Question for those who are in a relationship: How do you and your BF met?

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Given my place that makes it quite impossible to meet gay guys the way straight couples meet each other, I always wonder if it is the same thing in other places or countries.

So, would you kindly tell a story of how you met your BF? Is it through a hookup website? Did you meet him while waiting in line for a cup of coffee? In a class?

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My partner and I met of all places online in Yahoo. We flirted there, then met and starting dating and eventually moved in together.
 

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Met my partner here

Started with a couple of pm's, developed into lot's more pm's, some phone calls, and then we'd spend evenings here on chat. He flew out to visit with me (opposite sides of the US), and a few months later, I flew there and drove him and his stuff back here :biggrin1:

That was about 3 years ago :smile:
 
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Me and my partner actually met in a super close-minded private Nazarene college. We had (and still have) sex almost daily and never got caught once :p Even roomed together with no one the wiser. Anything is possible. :)
 

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Funny, of 4 responses, only one (tmblake) met his partner in real life. Do I assume right that it's also difficult for you to meet guys in real life? Or if it's not especially difficult, maybe it's easier to meet him online?

So far, the only guys I met with online were:

1) rapist (exaggerating I know but he did force me to have anal sex with him and even used physical force)
2) silent freak (claiming that the first date should be very silent as much as possible, talking makes me less attractive, or maybe there's a side of me that looks unattractive when I shut up, I don't know)
3) liars (this is the most common, either by standing me up multiple times and apologizing multiple times too, wouldn't provide a photo and just trolling around, etc.)
4) married guys (one of them said to me that if a gay guy who is above 40 yo and is still not married then there's "something wrong with him")

The other guys who sound very decent are all either taken or not interested in me. Well, maybe it's still early for me to be in a relationship. I'm 26 anyway, so still get a whole life ahead of me.
 

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I was living in Michigan, and decided to go to a Bear event in Chicago...met my partner there, opening night at a social / mixer, who was also on vacation from Toledo.

We dated long-distance for about a year while I finished college (the first time), and then I moved in with him. We'll celebrate 19 years this spring.

Three observations: I do, I really do, understand how cheesy this sounds, yet I still believe it to be true - when you're least looking for it, it will find you.
They say (I'm not sure who "they" are) that one of the best ways to find someone is to have your friends introduce you to someone (meet new friends through established networks).
Lastly, see about any interests you have that are conducive to meeting people - for me, it was my interest in hanging out with Bears...could also be going to the gym, flying model airplanes, or playing Dungeons and Dragons....any hobby is also an opportunity to meet like-minded people, and you've already got something in common right from the start.
 

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I was living in Michigan, and decided to go to a Bear event in Chicago...met my partner there, opening night at a social / mixer, who was also on vacation from Toledo.

We dated long-distance for about a year while I finished college (the first time), and then I moved in with him. We'll celebrate 19 years this spring.

Three observations: I do, I really do, understand how cheesy this sounds, yet I still believe it to be true - when you're least looking for it, it will find you.
They say (I'm not sure who "they" are) that one of the best ways to find someone is to have your friends introduce you to someone (meet new friends through established networks).
Lastly, see about any interests you have that are conducive to meeting people - for me, it was my interest in hanging out with Bears...could also be going to the gym, flying model airplanes, or playing Dungeons and Dragons....any hobby is also an opportunity to meet like-minded people, and you've already got something in common right from the start.

I have heard about finding when you're the least looking for it... I believe that it's true because when you're looking for it, you are more than likely pressuring it, which is not good...

Your observations are very much appreciated. I agree with all of them, especially the last one. But, - I'm not giving excuses - I came from culture that sticks hard to the gender stereotype (e.g. men go fix stuffs and women go cook) and my interests are usually the interests that women have which are cooking, social work (women are more emphatic than men bla bla), window shopping, etc. So, it's quite challenging to find a group that might be attended by gay men who share my interests. This is why I am planning to migrate to a place whose culture is more diverse and more gay-friendly...

BTW, congrats on your anniversary. You're among the lucky ones :)
 

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Re: Question for those who are in a relationship:




Feel Victimized
not being in a relationship ha
NO matter gonna answer anyway

Best partner and i met at Work
He being sensible / cunning enuf to gain

1) Accommodation with me initially

2) A relationship eventually (often one sided- in his favour)

3) He was able to spend his own Money freely ( As well as mine freely) in return i got his Big Cock .
 

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Three observations: I do, I really do, understand how cheesy this sounds, yet I still believe it to be true - when you're least looking for it, it will find you.

That's exactly how it happened to me! I was a college undergraduate when I met my boyfriend and the first time I had seen him was in a classroom. I immediately had a huge crush on him but I was so focused on my classes and other obligations that I didn't approach him; I knew I couldn't dedicate the time I wanted to for a relationship at that time.

For the next 8 months though, we kept on bumping into each other at different places (mostly the library), so when other obligations started to calm down for me I took it as a sign and asked him out. Apparently he had a crush on me for the past 8 months as well but was in the same position as I was, doh! But I think part of the reason why we mesh so well is because we have similar priorities; we were both dedicated to our education and future careers and not actively looking to get into a relationship.
 

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I've told the story of how we met a few times but it's a nice story so I'll post it again. We saw each other in a department store and started flirting with each other and I walked away only knowing his first name. I spent almost a year kicking myself for not getting his full name and phone number. Soon after we were set up on a blind date by a mutual friend. And we lived happily (sometimes bumpily) ever after.
 

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I thank my older sister. I hung out with some of her friends one night (everyone knew I was gay) and her supposedly "straight" friend was acting wayyy tooo nice. He got my cell # and one thing led to another & we started dating..5 years later we still are!!
 

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I stand corrected, more people seem to meet their partner in real life. Nice story guys! In my culture, we have always believed that when you're meant to be, you'll end up with your partner, although that's mostly directed to heterosexual couples. But I guess it works on homosexual couples too.
 

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At the Gay Alliance at The Ohio State University ..Been together for 32 years now...We started a triad relationship 12 years ago and we met him on line..And totally agree with the statement about if you stop looking it will happen...
 
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