Question For Older Guys 50+

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Do your desire for sex diminish after turning 50? My partner just turned 55 and he hardly ever initiate anything sexual, he prefers to hug and cuddle.

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for me nope not at all and at 56 still enjoy sex most days with my bf - but we have only been together a couple of years and he's much younger.

I love hugs and cuddles too and they are intimate things to do as well remember and can be sexual - sexual doesn't just mean penetrative stuff?

So in your instance is this after you've been together a long time? in which case have you just got to that 'comfortable' stage where you 'can' start to take each other a bit for granted? LTRs take work on an ongoing basis, so have you both stopped doing all those little things you used to do for each other?

you mention he's just turned 55 - so is he having any health issues or work issues that are affecting him - if he's just turned 55 he may be feeling that he's getting old and nearer to 60s than 40s now and its weighing on him?

are you talking with him and sharing your thoughts, concerns, worries etc about your relationship? There could be so many reasons for this change and ultimately you'll only ever find out by talking with him - just don't take it personally, this is about both of you and how you support each other to give each other what you need?

good luck
 
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Yes and no. I will be 56 in about 10 days time.

My desire isn’t perhaps quite *as* strong / frequent as it was before I was 40-45, but it is definitely still there. Strong enough.

I am still interested in hook ups etc. Still think about it a fair amount. Still have my fetishes. Still have an interest in looking good.

I quite like the fact that is is not AS strong. Gives me more time for the things I really need to do. Work, shopping, Cooking, laundry, Reading, listening to music.

;-)
 

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51 here. Since starting taking TRT, my sex life has gotten so much better. Not saying it was nonexistent prior to TRT, but I would often have trouble maintaining an erection even if I was turned on, which of course was extremely frustrating (tried Viagra but didn’t like the side effects). Or I’d lose interest just when things started to heat up. Now my horniness factor has skyrocketed. Thankfully I’m back in the saddle now lol.
 

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Do your desire for sex diminish after turning 50? My partner just turned 55 and he hardly ever initiate anything sexual, he prefers to hug and cuddle.

Any advices?
Dunno specifically if my horniness has changed since turning 50 - but I'm certainly in a different place than when I was in my 20's. Still get horny (obviously) but, in my 20's I was horny 24/7 - while in my 50's - I there are times when I am super horny and times when I don't really give a shit about sex at all. I think its a combination of a whole bunch of stuff - could be health related altho - I'm a pretty fit mid 50's. Its more likely that at 50 odd you tend to work a more stressful job than when you were younger - also, there's a bit of been there done that - you move from a place where most things are a fantasy or a wish list of things you want to do .. where certain things are new and shiny to having done all that and deciding whether or not you are in the mood to do it again - for example - the feelings you get before you have your first threesome is quite different from the feelings you get before you have your 30th threesome.
I'm sure there are people out there that never miss a bit horn wise - I aint one but when I was young I was a complete horn dog
 

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I just turned 53 and my ability to get hard comes and goes. I know my blood pressure medicine has a lot to do with it. Luckily my blood pressure has been really good for a few years now, so my doctor has dropped the 2 worst offenders from my prescriptions. I have noticed that it has helped. But at no point has my sex drive stopped. I might not be able to get hard, but I still love to suck and bottom.
 
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It could well be that you've been together a long time and sex has become the same old same old so - spice it up a bit.
Well over your b/f's age and I can assure you the desire is as strong as ever