Questions for Bi-Guys

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  1. earllogjam

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    I once considered myself bi during my denial phase in which I actively sought girlfriends for sex but I realized that it was just a stop for me on the way to Gayville so I don't understand what is really feels like to be bi.

    I have a few questions that I always wondered about bi-guys. Perhaps you can oblige me..


    1. Is the gay part of your life always take a back seat to the straight part? Is this why most bisexual guys I know are married to women - just because it is easier?

    2. Is it hard developing friendships with either sex because the sexual attraction always gets in the way of developing any platonic relationship.

    3. Is your sexual attraction to each sex remain constant or does it wax and wane? If it does change why does it do so?

    4. Have you been bisexual all your life? or have there been periods in your life when you have been exclusively straight or gay?

    5. What do you get off on about having sex with a woman that you don't get with a man and visa versa?
     
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    1. Is the gay part of your life always take a back seat to the straight part? Is this why most bisexual guys I know are married to women - just because it is easier?

    I have been sexually attracted to other guys. I have only wanted long-term relationships with women. If I felt driven to have a steady committed relationship with another guy, it might be different.

    2. Is it hard developing friendships with either sex because the sexual attraction always gets in the way of developing any platonic relationship.

    Not for me. I have felt sexual feelings for some friends of both sexes that I could not act on for different reasons. If you want people to stay friends, you just deal with it.

    3. Is your sexual attraction to each sex remain constant or does it wax and wane? If it does change why does it do so?

    For me, it can change from day to day. Some days, I stare at tits all day long and don't think about guys. Other days, I find myself checking out other men.

    4. Have you been bisexual all your life? or have there been periods in your life when you have been exclusively straight or gay?

    I have had one guy friend who I got sexually involved with. The sex was hotter to me as a concept than in actuality. He was a buddy I really liked being with and being close with, but the sex was not all that great. With women, it's just been more automatic and satisfying.

    5. What do you get off on about having sex with a woman that you don't get with a man and visa versa?

    Sex with a woman has been more satisfying all around. I think about both men and women when I jerk off, but really only have enjoyed sex with women and can't really picture enjoying sex with another guy that much. I wish, however, that I had a buddy that I was close enough to that we could jerk off together watching porn. Not looking for a quick hookup; just wish I had that kind of friend.
     
  3. Principessa

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    Excellent Questions! I can't wait to see how this thread pans out. :cool::smile:
     
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  5. earllogjam

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    Any other bi guys out there. Yoohoo.
     
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    1. Does the gay part of your life always take a back seat to the straight part? Is this why most bisexual guys I know are married to women - just because it is easier?
    I find easier acceptance with people, especially other male friends, if I'm with a woman. The relationship that I crave right now is with a man, but...

    2. Is it hard developing friendships with either sex because the sexual attraction always gets in the way of developing any platonic relationship.
    Actually, for me it's easier to have a friendship with a woman because it just seems like they're always easier to talk to. Also i've yet to find a man that will listen to me the way a woman will. Kudos to the women!!

    3. Does your sexual attraction to each sex remain constant or does it wax and wane? If it does change why does it do so?
    I'm mostly attracted to the personality, and bodies I have to admit, but mostly personality. It's all in how the person handles him/her-self. My ideal man is - Joe Black (played by Brad Pitt). But to answer your question more directly, it does wax and wane. I'm not certain why. I guess I'm still trying to figure that out.

    4. Have you been bisexual all your life? or have there been periods in your life when you have been exclusively straight or gay?
    There have been periods where I wanted nothing to do with women, and lately I just can't seem to keep away from them. The same could be said for men. When I was first struggling with my sexuality I thought at the time I was gay, but then, at times I was really attracted to certain women. It was very confusing. And now that I feel most people think that a relationship with a bi-guy is a waste of time, it really only confuses me more. It makes me question why I am the way I am.
    5. What do you get off on about having sex with a woman that you don't get with a man and visa versa?
    I get off by seeing how much pleasure and mind-numbing extacy I can give him/her. So theres really nothing in particular that I can think of for him/her.
     
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    You seem to suggest that there's a zero-sum relationship between being involved with one sex, and being involved with the other. That's not necessarily true. If anything, the fact that I'm involved with a woman right now sometimes makes me more attractive to some men, and I've certainly not been any less active in the LGBT community because of it. Now I'll admit that social pressure makes it easier for people to make assumptions about my different-sex relationship, which often leads me to be more open about being bisexual, so that people don't think that we're a "normal" couple (whatever that means).

    Um, no. I don't think I think that way. If you ask my friends, they'll tell you I'm one of the more gregarious guys they know.
    Over time, I've realized that gender simply doesn't correlate with my attractions. What I used to notice is that pretty much as soon as I saw a guy that I thought was attractive, I might also notice a girl that was attractive, too, or vice-versa.
    Pretty much been bisexual since I was a teenager.
    Um, they are different from each other? (And some men are different from other men, and some women from other women.) Past that - just when I think I have a "type" I like, I find that I have all sorts of exceptions to that rule. Pretty much gave up and concluded that some people were hot, others not.
     
  10. Northland

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    Sure.


    Easier than what? Do you really think it's all that easy to be having sex with a woman and suddenly having the image of a naked man rush through your head and you still have to call her by her name?

    I develop friendships quite the same way most heterosexual males do with women and homosexual men do with men-it is not all about sex. I have some very close male friends who are heterosexual and I have no interest in them sexually- I don't even desire to see them undressed. The same holds true from me towards women.

    I tend to have more sexual interest in men; however, there are women who just charge my battery when they slink by, making it difficult to walk. It has been very much the same level for as long as I can remember.

