Question: Just how sensitive is your vagina?

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Well I think of hoohas like a mysterious frontier of magical wonders. Can't get enough of it.
Don't tell me you've never been blindfolded and played "guess what my significant other is stuffing inside of me." My ex loved it because, well, she loves big things inside of her. My wife loves it because she's "helpless" to resist the naughty things that I'm doing to her. If she's "helpless," then it's not sinful.
There is a difference between fingers, which have bones, and a 'boner', which does not. Also, fingers have nails, and nails can scratch. If someone female has just come, her interior is very sensitive, full of blood supply engorged tissues. Really, the way you were speaking about stuffing things up your women, one would think you are used to considering a hoohah some sort of magic bag in which a universe can be concealed. Think of it more like the interior of your mouth or nose-- or rectum if you swing that way. Any tissue that secretes is delicate.
What I'm trying to establish is that, why is it possible to feel ejaculation, and presence/lack of foreskin, and yet may not be able to discern the quantity of fingers inserted. Then, after orgasm, fingers of less combined girth than a penis would cause pain, while a thicker penis doesn't.
Ms. Helgaleena is throwing down vag whisperer wisdom here.

plus, finger skin is nowhere near as soft as penis skin *so soft*
even if she is lubricated, the friction can irritate.

is there anything that might be on your hands? harsher soaps, lotions or the like? some things hand friendly are not jenny friendly.

is just her thing, ya know what she likes/doesn't like. ya just gotta go with it. be careful when you pull out. guess the same holds true with fingers.

ya might want to bring in some water based lube. is a lil extra slippery might help.

From the 2 posts above, I'm gathering that it's more of the skin texture, hardness of finger bones, and finger nails that causes the discomfort during removal. So, then any advice for extraction post-orgasm?
I've been trying to get my wife to let me use lube, but she's resistant because she has this stigma that lube and stuff like that is only used by sexual deviants. During her pregnancy, she did allow me to use baby oil to facilitate childbirth preparation stretches, and only because our lamaze instructor told us to. With lube, I managed to get 6 fingers inside of her, which she thoroughly enjoyed (no, I do not have extra fingers on one hand. It was 3 from each). I'm obligated to inform you that it was solely for the purpose of childbirth preparation. Her orgasms were merely unavoidable side effects of said preparation exercises.
So, with lube out of the question, any tips? I tried getting her close, and pulling out all but one finger right before she comes, but that takes away from her orgasm. Would intentionally stretching her out more during the fingering help?
 

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Well I think of hoohas like a mysterious frontier of magical wonders. Can't get enough of it.
Don't tell me you've never been blindfolded and played "guess what my significant other is stuffing inside of me." My ex loved it because, well, she loves big things inside of her. My wife loves it because she's "helpless" to resist the naughty things that I'm doing to her. If she's "helpless," then it's not sinful.

What I'm trying to establish is that, why is it possible to feel ejaculation, and presence/lack of foreskin, and yet may not be able to discern the quantity of fingers inserted. Then, after orgasm, fingers of less combined girth than a penis would cause pain, while a thicker penis doesn't.


From the 2 posts above, I'm gathering that it's more of the skin texture, hardness of finger bones, and finger nails that causes the discomfort during removal. So, then any advice for extraction post-orgasm?
I've been trying to get my wife to let me use lube, but she's resistant because she has this stigma that lube and stuff like that is only used by sexual deviants. During her pregnancy, she did allow me to use baby oil to facilitate childbirth preparation stretches, and only because our lamaze instructor told us to. With lube, I managed to get 6 fingers inside of her, which she thoroughly enjoyed (no, I do not have extra fingers on one hand. It was 3 from each). I'm obligated to inform you that it was solely for the purpose of childbirth preparation. Her orgasms were merely unavoidable side effects of said preparation exercises.
So, with lube out of the question, any tips? I tried getting her close, and pulling out all but one finger right before she comes, but that takes away from her orgasm. Would intentionally stretching her out more during the fingering help?

