Question For Those Of You Who Manage Other Employees.

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Hey yall,
I've been trying to scratch my brain to figure out a diplomatic way to say "I'm tired of having to pick up the slack of other employees who don't do their jobs."
Basically, a very good friend of mine keeps getting dumped on at work. She is extremely efficient at her job and is teamed up with someone who, for lack of better terms, doesn't do shit.
This friend of mine gets stuck with extra duties, extra students in her classroom, and other tasks as a result.
For example, we're doing testing this week. This friend of mine has a group of students who are known to misbehave, have extra accommodations for testing, etc. Her teammate? Didn't even have to come in to school. Her teammate wasn't given a testing group at all.
That's just one example. But more often than not at my school, if you're good at your job, you get to do the extra work of those teachers who aren't good at their job.

Is there a diplomatic way to approach this without sounding like you aren't a team player?
Is there a way to say, "I feel like I'm being taken advantage of because I always give 100 percent?"
Would you even care that this is how one of your employees feels? Or is this something my friend needs to suck up or look for some other job?


There may not be a way, but I'm trying to brainstorm because I hate that my friend keeps getting dumped on.
No, the friend isn't me. I get dumped on sometimes lol, but not nearly as much as my friend.
 
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The best way I know is to set boundaries, assign tasks, and let my expectations be clear. I set the example of how I want things done. I am kind, but let them know there are consequences for not doing their jobs to the best of their abilities and in a timely manner. Positive feedback is also key. If it’s all hammer the team will break. But I am stern, and my team is amazing. Studying body language and communication styles are really beneficial. Be kind, caring, and fair but also tough. Without boundaries there are folks that will walk all over others and do what they want when they want. Mostly they do it subconsciously and it is just how they learned how to take care of themselves. Unfortunately that behavior will crush a team.
 
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The best way I know is to set boundaries, assign tasks, and let my expectations be clear. I set the example of how I want things done. I am kind, but let them know there are consequences for not doing their jobs to the best of their abilities and in a timely manner. Positive feedback is also key. If it’s all hammer the team will break. But I am stern, and my team is amazing. Studying body language and communication styles are really beneficial. Be kind, caring, and fair but also tough. Without boundaries there are folks that will walk all over others and do what they want when they want. Mostly they do it subconsciously and it is just how they learned how to take care of themselves. Unfortunately that behavior will crush a team.
Thank you for your insight. It's taken two years for my friend to be able to say "No" to this other coworker who basically mooches all of her lesson plans, labs, etc. from my friend. So she has tried to set those boundaries this year. I really appreciate your response!
 
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