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Hey, so i hope i don't get shot down for this.

So I decided to finally get the tape out and check my size, I am without shoving the ruler right into the pelvic bone just a tad over 7" and approx 5.5" in circumference, this in theory should make me a fair bit over average if studies are to be believed.

I am Bi-sexual and have been with around 20-22 men and women , i've never had a falling out a bad word or anything as such with these people - but Why when asked have always been informed that I am the smallest cock they've ever been with (or on that note out of the males the smallest i have been with!)

If for example each of those 20 people had also people with 20 people (just picking numbers here) the odds do not stack up very well!

at 7" i should be a fair bit above average but in my lifetime experience i've only been the smallest...I really do have to question the statistics.

For those who may think my previous partners where being spiteful/hateful - the question/mentioning was NEVER brought up in a hateful, spiteful manner - I usually got something along the lines of " its the smallest I have had but its not the size its how you use it"
 

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No shooting here, but I'm not exactly sure what you're asking. If statistics are wrong and 7" should be considered "small"? If those people might be lying to you and trying to spare your feelings in an odd way? Are you wondering why those partnerships may have ended, despite decent dick size and technique?

7" is well above average for the general population, but it might not be for the specific one that you hook up with. Perhaps they prefer larger, which might be one of the reasons they wanted you in the first place. Doubtful if penis size was the only "deal-maker" or "deal-breaker" for them, and hopefully it's not for you, either. You might never know exactly why things ended. Maybe they'll never tell you the whole truth -- if they even know for sure. Perhaps they wanted something temporary and you wanted more. Few people really know what/who they want, why they want, or are consistent with it. Trying to figure out ourselves is challenging enough, much less understanding and making a real, lasting connection with others who might be as confused as we are.

I wish I could give you a better answer.
 

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Sorry my question want relating to why we broke up, a lot where amicable and mural split ups.

My question is, if 7" is well above average how put of 20 people am I the smallest, statistically this doesn't add up.

My question is more aimed at how true the statistics are... At least in the UK.

Surely out of 20 people I've been with I should've been at least the same or bigger than one of each of their partners to be considered above average.
 

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Why should it even matter.... It’s better to have good dick than big dick
What he said.

Again, the "pool party" of those 20 dicks is probably a lot more skewed to the large size compared to the "ocean" of the average size. If you went to a Mensa meeting, you wouldn't be shocked to find people there with the 130+ IQs required for membership, right? Like Mensa, the group you hang with might prefer people at 2+ SDs (standard dick deviations) above the mean. You're right on the cusp, but that's nothing to shake a dick at. :p

You can still be gifted among geniuses, but by comparison to them you won't feel like it. Try to not to focus on such a single, silly metric that you can't do much about.
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Because its a big driver in my confidence (or now lack of) depression and suicide attempts - so it matters to me.

But based on your reply i do not expect you to understand that.

Well as someone quite smaller than you (I'm a thin 6" with about a 4.25-4.5 girth)...I'd love to have one your size. Everything is relative my friend and just cause some people are bigger doesn't mean that far more aren't smaller.
 
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Because its a big driver in my confidence (or now lack of) depression and suicide attempts - so it matters to me.

But based on your reply i do not expect you to understand that.
I think most of us understand what it's like to feel unwanted, regardless of our dick sizes. I'm not sure why you asked the people you were with how you compared, and why they told you what they did. Both seem like a recipe for needless pain.

I'm very sorry you've felt rejected and that others don't understand what you're going through. At times, we all tend to believe if we just had some missing piece or person our lives would finally be complete and happier. Maybe you're setting yourself up for failure and fueling your own insecurity because even as miserable as it likely makes you, this rut is what you know. Focusing on something you can't really change like you dick prevents you from really seeing or working on those more sensitive aspects of yourself that you can change.

It's possible that you're sabotaging your chances for happiness by subconsciously picking unavailable people who will treat you bad and ultimately reject you. I've been there... Without realizing it, I was trying to repair early childhood trauma by re-creating it. I have no idea if the same is true for you, but I do know that uncovering and addressing what's actually causing you the most pain is something you will need to do with a therapist.

In the meantime, please try not to blame yourself more because you somehow idolize those who dumped you. They are not too good for you. Based on their apparently oblivious way of sharing how you were the smallest, they might not be good people at all. You are better off without them in your life.
 

