I have a theory on why the media has made this acceptable.
In their attempt to be female-friendly, to show they are not part of the patriarchy - in fact that the patriarchy is a vile beast personified by the likes of Roger Ailes and Harvey Weinstein - they have bent over the other way. Their message is that women have been denied their right to sexual pleasure by us pigly, come-too-quickly men. But ladies, the media is desperate to signal, YOU have just as much right to pleasure as a man. So far, so good. But then we get into this territory: if a big dick is what makes you feel good and a small one doesn't, then ladies you have the right, the obligation to your sisters to be loud and proud about that. You don't have to explain to any man why you're dumping his short dick ass or why you're choosing a repulsive fuck buddy because he fills and stretches you with his fleshy Eiffel Tower.
And all the lovely ladies who might really not have cared too much one way or the other start to think: what's all this fuss about dick size? Ah, they're saying I shouldn't be ashamed of loving size? So what is it about size that's so good - I gotta find out.
And so the media drives the cultural grind until eventually the message soaks into the cultural consciousness that big dicks are better than small dicks so you go, girl!
And that's all fine and good and wonderful - but the problem is that it must entail someone - a group - being thrown under the bus. Those small dick motherfuckers. Quit your whining babies, us women have had to put up with your mysogynistic abuse for decade, centuries, so get back in your box. And the small guys go 'Hey that's discrimination. You can't say that! I couldn't get away with saying your vaj makes the Grand Canyon look like a mouse hole But hey I'm sure my bigger bros will step in to speak up for me because they're like my dudes' - but no the bigger bros are getting far too much attention from the girls and the media for looking like porn stars and the average guys don't want to get involved because that'll mean they're defending being small which means everyone will think THEY'RE small, and that would be mortifying, horrifying, absolutely the worst thing in the world, because then girls would snigger and gossip and your so called bros would think you less of a man. And so they say nothing or join the ridicule.
And so is born a type of Incel. And the media is jubilant because they have a cracking news story about embittered horrible hateful young men on the fringes of society that will sell papers like hot cakes and get clicks like Kardashian. And so it continues...
My wildly over generalised and clearly (partly) tongue in cheek take on our fucked up world
This. Sorry for jumping back in here, but I’ve really been feeling terrible lately and there are so many things in your post that more eloquently express how I’m feeling.
While I do think that talking with people here and reading threads have given me some perspective, it simply isn’t enough. Media and society today have led to this self internalization of hatred I have for my dick.
I can, without a doubt, state that growing up in this era surrounded by these ideas and ideologies has led me to a mind set where I will never be able to tolerate, let alone be proud of, my penis.
Like I said, speaking with the people on here have certainly helped lighten the feelings I’ve been having. I simply cannot allow myself to think of my equipment as anything other than pathetic and disappointing. And these feelings are constantly reinforced every day by countless outside sources.
It’s gotten to the point that I just think that my dick was natural selection telling me that I shouldn’t breed, lest I pass down this terrible situation to any prospective children.
All in all, to be blunt, the culture and society I have grown up in(I’m 26 currently) has taught me to hate my dick in every regard. And I do. I absolutely can’t stand my penis. I hate it and always will. I would never try to enter a relationship of any kind because I know at the end of the day I’m not good enough. This may seem regressive based on my previous posts in this thread, and maybe it is. But I just can’t let go of the internalized self hatred and despair.
So I’ve found the only way to alleviate it is just to give up on sex, relationships, and to an extent, happiness completely. I’ve accepted the fact that I have pathetic and useless junk, and while it’s a fact that I hate about myself, I can’t change it. So the only thing left to do is make sure I don’t pass it down to any children I might have. I clearly won’t be or at least feel good enough/worthy of sexual encounters. Ever.
People can tell me that my size is enough, or it’s not that bad(I’ve even shown someone on here who’ve said it isn’t too bad) or I can find other non penetrative solutions...or whatever they want. But at the end of the day I shouldn’t have to. I wish my dick was adequate, but unfortunately it isn’t. And every song, book, interview, joke, show...etc reinforces that view...
It is really disheartening and I’m certainly struggling with it. But there’s seemingly nothing else to do but give up. So at the very least I’m trying to make peace with that..