed". she and her gf down the street got hold of some old porno put on a VHS tape, had John Holmes on it. She would get together at her gf's house after the kids were in bed. I would go to bed, and she would come home 2 hrs later give me a nice BJ, and ride my fat boy. She did not turn into a size queen, but sure gave my cock a lot of admiration(BJs), and a workout. Sex 1-2 a day was common again, like it was when we were first married and no kids. She said she never realized it before, but my cock was thicker than most guys in those porno tapes, and realized she had a "rare" man. we had been married about 10 yrs at this point. one day she BJs me to full, ready to pop, massive hard on and measures me. a couple days later, she tells me that she is fucking the biggest cock out of her little group of girlfriends. ME!!! her gfs are jealous. anyway, we moved, and time and the years passed and the sexual heat died down, but it was fun while it lasted. so while you are "on your own", bolster your cock.
     
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    Welcome to the world of being married with children :rolleyes: Even if your wife doesn't lose interest in sex you will have so little time (or be so worried about waking the baby) that the best you can hope for is mediocre sex from now on :frown1:. Unless of course you're lucky like 625girth whose experience sounds like the script for a porn movie!
     
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    Not that I'm preaching or saying that you did nothing more to help......but many men don't realize that women just get so tired after the baby is born that with all of the extra work a baby causes and still doing all of the normal things they were already doing before they had the baby that sex is probably the last thing on their minds. Yes with some women it's purely a physical thing and no matter what you do you're still going to be stuck....but sometimes taking on a little more of the responsibility like making sure there is no laundry/dishes/cleaning for her to do on top of the baby might get you a little more action. Just an opinion and not a concrete way to get more sex. Also during pregnancy some want it and some want nothing to do with itso that's totally a toss up......all I can really say is just be patient and do the best you can to encourage her while being sensitive and finding a way to cope with the situation. After all.....aren't your children worth a little inconvienence?
     
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    Married with children, eh?

    'Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the house,
    No food was a stirring, not even a mouse.
    Stockings were hung round Dad's neck like a tie,
    Along with a note that said "Presents, or die!"
    Children were plotting all night in their beds,
    While the wife's constant whining was splitting his head.
    But Daddy had money this year in the bank.
    Then they closed up early. Now Dad's in the tank.
    And all of a sudden Santa appeared,
    A sneer on his face, booze in his beard.
    "Santa," I said as he laughed merrily,
    "You do so much for others, do something for me."
    "Bundy," he said, "you only sell shoes,
    "Your son is a sneak-thief, your daughters' a flooze.
    "Ho ho!" Santa said, "should I mention your wife?
    "Her hair's like an a-bomb, her nails, like a knife."
    As he climbs up the chimney, that fat piece of dung,
    He mooned me two times, he stuck out his tongue.
    And I heard him exclaim, as he broke wind with glee:
    You're married with children: you'll never be free."


    —Al Bundy
     
  7. MarkLondon

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    Lol, I loved that show.
     
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    While she was pregnant my wife was still pretty keen to have sex right up to her 7th month. Of course after the baby was born things tapered off quite a bit for a while. I won't sweat it too much things will be back to normal before too long and until then you're just going to have to take matters into your own hands. Best of luck and congrats.
     
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    you also need to consider that she may not feel sexy with the weight gain. this is why some women loose interest at some point in the pregnancy and stay that way until the baby weight is gone. don;t know if that applies to your situation...
     
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    one word:

    HOOKERS

    they're the pregnant/post-natal womans best friend.
     
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    Damn, whose responsibility is it to "take care" of you? It HERS..

    She might be asking for trouble if that's the way she is. A blow job, or even less work, a good hand job would suffice if she wasn't up to intercourse.

    That's being insensitive. She could oblige you in some way. I know women get ill and moody during pregnancy, but that almost sounds lazy and selfish.
     
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    Reminds me of Al singing as he works in his vegetable garden:

    Old MacBundy had a farm, B-U-N-D-Y,
    And on that farm he had no wife, B-U-N-D-Y,
    With a no-wife here and a no-kids there,

    Hooker coming over on Friday nights,
    Luscious hooters, pizza and a beer,
    Old MacBundy had a farm, B-U-N-D-Y!
     
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    For my wife, pregnancy meant essentially a year without sex...
    For the first few months she was still into it... but then nuthin until AFTER the kid stopped nursing around 8 or 9 months.

    And the second kid followed the exact same pattern.

    It was a difficult time. But I handled it.
    so to speak.
     
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    For you to insist that a woman service you, when for whatever reason she doesn't exactly FEEL like it, is YOU being lazy and selfish. Not her.

    Your cock ain't the axis on which your relationship turns.

    And if you think it is... then you better start saving your nickels and dimes now to pay for the divorce lawyer you are gonna be hiring.
     
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    I guess we must be the odd couple here.All during and after both pregnancy's my wife was super horny.She wanted it as often as I could get it up!

    And we never worried about waking the baby.Her favorite was spooning while breast feeding!
     
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    Sounds like she loves you, Ed69. During my ex's three pregnancies there was never any difference in our number of intercourses, only our positions, up until a few days before giving birth. I jackedoff regularly (like 2, 3 times a month) during our 29 yrs of married life, as well.
     
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    I believe it's a terminal case we're prety badly hooked on oneanother!

    Funny part is we never tried spooning till she got pregnant.Now that position gets used alot.
     
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    Thanks for all the great reply's, I was just wondering how common it was, and it looks like it happens to almost all the fathers out there. Just to knock out a few of the comments...

    Me and the wife split everything 50/50. We both work full time at demanding jobs, and have a 3 year old, so that's just the way it is.

    After our first was born, we didn't get busy till about 6 months later. Even then it was less than before. Oh well. that's what happens!
     
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    It's all about the Amygdala. This reptilian organ in the brain is much more active in women than in men. It's the emotionally instinctual part of the the brain that controls women's basic needs to care for themselves but more especially their off spring. It's one reason that women have a hard time relaxing when it comes to sex. Their amygdalas are extremely active, which makes them worry about everything from the safety of their nest (home) to the security of their fetus when they're pregnant. Vive la difference!
     
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    First child we had sex until a few days before she gave birth, and within weeks of her coming home. Our sex life was a little less frequent, but still okay. Second child and she was less in the mood, but still enjoyed having sex with me. Again after birth we waited just a few weeks, and again after birth it was less frequent (a couple of times a week) at first.

    At the time I didn't know how lucky I was. Now that I know, I just recommend not to marry a white woman.
     
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