In simple terms, I'm looking for love, not just sex.
I was for years while I cared for my ex-wife who has extreme RA. I knew I couldn't commit to any relationship and didn't want to hurt anyone or be hurt. This was my choice as she would have never known and it wouldn't even had been cheating. It mad me very sad and sex was far from my mind.
I'm curious about this. I have a couple of male friends who have both told me that they haven't had sex in a really long time. It's been 3 years for one and I'm not sure about the other, but he hasn't had a girlfriend in many years. They both say that they want to get married & have kids, but they haven't been dating anyone for quite some time.
My question to those who are celibate, is it because you WANT to be, or is it just that you haven't met anyone of interest?
Haha. Word.I'm celibate by choice.
Other people choose not to have sex with me!
For me it's because of all the diseases out there so I just choose to keep em closed. But it's also because I'm fat & ugly and no one wants me. That's about it.
My question to those who are celibate, is it because you WANT to be, or is it just that you haven't met anyone of interest?
my question to you is this: do you WANT to be with someone? or is it just EASIER & SAFER to remain alone?
my question to you is this: do you WANT to be with someone? or is it just EASIER & SAFER to remain alone?
...and after some time being celibate passes, getting your mojo back becomes more difficult. You do begin to question your desirability, and your ability. It does become MUCH easier to say "to hell with it all" and thereby making it a none issue and something that you don't have to stress about. And is that such a bad thing? You don't have to share the bed, deal with snoring, or get woken up to someone else's schedule. You get to eat what you want, when you want it. No nagging, no bartering, no dealing with suspicions or infidelity. So yes, in some ways it does make life easier and safer by making things simpler and logical. That's a trade-off some are willing to take.
Is it just me, or does anyone else find that threads of this nature always start out like survey threads, but end up as let-me-tell-you-how-to-fix-your-problems threads?
I have never been with anyone else so I can't compare. All I know is everyone I know in a relationship is miserable. I have become totally self sufficient, and I don't need anyone. Am I happy? No. But neither is anyone else I know, honestly.
I haven't met anyone in years that I would even consider asking out or want to be in a relationship with. Is that odd?
I have aquestion what kind of celibate are your friends because there is two kinds One the the kind were you don't have sex with anyone but you jerkoff and the other is complete no jerking off and no sex. I have done both and the one with no sex and no jerking off is much harder be the times that I was celibate was voluntary and I put the energy to something else in my life. the only down side was that I was horny all the time.