grape seed oil. *if y'all don't use condoms for birth control*
is loverly stuff, very vag friendly. and most importantly for ya Mrs. not pervie at all. cuz you can buy it in the grocery store :biggrin:

keep a small bottle in the bedroom. introduce her to it with a massage, something sensual and intimate. work around to her lady parts.. keep things strictly external at first. the smoothness is unmatched. once she's comfortable try a finger. if she's still okay, another finger. just keep reapplying as needed, since your skin will absorb the oil.

hmm, trying to think of other tips... take care of ya man mitts. keep'em moisturized. keep the nails trimmed, filed and buffed. a MANicure can't hurt.

knuckles.. ya might be bumping a sensitive area with your knuckles.. try keeping your fingers curved to follow the natural shape of her vag. locking your fingers might make'em pokey. palm up would put the knobby bits of your knuckles against the perineal sponge, is designed to take a bumping during sex. and for heaps of women is turn on.

is mostly taking ya time.. maybe find out what exactly irritates her jenny. if it's pumping your fingers, stick to insertion and massaging the inner walls of her vagina and light stretching. or the flip side. slow ya pace... figure out it out while working it out :naughty:

trial and error can be fun!
 
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Cool thread. For a second I thought I was going to have to go ll wonky doodle with the opposing forces of silliness (I love silliness) and Knowledge seeking (i love that too).

OP: listen to these women. They are the magical sex-gurus/demigods (or goddesses if you prefer the non uni-sexualised version) of LPSG.

Heed their advice.

From a gay guys viewpoint, on a totally different yet kinda similar orifice, I have a hard time with fingers PRE-sex The roughness. The nails. The inflexibility. I sometimes cannot tell how many are in there (well i know the diff between three and greater, but 2-3...not so much...though one to two I can tell, if only cuz two feels better), yet I can tell the difference in feel between condom of bare, and when I was with my ex, i could feel the foreskin roll back. Feel the twitches of him cum. Sometimes the heat, other times not. Not the feel of the cum itself, but the feel of his cock sliding easier, lol. Yet other gay dudes don't have the same list of what they like, can or can't feel.

I will go out on a limb here (well, a pretty sturdy branch) and say that women and their hoohas are as diverse and perplexing as any gay vers/bottom, and his ass. As ML says, learn what works for the woman you are with, and have fun finding it all out.
 

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My vagina is pretty insensitive.
1. N/A never been with uncirced.
2. No.
3. Yes (I think...making mental note to test this soon).
4. Yes and it's irritating and unpleasant.
5. Haven't tried those but I don't imagine it's pleasant.
And Helga & MickeyLee are right, penis skin is so much softer than finger skin.
 

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My vagina is pretty insensitive.
1. N/A never been with uncirced.
2. No.
3. Yes (I think...making mental note to test this soon).
4. Yes and it's irritating and unpleasant.
5. Haven't tried those but I don't imagine it's pleasant.
And Helga & MickeyLee are right, penis skin is so much softer than finger skin.

Yeah, I know about the difference in penis/finger skin. I didn't think it made that much difference. I play a game called "cock, ball, or finger" with my wife. I would poke her in the back or butt (usually at the most inappropriate time, like when she's bendiing over in the fridge, or breastfeeding the baby) with either my dick, scrotum, or finger, and she has to guess which one. It's important to note here that, 1. She's almost 100% right, and 2. She is an unwilling participent in the game.

grape seed oil. *if y'all don't use condoms for birth control*
is loverly stuff, very vag friendly. and most importantly for ya Mrs. not pervie at all. cuz you can buy it in the grocery store :biggrin:

Grape seed oil? Never heard of that, I didn't even know you could make oil out of grape seeds. I know it increases the tannin in wines, but that's another topic.

keep a small bottle in the bedroom. introduce her to it with a massage, something sensual and intimate. work around to her lady parts.. keep things strictly external at first. the smoothness is unmatched. once she's comfortable try a finger. if she's still okay, another finger. just keep reapplying as needed, since your skin will absorb the oil.

Does it get messy, and does it stain fabric? Like, should we bust out my kid's waterproof bed liner before going to town?

I think it would be better if you could give us a demonstration on my wife. That's another thing I've been trying to talk her into...

hmm, trying to think of other tips... take care of ya man mitts. keep'em moisturized. keep the nails trimmed, filed and buffed. a MANicure can't hurt.

