Question for men, are you willing to take the risk

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Very interesting..

Why did you take that risk to start with then kind of regret it after or at least you are relieved because nothing happened. It couldn't have been bad for either of you, if you kept doing it for several months.

In the beginning I used condoms. Then she came to me with the "I told you I can't get pregnant, and if you use a condom you're assuming I have STDs...." etc. I was so crazy with hormones that I let her have it her way. I didn't want to give up the sex, so I caved in. It wasn't a clear-headed decision on my part.

If things were slightly different do you think you'll be more inclined to do it or not. Things like if you can be sure there is no risk of STD and having to meet both husband and wife, talk about all aspects of it before doing it.

If I were sure there was no risk of STD...but that still leaves risk of pregnancy, though. So, no. I don't think I'd like to take the pregnancy risk again.

As for meeting with the husband beforehand, that seems kind of like a cuckold relationship, which I don't have experience with. Yes, she was married. Yes, I met her husband on a couple occasions. Yes, I think he must have known. But she was cheating on him. As far as I know, none of this was done with his approval. I don't know if I could perform in a situation where the husband is part of it. Seems too "set-up." I don't know. Maybe I could. Sorry if I'm rambling. [/QUOTE]
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Anytime, Fire77! :smile:
 

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That was cheating which is completely different.

As for cuckolding, that's different too.

Thanks again for your clear explanation.

That's the kind of answers I am looking for.
 

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My question was, are you willing to take that risk, considering the risk could serve a good purpose.

I think I should have added the "could serve a good purpose" to original post.

Darn I can't, there is a time limit to editing posts.

Please don't miss the point. I am asking this question for a genuine reason.

Yes, I would take the risk. If she is already pregnant, she cannot get pregnant again.
 

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Fire77,

I guess I'm not sure what kind of relationship exactly you're asking about.

Sex surrogacy? A more natural kind of sperm donor?
 

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twoton, you are very smart guy. Subgirrl figured that out minutes after I asked the question. (I think she did but didn't say it so bluntly)

I was interested to know how men react to such encounter if it happens. I wasn't interested in a relationship (already married).
 

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I think i agree with Manlybanister but....im afraid the post is not clear enuff, its quite ambiguous, we cant get the facts and a lil more background would be appreciated.interestingly enuff, the post is interesting to me and i wouldnt mind if u repost so we can get wht u're trying to say.
 

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sorry fire 77,the clearer understanding i got of the arrangement, made it all the more shady sounding to me, no offense as i realise u might be asking on a personal level. but it seems to me the intent of the lady is quite dodgy cos if all you want is a sperm donor, why not just say so or look for one, why have sex with me like a fuck buddy or somthn,make me feel guilty u are cheating with your husband(emotional blackmail),only to discover that u wanted/planned it all along.simplicity is always the best route to take for me.just tell the said guy wht u are up to, if he wants to be a part, he'll be , if not....look for someone who wants to but above all, be straight,lay it all on the table.
 

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This is a serious question so please answer honestly.

I am wondering how many of you guys willing to participate in unprotected sex with a married woman considering she might get pregnant by you.

Leave out the child responsibility issues.


I don't understand how I'm supposed to leave out the child responsibility issues thats the major consequence of such action.

I definitely wouldn't, I don't know how she plans on raising the child (with or without the knowledge that his "father" isn't biological.) I'm not religious but it's a general moral thing for me - don't covet another man's wife. I don't think I'd have sex with her in the first place.

And even though you said leave the child responsibility issues out I can't answer this without mentioning that the kid is half me and might very well have the same issues in life as me. There'd be no better person to guide the kid through life than myself. As opposed to some random guy who doesn't know a thing about me. The best way I can answer that quickly.
 

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If there are no child responsibility issues, and you have no ethics which would prevent you having sex with a married woman, how is there any extra risk in unprotected sex?

The only risk is if you are doing something you think is wrong and feel guilty, or if the woman gives you a disease. Or if you allow 'child responsibility' to enter in.

The only way you could make love to someone else's wife without having guilt is if you are doing it with consent, or enjoy the risk of the situation in the first place. Leaving the condom off just makes it extra risky?

