sexuality is about sexual desire.
admiring or liking a person does not equate to sexual desire.
you might as well say we're all varying degrees of paedophiles, because we can appreciate the beauty of kids and enjoy their company. it's just daft.
sexual desire defines sexuality.
don't be so nauseatingly patronising.
i understand exactly what you're saying. i just think it's bullshit.
we are all capable of killing, bestiality and taking up a career as a clown. that doesn't mean we're all murderers, dog fuckers and closet coco.
your genes aren't hardwired against kiddy fiddling, racism or converting to islam either.
homo, hetero, bi and pedo are all sexualities.just to put myself into a snit :redface:
not real comfortable lumping homosexuality and paedophilia in the same group.
one is sexual orientation.
one is pathology.
homo, hetero, bi and pedo are all sexualities.
yes, one of them is vile and wrong.
there are paedophiles who never act on their urges, and they have my sympathy and gratitude. they cannot help having urges. they can only choose how to respond to those urges. many of those urges were created by the abuse that a high percentage of paedophiles suffered themselves as children.
not by courts, no.umm paedophilia isn't recognized, by court or by medical science, as a sexuality. is listed as a violent sexual compulsion.
that's why some places use chemical castration.
they can only remove that desire by removing all desire.
of course not.there is no compare between hetero/homosexuality and paedophilia. a child can not engage in a healthy or consensual relationship with an adult.
it does work for some.chemical castration doesn't remove desire. is a way ineffective control measure.
impotent offenders just move on to object assaults.
it does work for some.
some pedos beg to be put on those treatments.
people concentrate on failures.
and those it works best for may never have abused and may just desperately need to be rid of the desire.
but some people (just like the people who are serial sexual abusers of adults) are psychos, sadists, in need of bullet-in-head therapy.
he can be both.just to play asshole:
take a heterosexual male. with a criminal history of violent rapes. his sexual history consists of one night stand with 5 women he wasn't able to perform or he ejaculated prematurely and verbally assault all 5 women. he's raped 19 women. violence escalating with each assault.
when shown pictures of nude women he registers no sexual reaction. when shown images of women in pain, being beaten, being assaulted or rape kits photos of battered women he shows signs of extreme arousal.
now.. is he a violent sexual criminal or does he have a misunderstood sexuality?
of course not.
i'm not arguing that the act is ok. it clearly isn't.
but we aren't talking about the act.
we're talking about desire and orientation.
it clearly makes you very uncomfortable.
it makes me very uncomfortable too.
but it making people uncomfortable doesn't mean it isn't real or that it's something else.
the desire is not a choice.
the act is.
exactly. hence the stats showing the high failure rates.again.. sexual criminals of all sorts are liars and manipulative.
heaps of those chemical castration volunteers are fielded from the penal system.
people who receive reduced sentences for participating or it helps during parole hearings.
not at all.what makes me uncomfortable is allowing mental pathology be classified as a sexual orientation.
laws protecting people from discrimination based on sexuality were hard fought and are still on shaky ground. allowing a sexual criminal the same protection is insulting as all get out.
and unbelievably dangerous to making convictions stick.