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I think most of us understand what it's like to feel unwanted, regardless of our dick sizes. I'm not sure why you asked the people you were with how you compared, and why they told you what they did. Both seem like a recipe for needless pain.

I'm very sorry you've felt rejected and that others don't understand what you're going through. At times, we all tend to believe if we just had some missing piece or person our lives would finally be complete and happier. Maybe you're setting yourself up for failure and fueling your own insecurity because even as miserable as it likely makes you, this rut is what you know. Focusing on something you can't really change like you dick prevents you from really seeing or working on those more sensitive aspects of yourself that you can change.

It's possible that you're sabotaging your chances for happiness by subconsciously picking unavailable people who will treat you bad and ultimately reject you. I've been there... Without realizing it, I was trying to repair early childhood trauma by re-creating it. I have no idea if the same is true for you, but I do know that uncovering and addressing what's actually causing you the most pain is something you will need to do with a therapist.

In the meantime, please try not to blame yourself more because you somehow idolize those who dumped you. They are not too good for you. Based on their apparently oblivious way of sharing how you were the smallest, they might not be good people at all. You are better off without them in your life.

Im not saying I disagree with what you are saying; however, I think the issue is his size...His partners said he Was the smallest but the way I read it , they said he satisfied them...so he must be doing something right... 7 Inches is not small at all... The average size is 5.3 inches..

One can’t be mad/upset by getting an answer they don’t like .... He opened the door and his partners walked right through it...If size is the focal point of ones confidence then prepare yourself for disappointments..
 
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If he/we accept that he's supposedly the smallest his partners have had yet he satisfied them, then satisfying them didn't depend on having a bigger dick. The fact that those ~20 people didn't immediately bail upon seeing it or the rest of him is even greater evidence that it's not really the problem.

Mystery solved, right? Clearly not. If someone told me I satisfied them but they were still breaking up with me, I'd wonder if they were lying and trying to let me down easier. If I supposedly satisfied them, then why are they breaking up with me? Did the others with bigger dicks satisfy them more than me? You can drive yourself crazy with questions like this that have no "right" answers. Hate, blame and shame only seem to exist to fuel themselves and won't lead to real understanding or resolution. Dwelling on what you can't change or control is like trying to fill a bottomless pit -- pointless and exhausting. But we all do it, anyhow.

A good therapist can help us get out of some ruts and guide us away from the traps that keep us stuck repeating the same bad stories with the same crappy endings.
 

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Sorry for the late reply.

yes sexual sanctification was never the issue via other methods, fingers, tongue etc - I am even in a long term relationship now (but even she has said she would prefer it was bigger so often resort to other methods of pleasure)

I understand dwelling on it doesnt help but its a lot easier said than done when its been hammered into you so much.

My issue is i struggle to beleive the average is 5-6" (cira) because how can I be the smallest if im allegadly over average and still be the smallest of that many people - the odds just dont stack up?

either that or im super unlucky!
 
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I think averages are higher too, btw. I think 7-7.5 is more the avg out there. I'm 6" and probably 90% of the guys I've been with are bigger than myself.
 
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I think averages are higher too, btw. I think 7-7.5 is more the avg out there. I'm 6" and probably 90% of the guys I've been with are bigger than myself.

You trust anecdotal evidence that is sampling specifically who is out hooking up more than you do actual studies??
 
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My issue is i struggle to beleive the average is 5-6" (cira) because how can I be the smallest if im allegadly over average and still be the smallest of that many people - the odds just dont stack up? either that or im super unlucky!

I had my best friends take a look at your thread and we talked it over and came up with the following.

1) Your exes are misremembering just how big their exes really were. A couple of years ago I ran into a guy and a girl I went to high school with. They are married now, but I was intimate with each of them separately back then. We ended up having a threesome and during it I realized just how distorted my memory was about them. I could have sworn both his dick and her tits were a couple of sizes bigger than what they actually are. I don't know why I remember them as being bigger, but I do.

2) Your body type hides some of your length and so your dick appears smaller than it really is. This is the case with one of my best friends. He's not fat by any means, but he has a very solid, thick build from top to bottom (the rest of us say he's just one giant muscle). As a result, his penis appears to be sub-5", and for most of his life he actually thought he was that small. But once we read how you are supposed to measure penis length, we remeasured him and it turns out he's really just over 6".