I usually keep my nails neatly trimmed, otherwise they get in the way when I play guitar, and I hate getting half my nail ripped off while playing football. Moisturizing is a problem. I'm obsessive compulsive, and wash my hands ALOT, so my hands are always dry, and cracked in the winter. I think it might be the caluses more than anything, but if I cut back on lifting, she doesn't get as turned on. Someone mentioned gloves. Maybe I'll try latex gloves when playing around next time.

is mostly taking ya time.. maybe find out what exactly irritates her jenny. if it's pumping your fingers, stick to insertion and massaging the inner walls of her vagina and light stretching. or the flip side. slow ya pace... figure out it out while working it out :naughty:

trial and error can be fun!

I do take my time, on the way in. She's really tight, and it takes a good 5-10 minutes to work in a 2nd or 3rd finger. I'm fairly gentle once in, at least compared to my ex, who doesn't respond unless I'm practically raking at her insides.

It's on the way out that poses the problem. She's like "I'm going to come...oh, Oh,OH YEAH...ouch ouch ouch, get it out, get it out NOW..."
 

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Yeah, I know about the difference in penis/finger skin. I didn't think it made that much difference. I play a game called "cock, ball, or finger" with my wife. I would poke her in the back or butt (usually at the most inappropriate time, like when she's bendiing over in the fridge, or breastfeeding the baby) with either my dick, scrotum, or finger, and she has to guess which one. It's important to note here that, 1. She's almost 100% right, and 2. She is an unwilling participent in the game.

i know i shouldn't laugh about the last part... but i did. :biggrin1:

the difference is very important. ya need to work on your love mitts, dude.

Grape seed oil? Never heard of that, I didn't even know you could make oil out of grape seeds. I know it increases the tannin in wines, but that's another topic.

is available in the grocery store, just look where ya local keeps the fancy olive oils. don't cheap out, by the good stuff. grape seed oil is very light, not heavy or gloopy. the sensation on skin is perfect slippyslidey.. no skin tug, no catch.

Does it get messy, and does it stain fabric? Like, should we bust out my kid's waterproof bed liner before going to town?

if you use a whole bottle at once, ya might run into problems. a little goes a long way. talking teaspoons. i've never had any problems with staining sheets. if you are worried throw down a sex-sheet before getting slippy. *play sheet - random flat sheet thrown over the bed to reduce "wet spot" sleeping*
I think it would be better if you could give us a demonstration on my wife. That's another thing I've been trying to talk her into...

I usually keep my nails neatly trimmed, otherwise they get in the way when I play guitar, and I hate getting half my nail ripped off while playing football. Moisturizing is a problem. I'm obsessive compulsive, and wash my hands ALOT, so my hands are always dry, and cracked in the winter. I think it might be the caluses more than anything, but if I cut back on lifting, she doesn't get as turned on. Someone mentioned gloves. Maybe I'll try latex gloves when playing around next time.

dude!! this is the problem. guitar callouses are brutal. dry cracked hands.. :eek: dry and cracked are never words to be associated in any way with the vagina. is bad. real bad.

gloves. use gloves when you are lifting. is what good boyfriends/husbands do. the hand washing.. switch over to a milder soap, something with moisturizers built in. use moisturizer after. if you want a happy woman, ya gonna have to work on the OCD.

latex gloves... honestly, i do like the feel of latex gloves... but i like the alien smoothness a partner gets from wearing gloves. most women i've gotten the freaky with do not like gloves. course that doesn't include your woman. she might like the feeling, or at least like the smoothness.

if you opt for gloves, use a non-oil based lubricant instead of grapeseed oil. and you will need lube. latex pulls away natural lubricant, girl lube dries out on the glove, so even if she is uber wet normally, ya will need something extra with gloves.

I do take my time, on the way in. She's really tight, and it takes a good 5-10 minutes to work in a 2nd or 3rd finger. I'm fairly gentle once in, at least compared to my ex, who doesn't respond unless I'm practically raking at her insides.

she might need you to be even more gentle. is there an area she's most sensitive at?

