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As a young teen I was always wanting pussy. It was a fantasy to get a girl to do it during the mid-'60s. During my first year in college there were lots of girls wanting to fool around so I was off-and-running in the early '70s.
But...before the '70s a good friend invited me over to his parents house while they were out of town. He asked me if I'd like to jack-off and look at some girly magazines? Yes, and yes, I did. Before long we were stroking each other's dicks and then we sucked each other off. We continued this activity for about 3 years. I wasn't really attracted to guys but always loved to view hard dicks. Learned to like sucking my friend's thick cock and would let him unload in my mouth. And I loved a good BJ. Still do.
Fast forward 40+ years and I'm a married man who has a few married friends that I fool around with and really enjoy giving a BJ. Enjoy bottoming, too, if the dick isn't too big.
So I'm going to say it was an acquired taste due to having raging hormones and I had to get relief somehow, someway. It just happened it was with a good friend for a few years. Still enjoy it.
 

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Two knew I liked cocks so eventually they came on to me by email asking if I'd like to fool around with them. I was shocked they wanted to, told them I would but wanted to know if they were going to be okay with it afterward. One was really turned on when we met and one wasn't on our first meeting. The guy who got into it topped me and the other couldn't get a hard-on. He was embarrassed and never joined us again. A couple of others I met on Craigslist. They are married and we tested before anything happened. I don't normally recommend Craigslist but these men were perfectly sane and clean married guys.
 

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I always had identified as straight till my early 20's and frankly enjoyed and was completely satisfied with my sex life as a straight man. I think a lot of it was that it was the norm of the social circles I grew up in and anything other was "taboo". I was not until I experimented with different sexual partners, men and women, that I realized I was bi-sexual and fully enjoyed sex with both genders. So, yes, I do feel that my bi-sexuality evolved with my age and my experiences
 

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I know that boat your in! I had my first sexual experiences with guys when I was young and then women. I've been with way more women but always craved men once in awhile. I consider myself bi bc I want to be with women but I crave a cock once in awhile. I've had mmf once and loved it! A couple years ago I tried to get my wife to suck me and a buddy..both had our cocks out! She seemed curious but wouldn't . I finally told her about my secret in hopes of a mmf to where I could get pussy but get a little dick as well. She still won't go for it but I'm hoping in time.
 

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I think many guys struggle with their feelings, the media portrays people as either straight or a gay stereotype.

In reality, I think things are much more subtle. There are lots of guys who would never in a million years want a boyfriend, they have no interest in forming an emotional bond with a guy, but would have no objection to getting a good bit of head or getting their hands on another guy's dick
 

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I had a couple of experiences way back in my 20's. Both occurred as a result of tequila shots and excessive unspent horny energy. My only interest was trying oral. My experiences weren't very memorable. Though they weren't unpleasant, I decided I wasn't 'bi' or 'gay' either.

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My bi-curiosity has resurfaced fairly recently (~1-2yrs), when I realized that every time I gag while brushing the back of my tongue. I get REALLY aroused, so much so that my hard-on often gets painful. I started imagining how difficult deep throating must be on a long cock.

There are still shots in a mag I have with a section about Seka and Jade East with John Holmes. One shows Jade on her knees, as JH is standing in front of her half hard with just his head in her mouth. In the sidebar she admitted she couldn't get much more than just the head in. When I see that image I cant help thinking about trying to deepthroat a cock like that. Is it possible? I don't recall seeing a porn where it was done. Can anyone do it with enough practice? Can I learn to get control over my gag reflex? I would try, but only a long one that I'm attracted to would be worth me wanting to gag on it.

I (also) basically have absolutely no interest in men. However, it seems I do fantasize about cock(s), however, very few attract my curiosity in this way. My only interest is the cock.
 

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Back when I was 11-12 I had a friend who was similarly developed to me. He came over, we looked at porn and ever since I saw his hard cock bulging in his pants I knew I liked them. He wouldn't get it out though as that was gay. I didn't think it was gay as I liked girls too so I've kinda grown up with liking cocks and women. Not romantically attracted to guys though, purely sexual.
 

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hi :p

did you always consider yourself bi, or is it something that developed with time/experience/curiosity?
what experiences did you have that opened you up to the thought of being with another guy?

i've had threesomes, but they were the kind where the guys are super careful to minimize contact with each other and not to touch penises :rolleyes:
i'd love a threesome that ends with him fucking the other guy, but so far he hasn't been open to the idea. he says hes not homophobic or repulsed by men, he just has absolutely no sexual interest in them at all.

so, is this a total lost cause?