3) Your exes are lying to you. I know you say that you are on good terms with most of them, and that may be true overall. But my friends and I suspect at least some of them are intentionally lying to you for one reason or another. Either they are lying to you about just how big their past partners were, or they are lying to you about just how big they like their partner's penis to be. As someone who is on the longer side the spectrum, I've lost track of the number of times I've had to settle for a partial blow job and/or a hand job because they can't take my cock in their pussy/anus/mouth. Even worse are they times they've completely stopped what we were doing, refusing to even hand job me to completion. And I know one guy who is about my size whose marriage ended less than a year after they were married because she couldn't handle his dick size (they weren't intimate until after they were married so she had no clue).

4) My friends and I do believe the averages are correct. My other two friends are your size (7 to 7.5 inches). They tell me that the vast majority of guys they've been with have been smaller than they are. Even the friend who is just over 6" says at least 50% of the guys he's been with have been smaller than he is. But we also realize where and how the pickup occurs seems to make a difference. When we go out of a bar, club, or party, the guys tend to be on the bigger side. But most of the guys we pick up during the course of our daily lives tend to be on the smaller side.

5) Please, please, please don't let what other people tell you about your penis size affect your confidence. I know firsthand how difficult this can be. Despite being 9" hard, I have the smallest flaccid cock of anyone I know. It's barely two inches. In fact, the head of my penis completely retreats inside the rest of the skin of my penis when flaccid, and that's even with being circumcised. In Junior High, the other P.E. students would tease me in the showers that my penis was really an outie pussy (like an outie belly button, just a pussy in this case). The teasing got so bad that when I would get intimate with someone, I wouldn't allow them to take off my pants until I was at least half-hard. And the moment I came? My pants went back on before my penis could retreat inside my body. I became so very self-conscious of my flaccid cock that I started refusing to get naked around my best friends despite the fact that they already knew just how much bigger I was erect than they were. Even today I'll occasionally have a partner comment about how small my penis gets after sex. Thankfully I learned that my flaccid outie pussy is a part of who I am. There's nothing I can do about it. So if someone I just had sex with wants to make a comment about it, then I'll happily ensure they don't ever have to see it again.

I really hope that some of what my friends and I have said here helps you, Craig. You are not abnormal. You are not small. Even if 7 - 7.5 inches is truly average, then you are still as big or bigger that the majority of people in the world. Stop asking your present and past partners about it. If a partner says they aren't feeling fully satisfied in bed, work with him or her on ways the two of you can make things better. And if someone you're intimate with puts your penis size down? Dump them. They don't deserve you.
 
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You trust anecdotal evidence that is sampling specifically who is out hooking up more than you do actual studies??
No. I'm just stating my experience. Been with over 100 guys. So in a way...I guess it is a bit of my own personal study.
 

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Some people simply refuse to feed our egos by being honest. It's easier for them to keep us in check if they lie and don't feed our egos.

I'm 7 - 7.5 × 6 depending on how horny I am and how long it's been since I last had sex. Know one has to tell me I'm above average. I already know I am and I'm thankful for what I've got.

Hearing you've got a big dick is a confidence booster, but at this stage in the game I've already made them orgasm multiple times and I know I've satisfied them. That's the best confidence booster. Knowing I've succeeded at making love to them and given them a good fucking is all the ego boost I need.
 

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Ok since I am careing less and less of what people think on here about me. I am gonna start just shooting from the hip for a bit

Hmmmmm let’s think . According to studies that are not self measured a 7 inch dong is about 1 in 100. https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2015/03/how-big-average-penis

So let’s assume that this is an imperfect study and a 7inch dick is 1 in 10



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o the probability of you being the smallest of 20 partners is astronomical low

lottery odds are better by a damn sight

so this is ether the most improbable thing to ever happen or the dude is measuring wrong

(although we all no the correct way to measure a penis... people people... it’s from the anus to 2 inches past the tip)

So let’s do a bit of guessing the odds for a bet

what are the odds that he’s actually the smallest

what are the odds he has slept with twenty LIARS bent on making him feel small

what are the odds that a guy who can operate a computer... find dick stats...and find this website... yet is totally unable to use a ruler in any fashion

or somebody is trying to fuck with you on the internet... or fish for some kinda sph .., or try to “prove” there are a lot of huge ducks

Also side note... look at the 10 inch thread.., you will find very few varifiable 8 inches

yet all this guys partners are!!!!
 
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