Question for the kinky and anxious…..cheating

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by MTHgasm, Aug 12, 2009.

  1. MTHgasm

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    Do you think girls would be able to RELAX BETTER about cheating on their significant other if they kept telling their hook-up they don't want the sex (also foreplay) and to stop doing it better than their significant other and even how horrible the person is for making the girlfriend have sex with them.

    At some point the hook-up will have tell the girlfriend to do what the hook-up says or else and maybe even mock the cheater saying

    "If you keep telling me to stop I might feel guilty and let you go" ; just to make the situation have some sort of sense.

    I think it would help ME become less anxious about her pleasure and how I'm doing.
    I'm sure a lot of people would rather be encouraged more with being told that everything is great and to keep doing what they are doing.

    But some girls are confused have guilt complexes or just plan performance anxiety like me.

    Thanks
     
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  2. D_Mylor Mentallydaft

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    i GUESS there is no guilt in being raped....... not a long list of guys to do it and face the music though
     
  3. MickeyLee

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    are you talking con non-con play?

    *blink* ummm yeah.
     
  4. MTHgasm

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    I'm talking consensual overall
     
  5. Principessa

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    :261: Could you say that in English please? :confused: :irked:

     
  6. IntoxicatingToxin

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    That's kind of where I am right now. Confused.

    All I can say right now is, nothing would make me feel better about cheating. I'd feel guilty regardless.
     
  7. MickeyLee

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    is this in a BDSM type hook-up or some random vanilla get out guilt free card?

    i guess in the moment you can slip the feelings of guilt about betraying your partner, but in the end the act of cheating is a violation of someone's trust. you'll still have to face the person afterward. you'll still have to face the fact that you might not be the person you think you are.

    don't cheat, it's rude. either break up with your current or take steps to open the relationship up to secondary partners.

    as someone into a bit of kinky, the idea of sheltering yourself from responsibility of cheating on your partner with a rape fantasy is kinda annoying.
     
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    its my special need i'm sick i can't help it please forgive me and accept my sickness.... which isn't my fault, nothing is my fault boo hoo hoo..... just pussies too scared to step up and face the firing squad
     
  9. Symphonic

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    No. Really, I'm willing to bet anything you came up with after this particular portion is really, really stupid.
     
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    I never said I needed it. I was just curious.
     
  11. DiscoBoy

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    Agreed. Don't see how anyone in their right mind can justify cheating (perhaps in very extreme cases, but those are rare).
     
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    Then what would be the point of cheating in the first place? If she has a guilty consious to the point that she cant enjoy sex, then she shouldnt be cheating. To tell the hook-up to not be better than her significant other? Then what is the hook-up getting out it? Lousy, guilt-ridden sex? :rolleyes:

    IMHO, the only reason to cheat on someone is if you have every intention of moving on, and soon. The reason it is considered cheating is because the times between partners overlap. And even with that, I still think its wrong. :mad:
     
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    WHAT? :confused:
     
  14. sexplease

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    cheating is only so beacuse of the often assumed notion of monogamy. gotta talk that rule out.
    monogamy is chosen and if it is assumed or forced on another it fails. fails fails fails. period.
     
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