The whole scenario seems a bit kooky. If Fire wants to get pregnant and has a spouse who is incapable or something, she should not sneak a third party in. She should get the incapable spouse's consent.

Okay, now that I have read all through the thread, I find myself agreeing with Wally. The difference between this situation and plain sperm donorship is that you know you Could be the parent. Most will want to stay connected with the child in that case, even if the chance of not being the actual biological parent is also there. Any child conceived in this way would have many fathers by affection.

The idea that a woman who is already pregnant may then open herself to multiple partners, knowing already who conceived her child, would be different again. If that's the case, I would even try it myself-- were I still in the childbearing game, which thankfully I am not.
 
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I don't understand how I'm supposed to leave out the child responsibility issues thats the major consequence of such action.

There'd be no better person to guide the kid through life than myself. As opposed to some random guy who doesn't know a thing about me. The best way I can answer that quickly.

You would leave out the responsibility if you were a sperm donor, in fact sperm donors request to be left out of the child's responsibility.

How can you be so certain you'll be the best person to raise that child. Are you telling me every man who fathered a child looked after and cared for that child properly.

If there are no child responsibility issues, and you have no ethics which would prevent you having sex with a married woman, how is there any extra risk in unprotected sex?

The only risk is if you are doing something you think is wrong and feel guilty, or if the woman gives you a disease. Or if you allow 'child responsibility' to enter in.

The only way you could make love to someone else's wife without having guilt is if you are doing it with consent, or enjoy the risk of the situation in the first place. Leaving the condom off just makes it extra risky?

The whole scenario seems a bit kooky. If Fire wants to get pregnant and has a spouse who is incapable or something, she should not sneak a third party in. She should get the incapable spouse's consent.

Okay, now that I have read all through the thread, I find myself agreeing with Wally. The difference between this situation and plain sperm donorship is that you know you Could be the parent. Most will want to stay connected with the child in that case, even if the chance of not being the actual biological parent is also there. Any child conceived in this way would have many fathers by affection.

The idea that a woman who is already pregnant may then open herself to multiple partners, knowing already who conceived her child, would be different again. If that's the case, I would even try it myself-- were I still in the childbearing game, which thankfully I am not.

Thank you helgaleena for spending the time to answer.

Most of what you said is exactly how I feel with one or two exceptions,

I wouldn't sneak in a third party and I wouldn't cheat on my husband no matter what, I could have done that long time ago if I wanted to.

Exactly my point about having unprotected sex with a married woman KNOWING she might get pregnant but I can't say if a man is willing to engage in such thing have no ethics.

If I was pregnant the only person I'll have sex with is my husband.

Thank you all for taking the time to answer.
 

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What if there is no STD issue ( if all involved tested and clear)

For your second question about a "banging a stranger". What if you get to know her well enough and she wont be a complete stranger to you.

So, hypothetically speaking, if there was no risk of negative consequences would I sleep with a married woman? If she couldn't get pregnant, no one had STIs, and her husband wouldn't know/care?

Probably not. Sounds too sterile, too passionless. Like an Ikea showroom, or bad porn. There's no hint of real life in there, and if there were (if she were trying to escape a loveless relationship, if her husband wanted to watch, etc.) it wouldn't be the kind of thing I'm in to anyway. So my answer is still no.
 

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twoton, you are very smart guy. Subgirrl figured that out minutes after I asked the question. (I think she did but didn't say it so bluntly)

I was on the right track? To me that seemed like the most logical reason someone would be asking about this, but you never know what kind of kinks someone might have.

If I was to have a baby with sperm from a non-partner, I know I'd prefer it to be conceived via sex, rather than via a procedure (in part, because I'd like to be able to choose who's DNA is going to be inherited by my child). But I can understand why so many guys wouldn't feel comfortable conceiving a child that they would have no further responsibility for.
 
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I'm a single guy w/ no prospects of settling down and having children. In todays economy I can barely take care of myself much less a child. Knowing that I would be happy to help start someone elses family. If the husband isn't able to father a child and the wife would still like a family then why not. The husband doesn't have to know it's not his child (he'll probably be ecstatic, call it a miracle or whatever) and I won't have the responsibility of supporting the child. It's a win win.