Question for women regarding bisexual men

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_henry miller, Jan 1, 2011.

  1. B_henry miller

    B_henry miller New Member

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    I was wondering what women on this forum think of bisexual men. Have you, or would you, date one? If so, share your experiences if you care to.

    I ask becasue I am bisexual, and I'm starting to get a sense that for most women out there "a bisexual guy" is basically "a gay guy." In my experience, as soon as a woman learns you are also sexually interested in males, that means you're gay -- and she loses sexual interest in me. It seems to me that virtually no one has a concept of bisexuality, at least where males are concerned. (Men often fantasize about two women, for example. But I don't think women fantasize about two men.)
     
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    I'm not a woman...

    ...BUT, 'a lot' of women actually do find two guys together hot. They're just not as 'OMG, LOOK AT THOSE TWO LESBOS GOING AT IT, IT'S SO HOT!'... as men are.


    ...BUT, I've even heard that a lot of women find bisexual men even MORE sexual attractive. I do believe some even fall for them more easy, almost like a fetisch.


    ...BUT, in my point of view, even as a guy, sure the threat of the partner to have the urge to 'taste the other side' again might be hard, but, in other words this is also true = 'He/She had, as a bisexual person, two genders with so many different and possible people to choose from - but he chose me.'


    =)
     
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    That's what someone said to me at one point. Women tend to like somewhat effeminate men, and this is why they are attracted to bisexual men. Thanks.
     
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    I am not attracted to bisexual men at all... The idea of a 'love interest' also being attracted to men does not appeal to me or my personal life. its enough having to deal with possible other women..not other men as well. Its just too much.

    I can enjoy watching an occasional gay porn movie..yes. But thats mostly because I like looking at hung guys..and I for some reason identify with the bottom ..LOL :).. To see a bunch of dicks flying around can be hot sometimes. But to experience it in person is not appealing for me..

    I like manly guys.. Not neanderthalers..or too dominant, macho types..just manly..Even in gay men I like the more quiet manly types..most of my gay friends are tops.

    I can look at a woman's body and see its beautiful, well shaped etc..but never once have I gotten or experienced a sexual tingle from it.. not once! They just do not bother me at all..no matter if I can see or appreciate their beauty.. Its like I look at them in a more technical way (oh her pussy is a bit big, she's too small, she has great looking boobs..or whatever)

    Many so called straight guys on here..cam, flirt, get huge boners, orgasms or tingles from other guys here by just watching their hard or soft dicks and still claim their 100% straightness..That's weird to me ( even though many say that its only gay if you are able to have a love relationship with someone..uhuh..yeah right ;-))

    I know life is and people are more complex than just the choices they make or the people they sleep with..but in the midst of the chaos in this world or in just my simple ol' life, I feel much more at ease with people who have made clear choices.

    Narrowminded I know..But who says that's a bad thing all of the time..;-)
     
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    Some women do fantasize about two men together. Just as some men fantasize about two women together.

    It doesn't bother me, if the guy is interested in me, I'm obviously who he wishes to be with. I'm not going to walk around wondering if he's interested in a guy, what's the difference in between being interested in a man or a woman? If someone's going to cheat, they're going to. Being bisexual doesn't make it any more or less likely to happen.

    Bisexual is bixsexual, not gay. To me being gay implies that you are only interested in the same sex. Bisexual means you are interested in both. It's a no brainer to me. People can break it down however they wish, who cares?

    I find it interesting and attractive. I would also think he might be alittle more fun and willing to explore things supposedly "straight" guys wouldn't because it would make them gay:rolleyes: (that comes from personal experience with a big nay sayer.)
     
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    Interesting answers. Thanks. For me, I've found that women I'm attracted to, and whom I feel are attracted to me as well, STOP being attracted when they find I'm bisexual. All they can see is that I'm attracted to men as well, and that just means "gay" to them. When someone says they are bisexual, many women seem to think it means they are gay men who occasionally like to play with women's minds just for kicks.
     
