Question for ladies re: bisexual men

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Yes, and none of that is controversial. Men will openly admit to having "pleasure" responses to fine wine, good food, etc.

But most straight men would NOT want to use that term "pleasure response" regarding seeing other males bodies in ANY capacity. Using the word "pleasure" in response to anything to do with another male would be frightening to most heterosexual males.

Why?

Because that is too close to sounding gay.

Straight men, in my opinion, live in a word of homophobia that perhaps women cannot comprehend. Women are allowed to show admiration for one another in a way that men are not.

Anyway, I started this thread asking what women think of bisexual males, and I am really happy about the responses I've received. It's nice to see that some women would consider dating them, having relationships with them, etc. Thanks.
 

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Hoo boy, this thread went all over! Henry miller, it's your thread so I don't think it's possible for you to 'butt in' on anyone's post. I never did answer your question. It would be damn unfair of me to discriminate against a bi man who was wanting to be my partner when I am bi myself. So there.

And I'm not one to live by statistics, but what you say about men not wanting to enjoy the male form openly for fear of seeming gay is a sad reason why the average artist is stereotyped as a poof. Very sad.
 

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Yeah, it DID go all over. At some point, I sort of forgot the original question. But it was the following: what is the opinion women have of bisexual men? Apparently, the opinions are diverse. But I was happy to see that there are some opinions that are positive. I asked because I struggle with my bisexuality. I sometimes tell myself to just be gay, but then I see a woman that I find really attractive. Then, I tell myself to just be straight, because it is obviously the easiest route. But then I see a good looking man.... I just have to accept that I am bisexual. One reason I try to just be gay sometimes is I'm concerned about how women view bisexual men, hence the need for this thread. Thanks.
 

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Thanks for the response. I guess maybe the issue is actually me. I guess I just think that if any woman I was with found out I was bisexual, then she may think I'm not a "real man," am not "fully male." So, maybe the issue me. Maybe that's how I really feel about myself.

I mean, it's possible that the confusion is me. To be honest, I don't understand how it is that some days I want to be with a guy -- and other days I have fantasies about women, and long to be with a woman.

Recently, a woman who is a conservative Christian has been making advances, and she doesn't konw that I'm bisexual. And I know she wouldn't accept that. So, I've had to consider whether to hide part of who I am, or just not follow up with the relationship. I decided to just not have a relationship with her, because if she is a conservative Christian then we just wouldn't have much in common after all anyway. Hard to explain.

I'm with you about the masculinity part, but honestly, masculinity is not sexuality and the terms are mutually exclusive. You can still be a tough masculine guy and still be bi. Get all other nonsense out of your head and this won't be an issue any more. Keep in mind that we all have an idea of what we think others see when they look at us. It is usually wrong. I'm speaking from experience that if we shatter our own stereotypes and the expectations that society and others put on us then the road is wide open and clear.

Keep your eyes peeled for the right girl. Maybe you'll find a bi girl who loves it that you are bi too. If you find such a girl your life will take a whole new direction that most others only dream of. I'm living proof.