Question Regarding Size

[AVx22]

Unless there is an international database of every man on this planet and their dick sizes I would advise against you or anyone else stating what percentile you are in...These studies are at its best inconclusive and at its worst straight up bullshit

I do agree that many of the studies are flawed, especially the BJUI of 15,000 men. I went in depth with those studies and have found so many inconsistencies. The study even explains the limitations and flaws. There are quite a lot, noticed and unnoticed.

Instead of an average, I think a range is better: 5 - 7 inches with outliers on either end, and 90% of men between 5-6 inches.

 

[merc41]

You are a large man, both in girth and length. But not huge!

The only best option would be for her to see a doctor.

But, since you came here for advice: how much do you engage in other sexual activities like oral sex? Are you performing oral on her to arouse her to the point where she can take your penis?

I don't think she realizes how big I am. I try to engage in all things sexual. Oral,vibes,lubes etc.etc. Have always thought if she enjoyed it more it would reflect in her attitude towards sex. It hasn't but the threat of getting sex elsewhere has. Like I said she never thought it was so easy until I showed her.

 

[MDM8]

I never really knew or believed I was big either, but understand that a lot of statistics say differently. My wife knows I’m big and has said stuff to friends, but I don’t think she knows how big it is statistically.
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[deleted716371]

Just like you, I didn't really understand my size until I came here. And you are big for sure, but my experience tells me that most women can take a bigger cock. It might just take a little more time and really getting her willing, wet and opened up for you. That typically means she has to be relaxed and feel comfortable. Can it be that she has felt pain before? Or that some other factor makes her unable to relax? Are you able to talk to her about it? Maybe her being on top and in control will make it more safe for her and you can work from there? I wish you all my luck!

 

[MDM8]

Just like you, I didn't really understand my size until I came here. And you are big for sure, but my experience tells me that most women can take a bigger cock. It might just take a little more time and really getting her willing, wet and opened up for you. That typically means she has to be relaxed and feel comfortable. Can it be that she has felt pain before? Or that some other factor makes her unable to relax? Are you able to talk to her about it? Maybe her being on top and in control will make it more safe for her and you can work from there? I wish you all my luck!

 

[MDM8]

Thanks for the feedback gmannen,
You are totally on with the advice. I’ve learned that it just takes a lot of foreplay and getting her really turned on - which is great, and lots of fun. Then she is ready to take it.
Thanks for the positive vibe.

 

[merc41]

Thanks for the feedback gmannen,
You are totally on with the advice. I’ve learned that it just takes a lot of foreplay and getting her really turned on - which is great, and lots of fun. Then she is ready to take it.
Thanks for the positive vibe.

Like I said lube,lube and more lube. Take it slow and make sure she knows you love her and it's as much about her pleasure also

 

[BillM]

Having been with lots of guys I would say You are in the 90% plus range not sure if 99% is correct or maybe the little guys just do not go out and get hooked up!! I am 7 1/2 by 6 1/4 and have been with many guys that are larger!!

 

[VIIby5]

Unless there is an international database of every man on this planet and their dick sizes I would advise against you or anyone else stating what percentile you are in...These studies are at its best inconclusive and at its worst straight up bullshit

I vote straight up bullshit. Especially if those studies are bone pressed.

 

[keeper37]

To OP, I strongly suggest you watch the 2004 movie "Kinsey", an R-rated (non-porn!) major motion picture which deals with the whole issue of penis size, vaginismus, and the historic birth of the field of human sexuality that began in the 1950's (including the first organized measuring of American phalluses). Amazon has it for 13 bucks (I checked). It's extremely entertaining and informative. I also think if you can possibly watch it as a couple, it could break the ice and allow your wife to possibly "enter the conversation" (i.e., give permission to discuss) in a nonprurient manner.

Second, lube lube lube and lube. And maybe give lube a try!

Third, your wife should be under the care of a gynecologist for regular pap smears, breast exams and x-rays, etc... (If not, then start tomorrow!) It would be entirely appropriate for you to accompany your wife to an exam and speak with her doctor directly. You can do this with or without your wife present based on her preference. You just need to mention "I'm on the large side and she gets vaginismus." The doctor can address this common issue directly and put aside any concerns about (her) anatomy while offering specific techniques and remedies to resolve this. I really think her doctor needs to be made aware of the problem, even if you are the one to mention the problem to her doctor. Even if she only sees a family doc for these exams, he will be very familiar with this issue and its solutions. I wish you both the best.

 

[witoutit]

I'm a straight male who really is interesting in getting some questions answered. I saw this site and thought I might get a few answers. Answers is all I'm after.

I'm older and from a fairly religious community. I married a virgin as a virgin so my wife has never seen other penises upon which to base a comparison. Guys see each other in locker rooms, but everyone's flaccid. I've never seen another man's erect penis in real life.

The point is: neither of us would ever know what constitutes a large penis.

We've had sexual trouble from the get-go and "fit" appears to be the majority of it. I read about vaginismus online and concluded that's probably the cause. I never thought for a second I might be the cause. Until now.

I just measured myself for the first time ever. I'm 7.125" in length and 5.75" in girth. This site tells me I'm in the 99th percentile, which I find ASTOUNDING.

I'm reluctant to go to a urologist just to get an answer. Sure, he can tell me where I fall on the spectrum, but he's not going to be able to do anything about it.

Real answers, please. Not interested in a hookup, gay or straight. Just want to know if I really have been the problem all along.

I've asked myself that same question most of my adult life and still have yet to have a definitive answer. As they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it seems the same goes for the size of a man's dick. And women are of little help in clearing up this question as I've found. The ones who will even discuss the subject at all will give general, unspecific answers that don't incriminate her or insult you.