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    Why would you approach the woman if you're gay? Just be who you are, the women who don't understand you will find someone else. Eventually you'll meet someone who really doesn't care and enjoys you for being true to yourself.
     
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    I have no preference. I love the person...not their sexuality.
     
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    I think that there are still a lot of taboos surrounding bisexuality in everyday life. Women who deviate and experiment with sex and sexuality, will be the kind of women who do not perceive bisexuals as homosexual. Honestly, if you encounter women who are of that mindset, you have to ask yourself if that's the kind of woman you want to be with.
     
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    I have had this same experience not only with straight women, but gay men. There is a lot of ignorance about bisexuality in our society today. I went to college 30 years ago and it was much worse then than it is today, Maybe in another 20 or 30 years bisexuality will be as accepted and homosexuality is today; but I hope it does not take that long.

    I have been surprised to find many members on this forum that equate bisexuality with being promiscuous. Again this is just ignorance, a persons sexual orientation does not determine if he or she is monogamous or not.

    I was lucking that I found a wonderful bisexual women to share my life with. That maybe the best path for you; explore relationship with women that view bisexuality as an orientation and are bisexual themselves.
     
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    Well it's not secret that Im attracted to bi guys. The thing for me though, contrary to what you said earlier that women like effeminate men, I definitely don't like that. I'm way more attracted to two "regular guys" who happen to like guys and girls. I do find some gay guys attractive if they're well groomed and muscular etc. but for the most part, I am totally attracted to guys who are more masculine. But overall bisexuality does not in any way turn me off.
     
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    Buddy! I am so glad you posted this! I am in the same boat. I am a very masculine 35 year old Bi Male very comfortable with his sexuality. I am VERY sexually active but have not been with a woman in 9 years and I would like to very much! Not since I have been completely OUT as a bi sexual as a matter of fact! Women don't tend to think I am capable of being Bi and that it has to be one or the other and once you have been with men, you are gay.

    I do have a cousin who is a bi female and her boyfriend is a bi male. I don't know their relationship rules at all though. I am actually starting to think heterosexuals understand gay folks better than they do Bisexuals, and Homosexuals don't understand BiSexuals at all!

    I hope this thread sheads some light for us bi guys!
     
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    I'm not concerned if a guy is bisexual or not. I've had a couple of relationships with bisexual men. The issue was not that they were attracted to men, but their inability to remain faithful to me. Both men left me for other women. Recently, I became very close to another man who is bisexual. He was wonderful in everyway - but he left me as well. This time commitment issues.

    The point? Bisexual men are the same as hetero men - they can cheat on you, break your heart or love you. The only difference is that they can enjoy relationships with both genders.
     
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    I would not care if my BF was bi, so long as he was faithful. Like any BF can look at other women and not touch, a bi BF can also look at guys and gals and not touch.
     
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    I actually prefer bisexual guys but have found that it's hard to know who is and who isn't in that many times bi guys aren't obvious in anyway. You have to get to know them to find out. On second thought maybe this is true of bisexual women too. ;-)
     
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    I've discussed this topic with friends before and a few of my female friends have stated that a guy being bi is not necessarily a dealbreaker...they would just want him to be truthful & not deceptive and give them the option to decide if they want to pursue a relationship with him...

    others have stated that they would have no interest in a bi man and if they discovered that a man they were involved with was bi, they would end it & move on....however I've learned that very often ppl's actions are very different from their words...
     
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    I'm with the majority of the other female posters responding to you. It makes no difference to me if a guy is bi. Unfortunately, us LPSG ladies are not necessarily representative.


    Gay porn is hot IMO.
     
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    Being Bi myself I would consider rejecting a man because he himself was Bi (and solely for that reason) hypocritical.
     
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    yes, and it is also why so many people are in the closet
     
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    I sometimes think it is harder to be bisexual than just plain gay. You hear so much about gay liberation, but bisexuals are virtually invisible. It seems that "bisexual bashing" is acceptable, whereas homophobia isn't anymore.
     
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