Im married w kids, 20 yrs. Formative years I saw a blowjob in action on a few occasions & wondered what was so great about it. I found out when I learned to suck myself. That became a daily event for 2 yrs before my first blowjob of someone else.
After that I enjoyed it but did not find him attractive. For years i only gave head. Gloryholes, gay store clerks. Im not attracted to men per se, but i do like an attractive body.
I dont kiss or embrace unnessesarily. But things, my desire changed. I enjoy getting some anal but focus is always the cock.
I dont particularly enjoy getting guy head unless its been a big work up. I love mmf sex w me sucking. I get that from girls not wife. My wife knows some & ignores it. Told me not to embarrass us.
 

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It would seem to me that his lack of interest is sincere. You either have that desire or you don't. I certainly didn't stumble on my bisexuality. An early experience with my best friend was a defining experience for me - I found at an early age that I really, really enjoyed giving physical pleasure to men and women. For me, there has never been an interest in a relationship with a man, it is strictly about enjoying sexuality, foreplay, touching, and the naughty realization and excitement that you are doing something taboo. I guess all of us are wired a little differently. I experienced a great thrill at being significantly bigger than my first friend's cock and I soon discovered that I loved the exhibitionist side that goes with that. And since I am happily married and committed, I get a lot of cheap thrills in the locker room at the gym being both voyeur and exhibitionist and that's about the extent of my sexual experience with men these days. I have one gay friend and we decided one night to get a room on a fishing trip and proceeded to jump in the hot tub. The experience of eventually locking legs and stroking thighs led to mutual blow jobs and my first time kissing another man. It was so incredibly hot but in the end, it was about the sexual experience under the stars. No interest in him, but we enjoyed every titillation imaginable and walked away. So I guess the reason for these ramblings is that I think that the desire to broadly experience sex is either a driver in your life or it's not. I don't think it can be "learned". There has to be a innate desire to please and be a giver. Sorry for the ramble.......
 
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I think many guys struggle with their feelings, the media portrays people as either straight or a gay stereotype.

In reality, I think things are much more subtle. There are lots of guys who would never in a million years want a boyfriend, they have no interest in forming an emotional bond with a guy, but would have no objection to getting a good bit of head or getting their hands on another guy's dick
Great post man. But how does this man, who feels this way, know then that he isn't gay?
 

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hi :p

did you always consider yourself bi, or is it something that developed with time/experience/curiosity?
what experiences did you have that opened you up to the thought of being with another guy?

i've had threesomes, but they were the kind where the guys are super careful to minimize contact with each other and not to touch penises :rolleyes:
i'd love a threesome that ends with him fucking the other guy, but so far he hasn't been open to the idea. he says hes not homophobic or repulsed by men, he just has absolutely no sexual interest in them at all.

so, is this a total lost cause?
it's definitely not a lost cause, i know guys that have developed bisexual urges in their 40's, for me i knew i was bisexual but i didn't admit it to myself til i had my first experience with a guy. However, the guys i know maybe started as jerk off buddies then the curiosity developed from there, other were on camming sites and came across a guy cam that was watching them and it surprisingly aroused them, so never say never
 
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Great post man. But how does this man, who feels this way, know then that he isn't gay?

That the idea of going on a date, cuddling up on the sofa, waking up in the arms etc has no appeal would be one test I guess
 

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The sheer variety of porn on the internet even in the late 1990's kind of opened the door a crack. It wasn't until I started travelling and accidently (at first) picked up a transexual at a bar and recieved the most toe-curling blowjob of my life that the door was finally kicked wide open. I'm still more bi-curious and on a learning curve when it comes to guys themselves, but I'm into pre and post-op transexuals and crossdressers big time.

I'm having fun sexually, and that's what matters most.
 

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I grew up straight. It never occurred to me that a man could be desirable until I was 18 and even then it was two guys out of a senior class of 400 men. I knew I wasn't gay because I was so overwhelmingly attracted to women, but over the next four years I considered the possibility that I might be bi. Then I had sex with a male classmate at 22 and that cinched it.

I'm not attracted to all men. I'm not attracted to all women either, just more than I am to men. I'm as choosy as anyone.
 
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That the idea of going on a date, cuddling up on the sofa, waking up in the arms etc has no appeal would be one test I guess
Great point. I just can't find anywhere whether the definition of bisexual (or gay) includes the desires you mentioned, or sexual desires. It would be more clear cut if it were to say, you're bisexual if you desire to have sex with both sexes. Or you're bisexual if you desire to have a romantic relationship with both. You know what I mean?
 

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Great point. I just can't find anywhere whether the definition of bisexual (or gay) includes the desires you mentioned, or sexual desires. It would be more clear cut if it were to say, you're bisexual if you desire to have sex with both sexes. Or you're bisexual if you desire to have a romantic relationship with both. You know what I mean?

Yeah, I think the two things aren't always in sync. Bromance is love without sex, lpsg's 90% straight seams to often mean "like playing with cocks, not just my own. Would never want to a kiss a guy or have a boyfriend"