Kotchanski
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Hmm.... If I may allow myself to think out-loud and write to myself.
I just realized that, in the context of my friendships with other straight guys, I AM "straight." Unlike some gay or bisexual guys, I do not want to get straight guys into bed. What I enjoy about friendships/acquaintanceships with straight guys is the lack of sexual tension, and I think that's what straight guys enjoy in one another.
Gay guys have the lack of sexual tension with women. Us bisexual guys virtually have that with no one. I, myself, however, have that lack of sexual tension with straight guys -- because I'm not sexually interested in straight guys.
This!
I get on best with gay men, why? Because I don't want to sleep with them, have no hope in hell of sleeping with them, and they don't want to sleep with me.
In all other groups, I've had people back off either because they wanted more than I was offering, I wanted more than they were, or the best yet... They thought I wanted more when it couldn't have been further from my mind.
There are however many many straight people out there who can accept you for who you are, and couldn't give a toss about what is going on in your head sexually. Unless you flop it out on a plate in front of them, and demand they suck it, it really doesn't even cross their mind that you might be seeking more. (Again, I'm paraphrasing the mumbled rants behind me!)