It's on the way out that poses the problem. She's like "I'm going to come...oh, Oh,OH YEAH...ouch ouch ouch, get it out, get it out NOW..."

she's either come down off the sex-no-pain rush, and she's feeling every scratch and rub. or she's hyper sensitive after orgasm. that happens. i use to hook up with an FB, she'd push you away the second she came. anything touching her was too much. not pain really, just more sensation than her body/brain could deal with.

might just be her thing, and there isn't much ya can do than respect her wishes and get the fuck out as promptly as possible. maybe take out one finger at a time, so she's not getting the full three finger stretch on withdrawal?
 

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she's either come down off the sex-no-pain rush, and she's feeling every scratch and rub. or she's hyper sensitive after orgasm. that happens. i use to hook up with an FB, she'd push you away the second she came. anything touching her was too much. not pain really, just more sensation than her body/brain could deal with.

might just be her thing, and there isn't much ya can do than respect her wishes and get the fuck out as promptly as possible. maybe take out one finger at a time, so she's not getting the full three finger stretch on withdrawal?

Thanks for the tips! I've never thought of the "alien smoothness" aspect of gloves, or how they absorb lube.

Between the grape seed oil and gloves, I'll see which I could talk her into. It's "red tide" week so no fun and games. She doesn't get horny enough for anything deviating from vanilla sex until 2 weeks past when she starts (I guess when she's ovulating), so it'll be awhile before I can try.

She is most sensitive near her opening. She grimaces most right when my fingers' 2nd joint is passing through. She's really tight the first couple of inches, and after that, she really opens up. She had 2 natural births in the last 4 years, and I guess kegals don't do anything for deeper inside beyond the pelvic base. I tell her to lay off the kegals, but she wants to stay tight for me.

Guitar callouses isn't the issue...they're on the fingers of my left hand, and I only diddle her with my right. It might be the gym callouses. I can't wear gloves at the gym...they slide, and give me blisters (which means more cracked skin), and don't give me a good enough grip, which is dangerous. Plus I find the direct contact of steel to be more intimate. It's a tactile sensory thing...I prefer to fence without gloves for that reason, because your body can sense a blade striking yours through your fingers faster than your eyes can confirm it.

I'll try to moisturize more often. Thanks for your help!
 

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latex gloves don't mix with grape seed oil. the oil will break latex down... is not good for a vag :tongue1:

second knuckle is usually the widest, boniest points.. sounds like she's experience natural tightening post orgasm. ya might need to experiment more with how soon you pull out, how she dilates after the orgasmic flush passes.

before i tell ya to interrogate ya lady, how does she feel about the post orgasmic ouch? is she satisfied with the immediate withdrawal, is the ouch tolerable? if she's okay with the way things are, ya best bet is to just respect her wishes. too much fuss might fuel some insecurities on her part.

the vagina isn't a long straight tube. is narrower at the opening/bottom... then extends up in the vaginal barrel. anywhere from 3-5 inches, before opening up as you get closer to the cervix, past it, and into the vaginal vault *cul de sac, posterior fornix.

kegels are great for keeping the the whole vagina tone. not just tight. good pelvic floor tone equals better bladder control. another happy part of good pelvic tone, it helps life the uterus up. the most lift, the more more tension, the most tension, the stronger the orgasms. so you should encourage those kegels.

ps. kegels are good for boys too. better ejaculatory control. squeezing the muscle during sex is great for both partners.. umm well, dudes on LPSG can tell you about that one.
 

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before i tell ya to interrogate ya lady, how does she feel about the post orgasmic ouch? is she satisfied with the immediate withdrawal, is the ouch tolerable? if she's okay with the way things are, ya best bet is to just respect her wishes. too much fuss might fuel some insecurities on her part.

That's the tricky part. She wants them out ASAP, but the friction hurts even worse. I have to walk a fine line between taking too long, or being too rough on the withdraw.

kegels are great for keeping the the whole vagina tone. not just tight. good pelvic floor tone equals better bladder control. another happy part of good pelvic tone, it helps life the uterus up. the most lift, the more more tension, the most tension, the stronger the orgasms. so you should encourage those kegels.

Whoh, tone versus tight? There's a difference? You just blew my mind.

That's off topic, so I think I'll start a new thread, at the risk of being rediculed by the entire female population of LPSG.

Thank you for your help so far!

You can come to me anytime if you ever need to know anything about small penises.