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I'm a straight gal who watches gay porn frequently. I have noticed a trend, which might not be a trend at all, maybe its just the vids i happen to watch. I've noticed that a lot of bottoms are not very hard when they are getting fisted, fucked, etc. The tops can be stimulating them anally and wacking them off at the same time and they wont be hard. The bottom can be stroking himself and still struggle.

I've also noticed in amateur vids that the bottom will have tight cockrings on and still not be real hard. Is there a reason for the bottoms not having hard erections for the most part? Is this why cockrings are so popular among gay males?

I hope this make sense to someone as i'm curious as hell to know!
 

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This guy who was into being fisted and large insertions gave me a reason why, but buggered if I can remember it, I'm sure someone else will be able to tell you why.
 

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Yeah i noticed that guys who do huge insertions arent hard at the time either. Probably cause all of their concentration is on not blowing their ass out on the other side. I'm amazed at some of the huge and even huge and long objects that a man can take!
 

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This guy is an older guy, in his 50's but in pretty good shape, he'd always liked a bit of strap on action, then about ten years ago he saw a vid of The Amazing Ty and took it as a personal challenge.
 

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My theory is that they don't like it up the ass...I'm gay and have never liked being fucked - matter of fact, anything coming near my ass will make my dick immediately go limp and that's been true since my experimental days back in jr. high.

Too, lots of gay porn these days is gay 4 pay, especially from Eastern Europe.
They're not having fun, they're just pretending to. And you can't pretend to have a hard on ;-)
 

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But even amateur gay couples, where you are invited into the privacy of their bedroom to watch them voyeuristically. The bottom has a flopper.

SP, im fastinated with her too. She is kind of gross looking to me though. The people who can stretch out their urethras and cervix make me cringe. But its like watching a birth to see what she can do with herself.
 

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fist fuc......g isREALLY UNNECESSARY bcause the males wish to maximize bio- physiological stimulatory responce. like crack they wish to increase and power a orgazm using whats available.
 

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I'm not so sure it's a "trend". I've recently watched videos from the 80s and seen flaccidness in bottoms in those.
 

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Just as in straight porn, gay porn is all about "the money shot": Who comes, where, when, how much, and how often.

Just as I'm sure most female porn actresses aren't necessarily aroused when being fucked, I do not find it surprising at all that some bottoms aren't aroused, either.

Of course, I've seen plenty gay porn where the bottom has been hard as a rock, but something tells me that they are at least enjoying themselves and/ or their partner. ;-)

Just my 2¢.
 

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There could be numerous reasons.

In some cases, it is probably correct that the bottom is simply not turned on by the act. There are a hell of a lot of gay-for-pay models in the business, especially in the Eastern European movies, and in those cases the guys just aren't turned on by being with a guy sexually, so no hardon.

Alternatively, there are various chemicals that can be applied to ensure total erection regardless of whether you're actually aroused or not.

Then there are guys who are clearly obviously gay, and yet still don't have an erection. There's a couple of things at play here.

First is that in many cases, when a guy is getting fucked in the ass, the focus is no longer on his dick. It's not about his dick at that point, it's about his ass, and the sensations coming from there. That's why they're doing it, after all. So without the focus, the hardon may tend to droop. Also, especially when it's a particularly big dick, hard fuck or fisting, the bottom has to relax all the muscles in his body so much just to be able to handle it that the hardon droops too then.

I assume the use of a cock-ring is an attempt to forestall this floppage from happening. But not once ever have I seen it actually have the desired effect. If there's a cock-ring, there's no sign of an erection. It's all rather futile.

Of course, then there are those are so turned on by the act of anal anything that they couldn't stop themselves from being rock-hard if they wanted to. Some even manage to orgasm spontaneaously just from anal stimulation without an manual manipulation of their penis.
 

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Some bottoms are just more focused on their asses, not their dicks. It doesn't mean that they are not experiencing pleasure.

Many bottoms (just like many tops) go up and down, especially if the sex lasts longer than, say, 45 minutes; and the average porn shoot takes at least an afternoon per scene. Edging with a constant hardon is something that can take years to perfect.

It's a rare bottom who can stay energetic and focused on the sex after he cums, at least for a bit. Letting it go soft without cumming is much easier than cumming and having the top continue to fuck to satiety.
 

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It depends on the bottom I think. Porn is a different story as, like others have said, sometimes the shoots last for hours and hours or they are not actually gay etc. But yeah, once you are being fucked the sensation is really transferred to your arsehole and your prostate.

If I am getting fucked, I am usually hard. In fact the stimulation of my prostate can make me harder than normal. Like Bbucko said if it is a particularly long session the hardness can fluctuate, but for the most part if I am really into the guy and am having a good time I am hard, especially with a large cock. Maybe I should do porn? lol