    Before I knew that there was anything other than heterosexual; I considered myself hetero. Even as I had sex with men the first times, I believed myself to be heterosexual and that this was what all men did- I have no idea how or where I had picked up that insane idea. For a brief time- from about 19 until 25, I was exclusively gay and then I realized one morning as I awoke from a night of passion and sex with Arlene, that I obviously wasn't completely gay. After that I have been bisexual at all times, even engaging in couples bonding (sex with me and a male/female couple).

    With a woman there is always the lurking fear of getting her pregnant (I trust no form of birth control completely), not exactly something I enjoy getting from a woman. The sex with women is exciting and intensely enjoyable; but, so is sex with men. If I am into a person enough to have sex with them, it all seems to balance out rather evenly. One thing a man gives me that a woman doesn't is the wonderful feel of razor stubble on their face against my face or even more thrilling a beard or mustache- or both! A woman offers a softer silkier feeling body and has curves and depths and places where I cannot ever go with a man. A man has a penis which I can grab hold of and fondle and feel it getting hard which tells me immediately he is having fun-it's something that takes more work for finding on a woman as the necessity of a clitreausre hunt is involved (which has it's own merits:smile:). A man usually has rougher tougher and larger hands and his deep growl is an added turn on as well as their chest and back hairs. Too many positives for both men and women- although, as I indicated, I do lean towards men a little more. Lastly, one thing I get from a man that no woman has ever given me, is the feel of his penis as it orgasms inside of me- either during anal sex or through a blowjob. Something about that just sends me over the edge.
     
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    1. Is the gay part of your life always take a back seat to the straight part? Is this why most bisexual guys I know are married to women - just because it is easier?

    I am not married so M2M sex ranks equally with hetero-sex.

    2. Is it hard developing friendships with either sex because the sexual attraction always gets in the way of developing any platonic relationship.

    No. Three of my best friends that I've known since HS are also my best fuck buddies.

    3. Is your sexual attraction to each sex remain constant or does it wax and wane? If it does change why does it do so?

    There are times that all I want to do is eat and fuck a nice pussy while playing with her tits. Other times, all I want is pit, tit, crotch and cock play with another guy. Am a big switcher, but don't ask me why.

    4. Have you been bisexual all your life? or have there been periods in your life when you have been exclusively straight or gay?

    Before I was 17, only had sex with chicks. Then in a drunken stupor, had sex in college with 2 seniors on the swim team my freshman year. Since then I can go either way.

    5. What do you get off on about having sex with a woman that you don't get with a man and visa versa?

    With a woman, I love easting pussy, tit fucking and if a second guy is involved, DP is a big turn-on. With my buds, 69ing is much better plus we're all tit, pit, crotch and cock sluts so body hair on another guy is nice.
     
  12. earllogjam

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    Thanks for your responses Krispdx, xgx2007, Badger, Northland, Primal Savage. It has cleared up a few things for me and confirmed other things.

    Are any more bi-guys out there that can add to this to clear up a lot of mystery and myths associated with being bi for everyone here?
     
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    Seems like a lot of the bi guys on here are on the same spectrum as me but a little different:

    1. Is the gay part of your life always take a back seat to the straight part? Is this why most bisexual guys I know are married to women - just because it is easier?

    Yes it is always backseat. I am a married male, with a wife who knows about my bisexuality and who doesn't want to participate in threeways. Thus she allows me a certain number of indiscretions. But all of it is prefaced with the need for safety, to protect me (my profession), my wife (her health, profession and such), and my kiddos. I wouldn't say it's "easier" to be with a woman, but I just happened to meet the woman who absolutely gets me. Something I haven't found in a guy ever.

    2. Is it hard developing friendships with either sex because the sexual attraction always gets in the way of developing any platonic relationship.

    Harder for me to develop friendships with guys. My wife is the ONLY woman I want. She is perfect, with a great balance of beauty, personality, care, and sex drive. I have occasional female friends who I develop minor "crushes" on but it never amounts to anything. I wouldn't risk my marriage for another woman. It is difficult with guys because I have to constantly gauge their interest in my life as simply friendship or if they get the 'dar from me and are interested in something else.

    3. Is your sexual attraction to each sex remain constant or does it wax and wane? If it does change why does it do so?

    I think it really was outta wonk in my early days (teens). For about a year in Jr. High, I was sure I was gay and drooled over the guys in my PE class. But there was always one or three girls who I was deeply head over heels for. Since meeting my wife, it's been more women than men on the attraction meter.

    4. Have you been bisexual all your life? or have there been periods in your life when you have been exclusively straight or gay?

    Guess I answered that above. But I think since college I've been more balanced in my bisexuality.

    5. What do you get off on about having sex with a woman that you don't get with a man and visa versa?

    With women (read: my wife) its the softness of her back and butt, the smooth curves of her body drive me WILD!! I could spend hours licking on the small of her back after sex. With men it's the animalistic nature of it all. I hate to admit it, but usually with men it's a "Wham, Bam, Thank You Man" type feeling. The hair, sweat, smell really turn me on. And usually I run home, shower and go for seconds with my wife... :)

    I can imagine that a lot of you will say I'm fucked up because I'm married and doing this... and I don't deny you your position. I just wanted to be truthful.
     
  14. earllogjam

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    Appreciate your honesty and responses AZBiGuy. I don't think you are fucked up because I certainly can relate to being between a rock and a hard place because of one's sexal orientation. It's nice to know your wife is open and accepting of your sexuality.
     
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    Thanks...

    And now that that's out of the way, can I molest you incessantly, earllogjam????? Pleeeeeeeze? :biggrin1:
     
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    Well, I like to think of myself more as a dinner and date kind of guy. :tongue:
     
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