Question for men/women with gay adult sons

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Jay1074, Oct 28, 2010.

  1. Jay1074

    Jay1074 Active Member

    Nov 4, 2007
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    You know your son is gay and you're OK with that... what are your thoughts when your son is seeing a much older man who is easily old enough to be your father? I'm talking about an age difference of about 40 years or more here.

    We hear about May/December romances all the time in the hetero world but they are just as common in the gay community it seems. A couple of years ago I was dating a guy who turned out to be much older than I suspected. He looks great and I took him for at least 20 years younger than he actually was. Turned out he was 75 and I was 34 at the time. The relationship ended only because we lived a bit too far apart from each other making getting together difficult. But we clicked in just about every other aspect. What makes me ask is I recently admitted to my mother that I dated a 75 year old for a few months a couple of years ago. She was speechless for a few minutes before she clumsily changed the subject. Keep in mind she's 56. I know she's struggled with my sexuality for years but she assumed that I dated guys my own age give or take a few years. The age difference really made her uncomfortable, bless her heart. Would this kind of situation upset you too? Feel free to be honest... I have gotten some strange responses from my parents over the years so I'm used to it. :biggrin1:
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