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I was travelling a lot but also home for 3 nights per week. One trip I met a married woman who was travelling each week like me and we shared a meal, and then we went to her room and had sex. After that, we saw each other every week, and it became a regular thing. One thing struck me was that the release of tension was similar to the normal release from sexual tension we get, only about 10 times more powerful. Really mind-blowing, like I needed that affair to re-centre myself.

In answer to the questions: she was on the pill, we'd both been faithful to our respective spouses to that point, and we were sure they were faithful too, we were 1,000km from home and we didn't know if the sex was going to be good or not (it was fantastic, and her release of tension was similar to mine). After, sex with my wife was much better: refresed, re-invigorated, closer, more loving. Later I found this is common when an affair happens in a happy relationships, and is often the way that affairs are found out.

So my wife guessed 'something' was going on, but was rather non-plussed by it. Don't ask, don't tell, and I assume as long as she was number one and special too me, it was all good. But she did become more open to expanding her sexual reportoire, which shows that jealousy is a big motivator.

Later I found out that affairs are very common, about 70% of marriages in fact, and that implies that we're really not meant to be monogamous. That, and my experience of release, recharging and refreshment that accompanied the whole episode. I suppose that swinging and wife swapping and open marriages are a formal way of heading down the path I accidentally discovered. Before my affiar I couldn't understand why, but now I understand completely.
 
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I never slept or sex-anything with a total stranger. I'm more comfortable with someone I've gotten to know and are able to communicate with as a friend to have fun during sex - ah, now I see what I've been doing wrong .... LOL
 

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I seem to be in the minority here: the answer is yes, of course I'd fuck her, but I'd tell my wife when I got home. If the situation was reversed she'd do the same. In fact this has happened several times for both of us; we have an open marriage and don't see anything wrong with recreational sex with others. We'd both make sure we used condoms and if either wanted to see the other person again we'd discuss that.

Having said that, I also had quite a few one-night-stands when married to my ex, but I certainly didn't tell her. Usually women I'd met at conferences or courses, where casual sex when spending the night away from your 'other half' seemed fairly normal. I'm pretty certain my ex was doing the same in similar circumstances but we just didn't discuss it; the nearest we got was her telling me once that there had been a lot of bed-hopping at one of her business conferences. I asked if she'd enjoyed that and she just smiled; our attitude was 'don't ask'. Neither of us really wanted to confront the issue.

I think the way things are now is much more healthy for a relationship.
 

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or committed couples.

The key word used was committed. The use of "or" seems to equate committed back to married couples as well. According to Dictionary.com, one defintion of commit is: to pledge or engage oneself. When I married my wife, I pledged that she would be the one and only, the focus of my attention. I stay true to that and know that she does too.
 

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I seem to be in the minority here: the answer is yes, of course I'd fuck her, but I'd tell my wife when I got home. If the situation was reversed she'd do the same. In fact this has happened several times for both of us; we have an open marriage and don't see anything wrong with recreational sex with others. We'd both make sure we used condoms and if either wanted to see the other person again we'd discuss that.

By married or committed, I took it to mean that the relationship was monogamous. The 'no one will ever find out' also suggests this. My answer would be quite different if a promise of monogamy had not been made.
 

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Wow! It is refreshing to see so many commited an upstanding people here. The question is not a real life scenario but just a "what if". So since it said that no one would find out I'll be the resident dog and say hell yes I'd do it.

Of course we know that in the real world someone always find out but if this is just fantasy and pretend then hey I'm all for it.
 

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or committed couples. Question. Let's say you are out of town and you meet someone you and there is very much a mutual attraction to. How far would you take it? Here are the factors to consider to help you decide,

1) The sex will be very good'
2) No one will ever find out
3) There will be no STD's or Pregnancies to worry about
4) This is only a one night stand

How far would you take it?

You have two sensible choices:
1)'phone your wife and ask her.
2)Don't touch it.