Question for you guys

[rundry]

there is no difference, cheat with a man, cheat with a woman. what's the difference. that's why is called cheating. My question is, Why cheat, don't get married. stay single and screw whoever you want.

 

[lickme69]

I think it's a little different than cheating with woman, because he is going out for something that he can't get at home. I would be a hypocrite if I said that this was wrong. I had a long term relationship with a married man for several years. He loved his wife and children deeply and they were very well provided for. He and I had an understanding that neither of us wanted a commitment from each other. The sex was great and we are still friends.

It is not different. If you are going after something you cannot get at home, then he needs to get a divorce and seek whatever his heart desires. That is leading a double life and hurting his family to say, "Oh i really love you and the kids, but I really want to plow this guy, so I hope you understand." It does not matter if he did not want a commitment from you, he is married and made vows. He is cheating. That is wrong.

 

[lickme69]

Love, sex and committment can be a very complicated triangle. For some people they are all the same thing, but for others they are each rather different and distinct parts of a relationship. Before my wife and I married I made her fully aware of my desires and needs. My wife's view on this was simple. Loving another person is cheating. Emotional envolement or committment with another person is cheating. Sex with another woman is cheating. Sex with a man was something I needed which she could not provided, so as long as there is no emotional involvement or committment it is ok. As long as it does not effect our life/relationship, I keep it discrete, and I play safe she is ok with it. There are no secretes or surprizes. We have been married 20 years and this works well for us.

That is fine as long as she knows about it and you are not out sneaking around. If it works for your marriage and you have that understanding, then good for the both of you. :smile:

 

[D_CountdeGrandePinja]

well said!

 

[luka82]

I think it's a little different than cheating with woman, because he is going out for something that he can't get at home. I would be a hypocrite if I said that this was wrong. I had a long term relationship with a married man for several years. He loved his wife and children deeply and they were very well provided for. He and I had an understanding that neither of us wanted a commitment from each other. The sex was great and we are still friends.

Been there, done that! (and it was the love of my life)
But then i realised that I`m getting bread crums and I just had to move on.....NO DRAMA....just left:frown1:

 

[Stephenmass]

Honesty is always best and men hiding their true sexual feelings is a symptom of the rampant heterosexism to which we are all exposed and the homophobia that strikes fear into many a man and woman. If people were not so cruel and bigoted, many a queer man would come out a lot quicker.

I agree completely with this statement above. I was married a very short time. At the time I married I looked at guys and knew which ones were nice lookin or hot or whatever. I thought str8 guys did this too so I didn't think much of it. Then as I was married my curiousity of being with one physically did what I call supersurfaced. I HAD TO FIND OUT. So I did. Divorced soon after (with painful honesty as I still love her but not the way she deserves) and now happy; for the record so is she!

 

[RubberHarley]

To me, it is the cheating part that is wrong. It really doesn't make any difference if it is with a man or woman. You are not being honest with your partner, and that is wrong. If you want to do that.... just do it in your brain and not between your legs.