JSG: This is my first post here. I found this forum after Googling "unretracted foreskin". Here is the basic problem: I think my boyfriend has an unretracted foreskin. It always covers the head of his penis, whether he is hard or soft. He told me the first time he had sex it hurt so much he and his girlfriend were traumatized and he didn't have sex again for 3 years. He is now 47 and has had about 5 long term relationships since then. We can have sex without pain most of the time, but sometimes one of us will just move the wrong way and he's biting his lip so he doesn't howl. Maybe this will sound weird or selfish but I wish I could see the head his penis sometimes! He is very jumpy about letting me retract his foreskin (he only does it himself in the shower, for hygienic reasons) and during a hand job or a blowjob the foreskin is always covering his glans. I feel like he is so afraid of pain - and the way he describes the pain it sounds awful and extreme - that he won't even try to see if we can work to help this problem, if not solve it completely. I am 28 and North American so this is only my first experience with an uncut penis and I am learning. Is there any technique that can slowly help the foreskin to be able to retract? Technique for me or for him? Is circumcision the only option in terms of solving this? Neither of us wants circumcision - it is his decision, obviously, but I have read so much about possible loss of sensation etc., I do not want that to happen to him. Please if anybody has any experience or information please post it. I definitely want to be more acquainted with this part of him but I don't want to hurt him at all. Thanks.